Poll: Lets Make It Clear : Are You Single Or Not

[The Curse of Dolkite]

40 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I refuse to date because I'm a big bald guy and I don't want a girl who likes it. I'm 6'3" and hate that people notice it and then expect me to treat being called "big guy" as a compliment.

 

[SmoothSailing]

40 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I refuse to date because I'm a big bald guy and I don't want a girl who likes it. I'm 6'3" and hate that people notice it and then expect me to treat being called "big guy" as a compliment.

Well it's rare that a male is ashamed of being 6'3".

 

[Exodus2011]

40 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I refuse to date because I'm a big bald guy and I don't want a girl who likes it. I'm 6'3" and hate that people notice it and then expect me to treat being called "big guy" as a compliment.

why dont you like girls who like big bald guys? what kind of girls do? the only way i can see this being legit is you dont like the kind of girls who liked you, or you're just using this as a cope to excuse not trying with women

i'm 24 and never been in a relationship, kissed, or fucked, and am way too scared to even try, damn it

 

[The Curse of Dolkite]

I hate being tall. I've even considered listing my height as six feet even on dating sites to weed out women who specifically want big guys. The absolute worst is if a girl says, "I feel so small next to you."

Being tall makes being bald even worse because everyone says, "Oh, it's no big deal, if you got in shape you'd look like a total badass." Failing to realize that I think the badass look is trashy and likely to turn off most intelligent women.

I don't want to date someone who thinks big bald guys are hot. Mostly you end up with big women who like your size because it offsets theirs (worse, they say you're "a good match" for them since you're both big) or the type of woman who finds pro wrestlers and bikers and other trashy types attractive.

 

[SmoothSailing]

I hate being tall. I've even considered listing my height as six feet even on dating sites to weed out women who specifically want big guys. The absolute worst is if a girl says, "I feel so small next to you."

Being tall makes being bald even worse because everyone says, "Oh, it's no big deal, if you got in shape you'd look like a total badass." Failing to realize that I think the badass look is trashy and likely to turn off most intelligent women.

I don't want to date someone who thinks big bald guys are hot. Mostly you end up with big women who like your size because it offsets theirs (worse, they say you're "a good match" for them since you're both big) or the type of woman who finds pro wrestlers and bikers and other trashy types attractive.

Not to trivialize your problems but I'd imagine you'd hate it a lot worse to be a short bald guy.

Yeah you don't get the "big women" hitting on you, because you don't get any women hitting on you.

 

[The Curse of Dolkite]

It would be worse if I were, say, 5'6". I have had the occasional short person get mad at me for resenting my height. Still, one of the things we all hate about being bald is the snap judgments people make about us, and I don't like the stereotype of the "big bald badass" even if it's popular now.

Your last remark was rude. I never said "Women don't hit on me." Women do hit on me sometimes.

 

[IdealForehead]

I hate being tall. I've even considered listing my height as six feet even on dating sites to weed out women who specifically want big guys. The absolute worst is if a girl says, "I feel so small next to you."

Being tall makes being bald even worse because everyone says, "Oh, it's no big deal, if you got in shape you'd look like a total badass." Failing to realize that I think the badass look is trashy and likely to turn off most intelligent women.

I don't want to date someone who thinks big bald guys are hot. Mostly you end up with big women who like your size because it offsets theirs (worse, they say you're "a good match" for them since you're both big) or the type of woman who finds pro wrestlers and bikers and other trashy types attractive.

Wow that's wild. I'm 5'7.5" and I have spent my entire life since I was 10 years old wishing I was taller. I think it is easy to imagine the reasons I don't like being small:

- Terrible at sports my whole life, can't keep up with the other guys.
- Could never fend for myself if I was physically threatened.
- Women hate short men so my dating options are highly limited.
- People respect and pay attention to what short guys say less than tall guys.
etc.

Is it possible for to explain a bit about why you dislike being tall? I've never heard someone say this before.

I'm sure as f*** not turning away girls "who like short guys" because they don't exist. If you were short, you'd be complaining that no one wants to date you at all.

 

[Stanx22]

I hate being tall. I've even considered listing my height as six feet even on dating sites to weed out women who specifically want big guys. The absolute worst is if a girl says, "I feel so small next to you."

Being tall makes being bald even worse because everyone says, "Oh, it's no big deal, if you got in shape you'd look like a total badass." Failing to realize that I think the badass look is trashy and likely to turn off most intelligent women.

I don't want to date someone who thinks big bald guys are hot. Mostly you end up with big women who like your size because it offsets theirs (worse, they say you're "a good match" for them since you're both big) or the type of woman who finds pro wrestlers and bikers and other trashy types attractive.

