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HairPieceMan

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hiya said:
Hairpieceman, wherever you go in the world - there are always going to be people better looking, taller, have a nicer skin complexion, funnier, fitter etc.
It doesn't mean that you are doomed to a life of misery.

You need to focus on the things you are good at and been blessed with.
A wig and platform shoes will possibly make you look taller and more attractive, but you need to work on your mindset too.

Focus on the things you are great at and concentrate on being the best person you are. Not every girl is shallow and many will take you for what you are.

I know it's a rant, but when life throws us these setbacks - instead of sulking - you need to find the best way to tackle it and go do that. If that's wearing concealers, shaving your head, wearing platforms - good for you. Find what makes you happy and do it.

it's not about being better looking, that is only a small part of it, its the stigma of being bald at 22 and being white and being 5 4, its a pretty deadly combination for any guy, an extremely harse reality and a fate i would never wish on another man.

i mean, christ, if i was 1.5 inches shorter and was bald at 20 i think i would have just shot myself, how can any man handle THAT reality.

also when i was 20 i hardly had a full mame, i just dont have much of a memory of me with hair in my adult life, which is just plain sad, at least i could have had full head of hair from 18 - 22, then began my thinning at 22, sahving bald at 26, at least then I'd have 4 years of remembering myself with hair!

also im defently not sulking, im working on fixing myself, hair with a wig, a 3 inch lift in my shoe, perhaps one height sugery to make me 5' 6.5" which is a more common height for a guy. that with the lift would make me 5' 9.5".

also for the other aspects, such as better skin complexion, most guys look fine in the skin, and people being taller than me?, well since im in the bottom 2nd percentile of height for my region pretty much every guy is taller than me so, yeah, "everywhere i go in the world" everyman is always taller than me, that is what makes me very short (as tall as girls).

as far as people funnier I'm not caring of that, in general men worry about 2 things in their life 1. hair, 2 . height, they do not worry about being funny or being "fitter", it is women who are body counsiouse, men are not fussed about six packs or having a big arm muscle if that is considerd fitter.
 

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HairPieceMan said:
well since im in the bottom 2nd percentile of height for my region pretty much every guy is taller than me so, yeah, "everywhere i go in the world" everyman is always taller than me, that is what makes me very short (as tall as girls).

BS. There are many regions (developing nations) where you would not be that short, where you could have a ton of women, being white and all (but the women would be very poor)
 

LooseItAll

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yes i am from the UK, but i do not pay attention to pop culture, i am a very odd person.

but yeah he is a boxer?...well boxing i don't think is THAT popular, usually it's football here, yet i do no pay attention to footballer either :p

when i mentioned UCman and Saf i was refering to their opinions of brad pitt bald who looked bad, you claim the reason is becuase with hair he is a "cute" type person.

well i think a lot of guys are in that catergory.

anyway ok i am willing to admit that not ALL black guys pull it off, id say that a lot more of them pull it off better than white guys, like a significant amount more to make me anoyed.

also this is a hairloss forum, not a racism impact forum, if a black guy in is UK and is uncormfortable then he can just move, just like if i was in a 99.9% black community i have the option to just move to a place where i fit in a lot better, or at least i feel i fit in a lot better, so there is an option for him, there is no place a bad looking bald guy to go to fit in better, unless its a 3rd world country where people don't care about looks as much.

so yeah, BLACKS to have IT , and by IT i am refering to hairloss purely, not any other problems/benefits to being black, they have IT a lot better, in general, far greater than whites.

also the kid argument, you say it is age related, just because they are 12 they don't do that style, well then why do 12 year old black kids do that style then?

this logic makes no sense, clearly it works for black school kids and not for white school kids, this is not an age related hair "style", it works by skin tone/facial features etc.


Well this isn't a height forum either yet you were the first one to brag about how screwed you are by being 5'4" and how much short asians have it better... huh...

You can always move to Mexico or Peru where you would blend in with your height and I don't think they would care about your bald head so...? What is the problem? Why won't you do it? You give advices to others yet you can't follow them on your own.

Because a 12 year old will usually wear a hairstyle desired by his parent not himself. Since it is difficult to manage african hair many kids are just shaven down. When you are 22-32 you can do whatever you want. Just as older people are not wearing the same hairstyles like 22 year olds I don't see the reason why is it so hard to believe that there are differences between 12 and 22...

The fact is regardless of race not many people choose being slick bald by choice, they perefer to have a hairline.

Now you are the one that claims he is screwed by genetics and brougth the race argument into the discussion. I am just here to prove you wrong, because the fact is you would not be less screwed if not more generally. Asian men are considered the least attractive(just like african women) and I don't think they get much dates outside their race. I don't think you would enjoy that considering that your life is "dating oriented". So stop whining I agree that your situation is really poor and that any physical improvment is pricless but the grass is not greener on the other side.
 

