Losing You Hair In Your 30's And Self Image

[Rudiger]

It's great to see Fred's crazy made up theories are finally being confirmed by his crazy made up bullshit.

 

[g.i joey]

gtfoh with that "oh losing hair in 20's is easier because you could get used to it by the time your older". NO wtf, losing hair young is equivalent to being a 36 year old man placed in a highschool full of teens.

After 30 its a given that people will start balding, girls know that if at this point they're looking for a man, chances are he will be bald or have some degree of hairloss.. most girls in their late teens early 20's dont even consider a man without a hairline.

 

[Rudiger]

Where did someone write that? I find that ridiculous, even though losing hair at any age is sh*t, late teens or early 20's has to be the worst. It would be like youth being sucked out of you at a time when you should feel like a kid who doesn't have to worry about such a thing.

Out of college or mid-20's I mean, it all sucks, but then you're in the real world anyway.

 

[Exodus2011]

Where did someone write that? I find that ridiculous, even though losing hair at any age is sh*t, late teens or early 20's has to be the worst. It would be like youth being sucked out of you at a time when you should feel like a kid who doesn't have to worry about such a thing.

Out of college or mid-20's I mean, it all sucks, but then you're in the real world anyway.

preach it. ain't dat the truth

despite me being bitter about them losing it later than me, i can't deny its still losing it at the end of the day. just losing it sucks

 

[CaptainForehead]

im reclaiming baldness teasing, not directly participating in it

like when girls call each other hoe or sl*t or black people call each other the n word.

Oh please, admit it, you're jealous of Fred.

I am.

I am also happy for you Fred.

 

[Exodus2011]

Oh please, admit it, you're jealous of Fred.

I am.

I am also happy for you Fred.

lol naw he has been on this young man's hair loss journey too. i can't hate. i'm proud.

btw i wonder how hair piece man is doing? lol

 

[F2005]

apparently happiness is largely genetic

This is a very interesting thought. I know a guy who is incel, is NW6, and wears a toupee. Yet he is one of the happiest, nicest people I've ever met. Obviously his feelings and emotions are not the norm, but I really wonder if he is somehow more genetically prone to happiness.

On the other hand though, I do believe that life experiences and satisfaction with your own life play a huge role in one's happiness. If a person looks good and/or has a steady girlfriend, their level of happiness is bound to improve tremendously. And one's tolerance of bad situations will also improve. For instance, it's been hotter than hell where I live lately and I complained about it to a friend. He responded something like "man, you're always complaining." If I was a full-haired, happy man with a steady girlfriend and confidence and satisfaction in my looks, I'd just take the extreme heat in stride and endure it. But when you're suffering from an incurable physical condition that drastically f*cks up so many aspects of your life, then even the smallest things can cause you to snap.

Exodus though, I do have a lot of respect for you. You're not coming on here bitching about the most minimal hair loss, and your complaining (for lack of a better term) is truly warranted and justified. No one should have to go bald in high school, nor endure any ridicule for it. I really hope you make it through this man. If you look through some of my past posts, you'll see about my old friend who also started balding in HS, yet he now has a hot wife and a successful life. I truly wish I could be like him, but according to that snippet that I quoted from you, maybe he is more genetically prone to happiness and "getting over things" than I am.

 

[resu]

You will find more often than not that they're also the dumbest people around. The less you know the happier you are.

I have too much awareness, which doesn't help in finding and feeling happy.

 

[shookwun]

lol A

You will find more often than not that they're also the dumbest people around. The less you know the happier you are.

I have too much awareness, which doesn't help in finding and feeling happy.

Personal awareness can be self-destruction for some

I was at my most happiest when I was ignorant, blind and deluded of my own values, and perception.

 

[CaptainForehead]

I thought about him recently too. Especially when nameless was advocating wearing lifts in the shower so the girl won't know.

I'm pretty sure ALL the oldtimers were thinking about HPM in that thread. What a character, I wonder what happened to him?

 

[cocohot]

This is why I always make the point that we are all insane on this forum. I know it annoys h.l. when I say that but it's true.

7 billion people on this planet, english is the universal language, but we 10 or so posters are the only regulars on this forum. There are only 1 or 2 more hairloss forums and they're not much busier.

I'm the only person among all people I know who apparently obsess so much over his appearance.

And I'm not talking about lifting (obviously). But I always want to make sure that I'm at my ideal weight, that I don't have acne (still taking vitamin A to keep it under control), that my teeth are white, that my hair is buzzed so I look great and not like a thinning grandpa, that my clothes fit, etc.

When everything about me looks perfect, like the image I have in my head, I'm happy and ready to conquer mountains. But as soon as I have one zit on my forehead, that I let myself go a little, or that I let my hair grow more than two weeks, I feel like utter crap.

Other people, they don't care, and you can see it. And I still think they're wrong, even though they seem happier in their "ignorance". A lot of them just take it too far. If there's one thing hair loss taught me, it's that looks are king in this life.

My looks and hygiene allowed me to get where I am today, dating multiple girls, being generally happy and living a rich life. But I'm not losing sight of what truly matters in life.