Try being 5'6 for just 1 week.

 

[Exodus2011]

I hate being tall. I've even considered listing my height as six feet even on dating sites to weed out women who specifically want big guys. The absolute worst is if a girl says, "I feel so small next to you."

Being tall makes being bald even worse because everyone says, "Oh, it's no big deal, if you got in shape you'd look like a total badass." Failing to realize that I think the badass look is trashy and likely to turn off most intelligent women.

I don't want to date someone who thinks big bald guys are hot. Mostly you end up with big women who like your size because it offsets theirs (worse, they say you're "a good match" for them since you're both big) or the type of woman who finds pro wrestlers and bikers and other trashy types attractive.

having whales like you i can understand hating. i've had one whale initiate with me and we did talk some and she really liked me but she was a legit 3/10, and not even that smart or anything to boot. i honestly would have preferred being alone L O L.

and now holy sh*t i can realize why these ugly feminist women are so mad, only ugly men are hitting on them likely and thats why they hate their lives and the men . . . . they, like me, wud rather have no one hitting on them than uglies. its just goddamn my situation is a lot worse cuz ITS WITHIN A GIRLS CONTROL TO BE FAT.

i'm just curious, what kind of women like wrestlers and bikers and "trashy types" attractive? u mean like dumb slutty bimbo types right ? i can understand resenting those types hitting on you too. you seem sensitive and thoughtful and high class.

its just damn dude, just try being short and bald, the above posters are right, NO ONE likes, NO ONE respects you, you become f*****g gollum

 

[The Curse of Dolkite]

Nobody is really intimidated by a big guy, bald or not, unless you live in the ghetto where it's acceptable to solve problems with your fists. I've been disrespected many times by people smaller than me who knew they could say whatever they want and if I hit them, they'd call the cops first and a lawyer second.

I dislike being tall because it means I fit the stupid "big bald guy" stereotype. Guys like Vin Diesel and The Rock are exactly what I don't want to look like, and yet people always act like I'd look great if I pumped iron and grew a goatee and started acting like a tough guy. I hate the fact that I'm always going to be seen as BIG even if I lose a lot of weight. I don't like taking up a lot of space and resent it if anyone points out my size, regardless of the reason.

One thing I identify with here are the complaints about the lack of options bald men have. Virtually the only option considered attractive at all is the big beefy bald badass look. If (like me) you think that look is silly and trashy, you're pretty much out of options.

In regards to the type of women into that look: Yes, I meant the dumb bimbo types. The ones who think football players or professional wrestlers are hot. The ones who want their boyfriend to "protect" them. Who like to "feel small" compared to their boyfriend.

 

[IdealForehead]

Nobody is really intimidated by a big guy, bald or not, unless you live in the ghetto where it's acceptable to solve problems with your fists. I've been disrespected many times by people smaller than me who knew they could say whatever they want and if I hit them, they'd call the cops first and a lawyer second.

I dislike being tall because it means I fit the stupid "big bald guy" stereotype. Guys like Vin Diesel and The Rock are exactly what I don't want to look like, and yet people always act like I'd look great if I pumped iron and grew a goatee and started acting like a tough guy. I hate the fact that I'm always going to be seen as BIG even if I lose a lot of weight. I don't like taking up a lot of space and resent it if anyone points out my size, regardless of the reason.

One thing I identify with here are the complaints about the lack of options bald men have. Virtually the only option considered attractive at all is the big beefy bald badass look. If (like me) you think that look is silly and trashy, you're pretty much out of options.

In regards to the type of women into that look: Yes, I meant the dumb bimbo types. The ones who think football players or professional wrestlers are hot. The ones who want their boyfriend to "protect" them. Who like to "feel small" compared to their boyfriend.

Did you hate being big even before you started losing your hair? Or only after?

If you hated it even before you went bald, why?

 

[The Curse of Dolkite]

That's a good question, and yes, I did. I viewed losing my hair as "the final straw" in making me unattractive. I was already tall and broad shouldered, which I hated.

I hated it because I felt awkward around others who were always shorter and lighter than I was. I never thought I was freakishly big, but being big enough so people make casual comments is bad enough. I looked at it as "evidence" that I was unattractive. Their remarks confirmed to me that not only was I a big guy, but everyone noticed it.