Ori83

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LooseItAll said:
but the grass is not greener on the other side.
Other side=being tall and nw1?
 

LooseItAll

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lol nope
 

LooseItAll

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other side=being a short and bald black/asian :whistle:
 

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HairPieceMan said:
[...] so that means I pretty much hate everyone and im very bitter, this life sucks, i wish i just grew to say 5 7 and kept my hair until 25 like 99% of guys did, then none of this mess would've happened.

anyway that is my vent over, and i hate everyone, except when i see a guy who is balding in 20s, i like that guy, he's cool, but only if hes below average height....if he has those two things, he's in my cool club.


I don't want to sound preachy but hatred is a complete waste of time.

Hatred is pointless, it will consume your energies, your creativity and your health and it will take you nowhere.

So just leave it alone. I know this is easier said than done and we're only human but, believe me, hatred is not worth it.
 

HairPieceMan

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HairPieceMan said:
yes i am from the UK, but i do not pay attention to pop culture, i am a very odd person.

but yeah he is a boxer?...well boxing i don't think is THAT popular, usually it's football here, yet i do no pay attention to footballer either :p

when i mentioned UCman and Saf i was refering to their opinions of brad pitt bald who looked bad, you claim the reason is becuase with hair he is a "cute" type person.

well i think a lot of guys are in that catergory.

anyway ok i am willing to admit that not ALL black guys pull it off, id say that a lot more of them pull it off better than white guys, like a significant amount more to make me anoyed.

also this is a hairloss forum, not a racism impact forum, if a black guy in is UK and is uncormfortable then he can just move, just like if i was in a 99.9% black community i have the option to just move to a place where i fit in a lot better, or at least i feel i fit in a lot better, so there is an option for him, there is no place a bad looking bald guy to go to fit in better, unless its a 3rd world country where people don't care about looks as much.

so yeah, BLACKS to have IT , and by IT i am refering to hairloss purely, not any other problems/benefits to being black, they have IT a lot better, in general, far greater than whites.

also the kid argument, you say it is age related, just because they are 12 they don't do that style, well then why do 12 year old black kids do that style then?

this logic makes no sense, clearly it works for black school kids and not for white school kids, this is not an age related hair "style", it works by skin tone/facial features etc.


Well this isn't a height forum either yet you were the first one to brag about how screwed you are by being 5'4" and how much short asians have it better... huh...

You can always move to Mexico or Peru where you would blend in with your height and I don't think they would care about your bald head so...? What is the problem? Why won't you do it? You give advices to others yet you can't follow them on your own.

Because a 12 year old will usually wear a hairstyle desired by his parent not himself. Since it is difficult to manage african hair many kids are just shaven down. When you are 22-32 you can do whatever you want. Just as older people are not wearing the same hairstyles like 22 year olds I don't see the reason why is it so hard to believe that there are differences between 12 and 22...

The fact is regardless of race not many people choose being slick bald by choice, they perefer to have a hairline.

Now you are the one that claims he is screwed by genetics and brougth the race argument into the discussion. I am just here to prove you wrong, because the fact is you would not be less screwed if not more generally. Asian men are considered the least attractive(just like african women) and I don't think they get much dates outside their race. I don't think you would enjoy that considering that your life is "dating oriented". So stop whining I agree that your situation is really poor and that any physical improvment is pricless but the grass is not greener on the other side.

ahh ffs becuase IM NOT MEXICAN or some sh*t, im caucasian, your just not getting the logic here!

yes but, SHORT asians are asian, christ this is soo retarded, HE is living in a region which does not match his average ethnic height, when will you understand there is a difference between a caucasian man being born 5 inches below the male average of his peers/ethnic group and an indian man being born average indian height yet living in an enviroment where he does not originate.

if you see a 5 2 indian in US you think "well, he's indian which makes sense, i guess if he moved back to india he'd blend in", if you saw a 5 2 caucasian man in US you'd think "holy f*** that guy is totally fucked, this is hilarious he's like a kid, he's going to have to move to mexico so that he blends in"...honestly man, its not the same advice, claiming i wont take my own advice is a stupid thing to say, im not moving to mexico,india or indonisia, becuase im not of that origin.

what im saying is it's a different story for a 5 4 caucasian man to be born in UK and then move to indonesia so that he'd be only 2 inches below the male average instead of 5 inches below the male average, versus say a 5 4 asian man being born in uk then moving to hong kong so he is only 2 inches below the male average.

one of those scenarios is a rare anomoly and is a genetic shame for the caucasian man, the other is a typical example of the type of man an indian/asian he would turn out to be.

so the question of Why won't you do it? You give advices to others yet you can't follow them on your own it utter rubbish, i don't do it becuase its not the same advice, it's completely different, i shouldn't need to move to peru ffs, but a 5 4 asian will fit a lot better if he moved to hong kong instead of being in uk, this at least makes sense.

lol @ older styles, yes i would agree that 22 year olds have other hairstyles versus 12 year olds, but isn't it intersted how fully bald is NOT one of those styles, come on man, quite the BS, you'll almost never see a 12 year old white kid with no hair and have it be normal, and when that kid is 22 a similar rule applys, im not saying its the SAME impact, but its clearly the underiable choice, versus say 12 year old black kids.

