Memoirs Of A Landwhale. Blah Blah Blah

[SmoothSailing]

Of course people should report but are you sure it is the FIRST problematic thing here?

Ok shame and reprisals make sense as to why someone wouldn't come forward. I see that now. I still think it's shameful of them not to come forward. How can the problem ever be resolved or even tackled when no one is aware it exists? You have to be brave in situations like this, otherwise you're essentially allowing a rapist to continue raping. That's a horrible thing to do.

 

[SmoothSailing]

But reality is people usually just want to push on with lives.

"Let's just forget about the rapist out there raping people because I want to get on with my life".

Don't get me wrong I understand why a lot of people would be like this, but I consider it selfish.

 

[SmoothSailing]

More than what did the rapist himself?

At this point I am ready to read a "yes" to that!!!

No of course not lol. Not even in the same ballpark.

 

[SmoothSailing]

Force someone, to have sex, to remove all their clothes while pinning them down while still being able to get it up while successfully sliding into a dry vagina.

Again, computer doesn't compute.

Explain how all the above is even possible.

If a girl is scared she might just be submissive.There mightn't be any fight.

 

[hairblues]

I need convincing arguments to prove me wrong.

Not just "I've read a testimony" or "I have a friend who..."

Hard stats are all that matter. You want to know how common rape is, go to your local police station, the stats are there.

Also, learn to remain realistic and to imagine how real rape situations could occur.

In the West these days? Extremely rare, well, not so much since we've taken in all those Muslim refugees.

here are stats for rape in NYC
for 2015 it was over 2,000
we also have 3,500 reported sex offenders living in NYC

http://www.city-data.com/crime/crime-New-York-New-York.html

I'm not saying some woman are not lying but chances of those getting prosecuted under USA standards of rape are slim. Thats why my generation rarely comes forward. For what?
you have to remember i am 45..my friends who were raped and especially my Mothers friend rape was like shameful to 'us'..because it was bad judgment it was letting guard down it was leading someone on.

I cant speak for your generation only my own.


BUT its something that happens and i think IF some women are lying its a small percentage but thats not to say ALL rapes are not happening...And its next to impossible to convict a rapist who did not actually rape..it happens but rarely..Central Park 5 is an example of innocent boys convicted of rape and a brutal rape (partially due to your buddy Trump believe it or not and his demonizing them in a newspaper ad/Op ed he did at the time late 80s f*****g twat that he is.)

 

[EvilLocks]

Force someone, to have sex, to remove all their clothes while pinning them down while still being able to get it up while successfully sliding into a dry vagina.

Again, computer doesn't compute.

Explain how all the above is even possible.

Because the victim might be scared for her life? It's common knowledge that you don't use force back against an attacker that is stronger than you or has a weapon, might make the situation much worse.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

One girl I dated (out of 87 first dates) told me that she was raped.

A lot of them probably chose not to bring up their rape history on the first date.

Do you bring up everything that's happened to you?

Probably not.

 

[hairblues]

What that guy did was shitty, but she put herself in that situation and should have known better.

My girlfriend had sex when passed-out drunk and she told the guy to stop several times, he didn't, came inside her, and she was forced to take a morning-after pill.

Yet she doesn't consider herself a victim of rape, she's aware that what happened was partially her fault. She hasn't started a feminist blog where she cries about how much of a victim she was.

Different people, different mentalities.

putting your dick in an unconscious woman is rape

i suggest you dont do it because you would be a rapist

 

[Dench57]

unsurprisingly some pretty fucked up views on rape in here

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I know that, I've had a relationship with many of these girls and I wanted to point out that only one had a rape story, which turned out to be fake.

Probably not 87 of these girls. They might not discuss it one or two or three months into a relationship.

 

[swingline747]

read 4 sentences of article, knew what I was reading and being the troll I am went to comment.... was not surprised commenting was disabled and some I went to reply to were "removed by moderators for breaking rules of conduct"......

