I know this thread hasn't been touched for about a week, and this is only my second post on this entire forum, but I have to say something about this negative, whiny, emo, beta-male, life-aint-fair rubbish regarding going bald and women and going bald and life in general.
to noone in particular,
If you let losing your hair dictate or effect the rest of your life, or how you are with women, or how you are in your job then that is YOUR PROBLEM, in that I mean it is not how the world is treating you, or how society treats you or how women treat you or whatever, it's how YOU are treating you. If you think being bald or losing your hair makes you a loser and unattractive, then in effect you are and will be, but not for the reason you think, but because *no one is attracted to negative,insecure people.* Thats why everyone laughs at people with comb overs, not because they are bald but because they are telegraphing that they are utterly insecure about their baldness. It's like being too short or too tall or too fat or having a lisp or a missing limb or an unsightly birth mark on your face or even a small dick, if you use it as a reason (or excuse more-like) for why your life sucks or why your sh*t with women then that is YOUR DECISION, i.e. Something you have chosen to believe, you have made that CHOICE to see reality as such and act accordingly, a choice not based on fact but just one of many choices of interpreting reality.
For example, I've got a family friend who used to be pretty damn fat. Like American fat (sorry yanks
). Long story short he lost pretty much all the weight in about a year a couple of years back and it turns out that he wasn't a bad looking dude, in fact, not being gay or anything but the guy could have quite easily gotten a lot of work modeling or something. Anyway so obviously he was getting a lot of renewed attention from women, ALOT, however the dude hardly pulled at all. Girls just ended up disappointed at the end of the night when he just shook there hand and said goodbye! He had good looks, good chat, (a good hairline for that matter), but he never managed to even get a phone number. One day I asked him about why such a situation was occurring and it turns out that he was utterly convinced that no girl could ever really possibly be attracted to him, because he apparently had FAT CHEEKS(he didn't btw), and he didn't want to embarrass himself by making a move and getting rejected!
The dude's behavior was so affected by his warped interpretation of reality that he was basically sabotaging himself, and in effect, eventually reaffirming this interpretation to himself when, after awhile, girls began picked up on this telegraphed insecurity. It wasn't his fat cheeks, it was his insecurity about them, that was messing things up.
Now, I'm not comparing baldness to an non-existent insecurity like fat cheeks and do realize that losing one's hair is/can be devastating and a massive knock on the confidence and one's appearance in general, and that trying to fight it with finasteride and minoxidil nizoral etc is probably the best course of action to take (trust me I've got all that to look forward to) fine.
However my point is it is HOW ONE HANDLES going/being bald, as it is how one handles anything in life, that counts. If your not phased by being bald, noone else will be! Especially women! Another example, I'm 5'7, my best mate is 5'9 and he's deeply insecure about his height( because of his taller older brothers,), I couldn't give a sh*t about my height quite frankly, who do you think pulls more? I've actually had people say that they thought i was taller than him, that i somehow ACTED taller in general! wtf right!? see what I'm getting at?
This is especially doubly triply true when it comes to women seriously I can't stress this enough. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE COUNTS FOR SO LITTLE WITH WOMEN. I mean well-groomed yes, good physique fine they're plus points but seriously its all pretty negligible when it comes down to it. Men are the luckier sex by far in the sense that women don't look for in men the same things as we do in them, thank god. Most men judge a woman by her looks, hell all Western society judges women by their looks and to put it bluntly, being an unattractive woman must really, really suck. I can't even comprehend what some of the women in the other section of this Forum are going through. But with Men it's completely different, a l woman would rather go out with a confident, masculine, outgoing bald man who has his life together than an insecure NW1 guy who lives with his parents, hands down. Ok you may say 'well if she had the choice she would probably want a confident NW1 but f*Ck it we've all got preferences and thats all they are, preferences. A woman's not gonna dump you just because some other dude's got hair! What do you think because we all don't have hair or looks like Robert F*ckin Patterson that all us other men should just crawl into a cave and die and let the good looking NW1s get on with it? haha, F*ck that.
( I seriously recommend getting your hands on the book 'The Game' or some David Deangelo ebooks or checkout PUAtraining.com if you want to get deeper into this stuff as it really shifts your mindset completely on women. If you can read all that and still tell me it's being bald that is stopping you from meeting women, I really cant help you. )
Finally, stop whining like its the end of the world or that society hates you, Yes it's hard, yes it's unfair but so whoever told you life was easy and fair was lying I'm afraid. Try to get some perspective on things a bit eh? I recently met a Cambodian dude whose got no legs, one hand, a bald patch, a receding hairline and a family to support, guess which one was most on his mind? Yet the dude never stopped smiling, never complained, and to make my point about women again, had met his wife AFTER he had his legs blown off (dude got game)! We all age, lose hair, lose teeth, lose our sight, our hearing, some of us may lose a leg or an arm, some might survive cancer, some might not, some might win the lottery, some might die from a stray bullet some might live to 100, some might sleep with 400+ people some might go into space whatever, Life happens and if you let any one thing like hairloss that in the grand scheme of things doesn't really matter dictate the rest of your life then you're seriously missing out... and it's no-one's fault but your own...