The fact is regardless of race not many people choose being slick bald by choice, they perefer to have a hairline?

really, then why do ALL white 12 year olds 100% avoid slick baldness and some black kids are completely bald through choice and no one blinks an eye?

all im saying is that white caucasians TEND to have baldness the worst, over blacks then indians, asian then caucausian.

that is just in general, please don't treat black and whites the same when it comes to baldness, in general, it's a bigger problem for whites, im not saying it was a ZERO problem for blacks, i do realise i said that at the start of the thread, which i apologise for saying that, but i would say its a far lesser problem in general compared to whites.

also grass is greener on other side? im not asking for a lot, i just wish I started balding when i was 25 & shaved clean bald at 28, instead of balding at 19 and shaving clean bald at 22, and also i wish i was say 2.5 inches taller making me 5 7 instead of 5' 4.5"

becuase at least with these two things i could have lived a regular life that most adult men lead until their 25 or something.
 

s.a.f

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I have only 1 thing left to say on this....

If he hates himself so much in his 20's (whilst he's in his prime), how is he going to cope when he's in his 40's and physically degenerating in every aspect?
 

HairPieceMan

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lol im not vain man, im perfectly happy as long as i have a frame to my face and am a typical height for a guy.

i mean honestly when im 40 i will look more normal and regular than i did when i was 22 and bald, it's about looking normal and regular.

look at brad pitt mockup pics when bald, he is a creppy looking guy bald, yet with hair he is great, great in 20s,30s,40s etc.

but as soon as that hair is gone POOF he is a "creep" no matter what he does.

also i do not "hate" myself, it's not my fault my genes are sensitive to DHT forcing my hair folicals to stop growing, it's not my fault there is no easy cure yet for male pattern baldness and thus have to wear a system, none of this is MY fault and i don't like the attitude of some people claiming i now "hate myself" becuase i can't grow hair naturally and have to wear a system, it's just such sh*t, there will be a cure one day for this sh*t like a TB jab at high school or some sh*t and i garuntee you once that cure is found you will fine MUCH less bald guys around, and if you told a guy at 22 he is meant to be bald but you got a TB at high school so now you should shave off bald becuase that is who you are without the TB jab he will say "no thanks" and just live a normal life.

also having hair isn't a vanity thing, most of the time it's just to look normal/natural by having a frame to face etc.

obviosuly this is not for ALL men, but it is for the unlucky small percentage that just looke REALLY bad bald like golum from LOTRs, fact is some people look like that.

obviosuly you have forgotten how completely damaging baldness can be to SOME guys, to SOME guys it's like being in a fire and having burn marks on your face, or having a deformity, yes it IS true, and it was for me so I just want to be a regular looking guy, i mean even at 39 i will look far more normal that i was at 21 with my diffuse NW5, at 21 i just looked liek somethign was wrong with me due to my hair etc.
 

HairPieceMan

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also i see lots of guys in 40s and they look fine, i see bald guys in 20s and they look fine.

HOWEVER FOR ME I LOOKED LIKE GOLUM FROM LOTRs BALD.

i mean your acting like baldness is just a mildy degrading thing like wrinkles in eyes.

for others its a catastrophy, it was for me, i need hair to be regular.

male pattern baldness is not an equal problem for all men.

also i have seen some guys like me with baldness, in that they look bad, not as short as me but they look really f*****g bad, it is common-ish in the UK where I am from, some may be in 20s etc.

so they are others out their like me, i see some real freak shows like myself, people that would look normal with hair and like a freak bald.

also i saw this one guy in 20s and he had pure grown out horshoe in ginger hair, he looked like a complete baffoon, his face totally out of whack.

we need to find a cure for this stuff, STAT!
 

uncomfortable man

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@ SAF, I know HPM has a bit of CCS in him but I think you are being a little hard on the guy. Surely you can remember how being bald made you feel. I would think that on some level you can relate to his desire to blend in and look normal, considering your own transplants.
 

s.a.f

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Speaking as a 36yr old who went bald mid 20's then had hair transplant's in his early 30's I dont share your optimism.
Theres more to being small than just having short legs. Unless everything about you is identical in size to a tall guy even with 3" longer legs you will still be seen as small. Look at Prince even wearing 3.5" heels he still looks tiny. I think unless you can change your attitude to the things that you see as wrong with yourself you will continue this perception of inadiquacy.
I think you will struggle when you start to see new signs of ageing - wig or not. You will feel bitterness that you never had what you see as a normal prime/youth.
 