I see no value in being big. I don't want to look like a badass. I don't want to attract women who like big guys, and it hurts if a girl says she loves how tiny she looks/feels compared to me. I don't want to be small, I just want to be average. I'm jealous of my brother, who is six feet tall and has all his hair. He can attract a multitude of girls; he doesn't have to restrict his dating pool to the few girls who will settle for a big bald guy. I hate having a specific "type"...if someone were to fix someone up with me, they'd start by saying, "Well, do you like big bald guys?"

The examples people give me that I'm supposed to emulate are people I don't want to look like. I don't hate them as actors or individuals, but The Rock and Vin Diesel and the other big bald oafs people pitch to me as role models look, to me, like a 10-year-old's idea of a cool guy.

 

[IdealForehead]

That's a good question, and yes, I did. I viewed losing my hair as "the final straw" in making me unattractive. I was already tall and broad shouldered, which I hated.

I hated it because I felt awkward around others who were always shorter and lighter than I was. I never thought I was freakishly big, but being big enough so people make casual comments is bad enough. I looked at it as "evidence" that I was unattractive. Their remarks confirmed to me that not only was I a big guy, but everyone noticed it.

I see no value in being big. I don't want to look like a badass. I don't want to attract women who like big guys, and it hurts if a girl says she loves how tiny she looks/feels compared to me. I don't want to be small, I just want to be average. I'm jealous of my brother, who is six feet tall and has all his hair. He can attract a multitude of girls; he doesn't have to restrict his dating pool to the few girls who will settle for a big bald guy. I hate having a specific "type"...if someone were to fix someone up with me, they'd start by saying, "Well, do you like big bald guys?"

The examples people give me that I'm supposed to emulate are people I don't want to look like. I don't hate them as actors or individuals, but The Rock and Vin Diesel and the other big bald oafs people pitch to me as role models look, to me, like a 10-year-old's idea of a cool guy.

If you're brother is 6 feet and has all his hair, he's not average, and I'm jealous of him too.

 

[The Curse of Dolkite]

Okay, he is a bit taller than average. He has a slender build, which made me describe him as average.

I'm alone in this. Nobody ever understands me and they act like I should be reveling in my size and "embracing" the Big Bald Guy stereotype like it's a good thing.

 

[IdealForehead]

Okay, he is a bit taller than average. He has a slender build, which made me describe him as average.

I'm alone in this. Nobody ever understands me and they act like I should be reveling in my size and "embracing" the Big Bald Guy stereotype like it's a good thing.

I don't think there's anything wrong with wishing you were a bit shorter if you're huge. It's just that most of us who are truly short like 5'7" range would kill to be as tall as either of you or your brother. Yeah, your brother's probably ideal height. But your height offers you a hell of a lot more opportunities athletically and romantically than being 5'7".

 

[Stanx22]

II don't want to be small, I just want to be average. I'm jealous of my brother, who is six feet tall and has all his hair. He can attract a multitude of girls; he doesn't have to restrict his dating pool to the few girls who will settle for a big bald guy. I hate having a specific "type"...if someone were to fix someone up with me, they'd start by saying, "Well, do you like big bald guys?"

Be grateful that at least some girls are in your dating pool.

Try being a young, bald midget whom every woman look at with disgust and has 99% chance of dying a kissless virgin.

 

[shookwun]

under what grounds do we determine someone is unwillingly single?



I am single because I choose to be. meaning I haven't gone out, and been receptive towards engaging other women.



Do we conclude that those that are unwilling, try and fail?

 

[SmoothSailing]

under what grounds do we determine someone is unwillingly single?



I am single because I choose to be. meaning I haven't gone out, and been receptive towards engaging other women.



Do we conclude that those that are unwilling, try and fail?

My thoughts on it were that if you are single and happy to be single at this point in your life, and you conclude this is the main reason you are single, then you are willingly single.

Whereas if you currently wish you weren't single, and conclude that you are single because of things you are unable to change, then you are unwillingly single.

But technically speaking, unless you have tried with the easiest people you could have, and failed, on multiple occasions, whilst trying everything you're capable of to improve your situation, then you are willingly single. But that's not a useful way to define it for this poll.

 

[Stanx22]

just invent the next facebook brehbrah and become ultra rich dude

being rich miserable > being poor miserable.

 

[myusernamenow]

just invent the next facebook brehbrah and become ultra rich dude

Worked for this dweeb:

Not to make assumptions, but Kalanick probably wasn't the first kid in his class to lose his virginity. But the way he talks now—which is large—he's surely making up for lost time. When I tease him about his skyrocketing desirability, he deflects with a wisecrack about women on demand: “Yeah, we call that Boob-er.”

He's listed at a 5'8" but according to my calculations he's closer to 5'6". Run Boob-er game brehs.