What this says is "society is not as dumb and coddling as you wish and dragged your article through the mud as the tripe it is."

Hey dumb dumb, do good looking guys not get treated better?

I wish I could respond to her article and tell her how hypocritical and self indulging it is, and that the guys being nice were probably coincidence since even thin you have the jowl of a god damn eggplant!

 

[hairblues]

"Let's just forget about the rapist out there raping people because I want to get on with my life".

Don't get me wrong I understand why a lot of people would be like this, but I consider it selfish.

i understand your perspective but look at this very thread

but imagine you were raped by a man.

imagine a man shoved his dick up your *** while he held you down.

you would feel ashamed embarrassed judged you would NOT so easily walk into a police station and tell your story to a bunch of men and then go into a court and get on a stand and be ripped apart by a defense attorney.

Read @WhitePolarBear comments and its kind of understandable why a lot of women dont come forward or go through with prosecuting men.

 

[hairblues]

Ok shame and reprisals make sense as to why someone wouldn't come forward. I see that now. I still think it's shameful of them not to come forward. How can the problem ever be resolved or even tackled when no one is aware it exists? You have to be brave in situations like this, otherwise you're essentially allowing a rapist to continue raping. That's a horrible thing to do.

its not selfish its trauma...trauma makes you self protective.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

i understand your perspective but look at this very thread

but imagine you were raped by a man.

imagine a man shoved his dick up your *** while he held you down.

you would feel ashamed embarrassed judged you would NOT so easily walk into a police station and tell your story to a bunch of men and then go into a court and get on a stand and be ripped apart by a defense attorney.

Read @WhitePolarBear comments and its kind of understandable why a lot of women dont come forward or go through with prosecuting men.

At some point it is up to the justice system to somehow be more accommodating, and up to society to figure out why we're failing to raise so many men.

It's not women failing to report, it's most women who are victims. They're probably not all wrong.

 

[SmoothSailing]

you would feel ashamed embarrassed judged you would NOT so easily walk into a police station and tell your story to a bunch of men and then go into a court and get on a stand and be ripped apart by a defense attorney.

I get it, truly. I just think putting up with embarrassment, shame, reminding yourself of what happened, is worth it just for the chance of putting the rapist behind bars and bringing light to an issue that's apparently much bigger than I thought.

I seriously never imagined there would be many women who wouldn't report a rape, or at least tell a brother/father or something. I guess I'm just having trouble getting into the mindset.

its not selfish its trauma...trauma makes you self protective.

Well it is selfish by definition, but yeah I get what you mean. Who wouldn't be completely looking out for themselves after such a thing.

 

[hairblues]

Hint: in a situation like the one my girlfriend was in, of course it's partially their fault.

Of course the guy shouldn't do that, but women should know how men are, and actively avoid to ever find themselves in that situation.



I'm learning here, I admit I was wrong two pages ago.

you are confusing two different things i think

You re confusing using common sense to avoid violence--which i agree 100%

If you go to a sh*t neighborhood for example more likely to be mugged.

That does NOT mean muggings dont happen and if they do happen that people who did the mugging are not responsible.

 

[SmoothSailing]

its not selfish its trauma...trauma makes you self protective.

This is actually an oxymoron

 

[hairblues]

I know that, I've had a relationship with many of these girls and I wanted to point out that only one had a rape story, which turned out to be fake.

Not many woman are going to tell a man they are having sex with they were raped.

 

[SmoothSailing]

If I go to the hot neighborhoods of my city wearing a shirt that says "I hate Arabs", I'm not a victim if I get beaten to death.

That's retarded. Yes you are the victim. You think stupidity deserves death?

 

[SmoothSailing]

No, I don't. But these Arab people will think otherwise, whether you think it's right or not.

I think it's not right. That's the whole point. I think they are wrong and not you. And the law should reflect that. Give it some thought. You're wrong.