This week, I had to break up with two girls, one of them absolutely gorgeous. I had never thought I'd have to do that in my life. Why did I do this? Well I've met a girl that just seems to make all the others blur into the background. I felt it was the right thing to do.

I haven't lost sight of my goals. One night stands and short-term relationships are all fine in moderation, but in the end, sticking to that and never committing to someone is going to leave you unfulfilled.

In the end, I know I want a family. And when this will be on the way, I know what my next concern will be.

Hell, my father told me this was the first thought that popped into his head when he knew he'd have a son:

"I hope that in 20 years, they will have cured this sh*t."

Unfortunately, I had to go through hell on earth just like him.

I really hope that if I have a son, he won't have to.

 

[Dante92]

It's great to see Fred's crazy made up theories are finally being confirmed by his crazy made up bullshit.

Your obsession with Fred is funny, cute even.

 

[Joan]

But don't be fooled, they all have their their fears, their insecurities, their dirty dark secrets. But they tend to sweep it under the rug and be like "Nope, everything's fine, I'm happy, I'm normal! See?!"
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I've found that women I know do share the same concerns as I about middle age (only two about hair loss), but they don't agonize over these things like I do. That's the problem: fixating on things to the point of feeling anxiety at times. They don't like something or several things about their appearance, but it doesn't impact their lives in deeply negative ways.

 

[Exodus2011]

was that girl attractive fred? thats not surprising though, especially since if she is hot then she is used to being worshipped for her looks

and excessive acne looks really bad, worse than baldness imo

 

[EvilLocks]

I've said before that people have this habit of telling me their dark secrets, and I've heard pretty surprising things from people who seemed completely happy and normal. Like a female friend who spent a whole year locked up in her room because of her acne. You would never guess she had that experience, even if you knew her very well. On the outside, she pretends to be this strong, career-minded woman. On the inside, she's a mess.

Dealing with acne is bad, but dealing with severe baldness is worse. One is curable, the other not so much. Over the past 4 years I've locked myself in my room, and I've only recently started going out more and even dating (after I got my extensions of course). It angers me when I think about those 4 years of my prime and youth going to waste, because that's precious time I'll never get back...

 

[shookwun]

I am on accutane now, it sucks.


Lips are cracked & chapped NON stop.

Always wake up feeling dehydrated, and dry .

Eyes feel your stoned. Very dry.


very sensitive to sun light. Every time I talk outside I can barely keep my eyes open

Shedding skin flakes all over my body.

Takes about 1 month 1/2 before your acne starts reversing and getting better. Not sure why it takes so long. Initially my acne has been getting worse.

Skin very sensitive





Finasteride side effects

Maintain hair.



Amazes me how people are so scared of finasteride yet hop on accutane like it's nothing. Accutane is a very serious drug, and has sh*t loads of GUARANTEED sides effects. A lot of people reported depression while on it, all though that has not been the case for me

 

[kj6723]

I've found that women I know do share the same concerns as I about middle age (only two about hair loss), but they don't agonize over these things like I do. That's the problem: fixating on things to the point of feeling anxiety at times. They don't like something or several things about their appearance, but it doesn't impact their lives in deeply negative ways.

That's my problem. When I find something to fixate on, I fixate on it HARD. Right now it's hair loss. It's literally on my mind ALL THE TIME, no matter where I am or what I'm doing, it's right there, blaring in my brain.

I'm high functioning, so I can still go through my day interacting with people and getting done what I need to and coming across as a normal person(I think lol), but if most people could catch a glimpse of mind, I'm sure they would be like, "holy sh*t this guys weird"

 

[resu]

That's my problem. When I find something to fixate on, I fixate on it HARD. Right now it's hair loss. It's literally on my mind ALL THE TIME, no matter where I am or what I'm doing, it's right there, blaring in my brain.

I'm high functioning, so I can still go through my day interacting with people and getting done what I need to and coming across as a normal person(I think lol), but if most people could catch a glimpse of mind, I'm sure they would be like, "holy sh*t this guys weird"

Sounds like you have the autism (AS).

 

[BruceMackenzie]

That's my problem. When I find something to fixate on, I fixate on it HARD. Right now it's hair loss. It's literally on my mind ALL THE TIME, no matter where I am or what I'm doing, it's right there, blaring in my brain.

I'm high functioning, so I can still go through my day interacting with people and getting done what I need to and coming across as a normal person(I think lol), but if most people could catch a glimpse of mind, I'm sure they would be like, "holy sh*t this guys weird"

I have the same problem. First it was on my height, and then hairloss came and blew that out of the water.

 

[Joan]

That's my problem. When I find something to fixate on, I fixate on it HARD. Right now it's hair loss. It's literally on my mind ALL THE TIME, no matter where I am or what I'm doing, it's right there, blaring in my brain.

I'm high functioning, so I can still go through my day interacting with people and getting done what I need to and coming across as a normal person(I think lol), but if most people could catch a glimpse of mind, I'm sure they would be like, "holy sh*t this guys weird"

I really hope you're satisfied with your hair transplant and that afterwards, those others things on which you're fixated will not seem so bad anymore.