HairPieceMan

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may i ask what happened with saf, how many transplants he got and whether he managed to get out of this mess?

but yeah as i said you cannot pass some mass opinion on baldness (especially on whites) like it applys to everyone, becuase everyones face is different, like you can't view baldness as being like it takes 2 points off your attractiveness and you don't have frame on face, for some people baldness takes 6 points off attractiveness (like from 6 to a 1) and you DO look like a freak just becuase you don't have hair.
 

HairPieceMan

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also i do not wish to discuss my height operation or use of lifts and still being viewed as small after surgery even though 1000s of men do the surgery each year and actually get taller and are viewed as taller becuase they are taller etc.
 

s.a.f

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uncomfortable man said:
@ SAF, I know HPM has a bit of CCS in him but I think you are being a little hard on the guy. Surely you can remember how being bald made you feel. I would think that on some level you can relate to his desire to blend in and look normal, considering your own transplants.
Exactly I've been there and I'm telling him not to pin his hopes on this. Like CCS he thinks he can transform himself but I've never seen ot happen baldness and short height are too big a problem to overcome.
If he thinks he's going to 'fix' himself I think he will end up dissapointed. I'm just trying to make him aware of this although I have no doubt he'll think I'm wrong.
Stuff like this leaves a bigger impact on you subconciously and this is something he'll have to deal with.
 

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That's fine and I understand but what I'm saying is that the core motivation for your transplants and HPMs lifts (etc.) are essentially the same.... conformity. After your grafts grew in to the point where you no longer looked bald anymore, you must have felt strange.... like you were still a bald man in a different body or something, right?
 

HairPieceMan

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as far as fixing myself goes im not dissapointed, in fact i am very glad for the existence of hair systems, i have fixed my baldness and IM REALLY HAPPY ABOUT IT.

so that is one thing that i have fixed and I AM HAPPY WITH.

however i am only half happy as i am still as tall as girls.

i fully expect myself to be even more happier once i have obtained a somewhat low medium hieght of 5 8 post surgery ( 5 11 in tome cruis lifts), like many thousands of men have done and been happy with, just as men who have done hair systems have been happy with.

beleive it or not, im actually living my dream here, i am obtaining normality and on the persuit of happyness.

also tom looks pretty damn normal in lifts here

http://www.bittenandbound.com/2010/07/2 ... tor-shoes/

i mean look at the difference of tom standing next to wife before and after lifts, he goes from being a hilarious joke to being a man, and it looks totally normal.

on bottom pic,most of the time tom, nickolas skorkozy, bono are in lifts and get lots of photographs of them taken, if it looked wierd being in hidden high heels tom wouldnt wear them to special events and get pictures taken etc.

the guy has been on live tv with millions watching and has been in 3 inch lifts, he IS viewed as taller and works 100%, quit making claims that tom is still a small guy even in lifts, the evidence is right there in the pic, he goes from "boy" to "man" in that photo.

also tom is like 2 inches taller than me anyway, so im shorter lol, i need to lifts even more, and could do with at least one LL sugery of 2 inches to make me as tall as "tiny tom"
 

s.a.f

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HairPieceMan said:
may i ask what happened with saf, how many transplants he got and whether he managed to get out of this mess?

but yeah as i said you cannot pass some mass opinion on baldness (especially on whites) like it applys to everyone, becuase everyones face is different, like you can't view baldness as being like it takes 2 points off your attractiveness and you don't have frame on face, for some people baldness takes 6 points off attractiveness (like from 6 to a 1) and you DO look like a freak just becuase you don't have hair.

Some people look worse than others bald, but to call yourself a freak is just narcassistical.
Its funny you mention Golum because thats something I got called small, skinny and totally white (because I live a indoor hermit life) and of course bald.
Well I had some hair transplant's in the UK and not knowing how bad UK clinics are of course the results were terrible - barely anything. Then I went to the U.S and had 2 better ops but because I'd run out of donor the end result was not great and even with concealers it still does'nt look like a anywhere near full head of hair. Although obviously I'm not seen as a 'dome' head anymore. Imagine Vince Vaughn with a very balding crown.
But the thing is it took me until I was about 34 to get that far. So now I'm not bald but I'm not young either and just like you and you're wig I'm hiding a secret from the world.
I think that you imagine yourself getting back those years (early 20's) that you lost but they are gone and cant be replaced.
CCS' theory was always to sort out his physical insecurites and live his 30's as his 20's but he never managed it. And he had much less to worry about than you.
And as for the height thing Theoreticly you think that I could go from 5'9" to at least 6'1" but theres no way I could be seen as a regular 6'1" guy because I'm not the same build I'm a 5'9" slim build so unless you are very stocky I doubt you'll be seen as regular size. Theres more to looking big than height alone.
 
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