POLL on impact of hair loss: Girlfriends

[optimystic]

I'm a little curious, if you're so happy and don't care about being bald, why are you on this website....?

I came to this site coz i was experiencing some insecurity (not as much as when i first joined, but i felt like i needed to come here and feel better.)

In a hairloss situation, there are some people who are strong and fearless and overcome this stuff easily, and others who are afraid and fall victim to more than just losing their hair. And then there are those in between who look at the first two kinds of people for before they realize whether they are survivors or victims...Im the latter.

Talking to my gf is all i really had to do from the beginning. I was trying to scratch that itch on this forum, but there's only so much comfort i can get from a forum full of bald people. In the end its dudemon's story that really gave me the extra nudge to talk to my gf.

I came back because i had balded since i first joined and started checking on this forum (when all i was told my hair looked greasy and my pics were unclear ). Also when i stopped checking in it was after a very long "Balding is no big deal" post and you all said "you'll be back" and i guess you were right i was back (even though i wasnt as devestated as some of you had predicted), i DID come back to the forum. But it was more of a finalizing thing, and now i feel again, BALDER AND BOLDER THAN EVER (i remember putting that as my status the first time i shaved my hair off, back when i had hair t shave)

I think this very post is the last post i'll post here. Hopefully i won't need to come back ever again. I dont think i will (maybe i'll join a hairy body forum one day though )

Thanks for everything forum.

And as my goodbye i really do sincerely (even though im not religous or anything) pray and wish for you to find more happiness than there is hair on orlando bloom's and patrick dempsey's heads combined!

Find your mates and spread your genes so that we bald people can take over the world!

Farewell baldies!

 

[Boondock]

Find your mates and spread your genes so that we bald people can take over the world!

Maybe not. I've seriously re-thought whether it would be right for me to have kids since I realized I had hair loss.

 

[peter079]

:agree:

 

[Boondock]

If there was a way I could guarantee I'd get a girl, I would still have kids with this. Having a son and passing on hair loss is just unethical in my view, however. I'm not sure I could live with that.

 

[bigentries]

If there was a way I could guarantee I'd get a girl, I would still have kids with this. Having a son and passing on hair loss is just unethical in my view, however. I'm not sure I could live with that.

Thank god we don't have eugenics anymore

I mean, people out there with the most horrible genetic diseases or hideous appearances don't have seconds thoughts about having children, and bald men are worried that their kids MIGHT start losing some hair 20 years after being born?

This is why society thinks bald men are just pathetic losers.

I know I did not win the genetic lottery, I have serious issues that I'm afraid I'll pass on my kids, and it seriously makes me wonder if I should have kids. But hair loss is not one of them, as much pain it can cause, it's just a cosmetic issue, and I hope my kids would be mature enough to not blame their father as I don't blame any relative for my baldness

 

[TheGrayMan2001]

Some of you need to read this blog.

http://roissy.wordpress.com/


And for the record I stumbled across two very attractive girls on Facebook last night that are dating guys that are balding. Both were 21 years old. Their head was buzzed to a number 1-2ish with severely receding temples...one was definitely a NW2 and the other closer to NW3 if not past there already.

 

[Obsidian]

Jesus H. Christ, what a bunch of neurotic men acting like women.
Hell I can even top that, most of the girls I know from high school who were considered the hottest chicks have gotten engaged or married with guys who are NW3/NW4 diffuse or more. Although i'm sure someone will say he will end up like Dudemon. :whistle:

 

[HatPrisoner91]

NW2, NW3 and even Norwood 4 are workable. You are balding. You buzz it short and while you see where you are balding, you still look like you have hair.

Try Norwood 6 and 7 for size. All you see is head on the person. The only people who carry this look nicely are really dark skinned guys like black men.

 

[qball01]

not black guys....pull the look off.

I'm sure you'll find a refutation though....

 

[Vox]

Maybe not. I've seriously re-thought whether it would be right for me to have
kids since I realized I had hair loss.

If there was a way I could guarantee I'd get a girl, I would still have kids with this.

I cannot believe you are saying this. It is known that male pattern baldness is inherited more often from the father of your mother and not from your own father. The pattern and degree (NW7) I have comes from him (my grandpa from my mother's side, my father is still around NW4 with a completely different pattern than mine). In fact I have yet to meet someone having the MBP of his father.

So if you were to have kids you should rather prefer boys, not girls, although I find it silly to have preference based on anything.

I have a daughter; so what? By the time her children will eventually face hair loss (35-45 years from now) MBP will probably be a thing of the past.

 

[Vox]

I'm sure you'll find a refutation though....

Sure, I don't like tattoos. :freaked:

The last picture is quite bright though.

 

[peter079]

If there was a way I could guarantee I'd get a girl, I would still have kids with this. Having a son and passing on hair loss is just unethical in my view, however. I'm not sure I could live with that.

:agree:

I still may have kids though. Lets face it, most women want to have kids whether you like it or not.

I'm going to try to hook up with someone who is very attractive, tall, with thick black hair to overcome my average looks, short, and thin blond hair genes. Then our children will be normal. :bravo:
I don't like my chances though. :thumbdown2:

 

[Obsidian]

If there was a way I could guarantee I'd get a girl, I would still have kids with this. Having a son and passing on hair loss is just unethical in my view, however. I'm not sure I could live with that.

Wow, you've gone from middle of the road in your views with hair loss to hanging with UM, HP, dudemon, saf, and so forth.

 

[Boondock]

Maybe not. I've seriously re-thought whether it would be right for me to have
kids since I realized I had hair loss.

If there was a way I could guarantee I'd get a girl, I would still have kids with this.

I cannot believe you are saying this. It is known that male pattern baldness is inherited more often from the father of your mother and not from your own father. The pattern and degree (NW7) I have comes from him (my grandpa from my mother's side, my father is still around NW4 with a completely different pattern than mine). In fact I have yet to meet someone having the MBP of his father.

So if you were to have kids you should rather prefer boys, not girls, although I find it silly to have preference based on anything.

I have a daughter; so what? By the time her children will eventually face hair loss (35-45 years from now) MBP will probably be a thing of the past.

Well, my male pattern baldness is entirely from my father's side. There is none on my mother's side.

They said in the 60s that hair loss would be over by 2000. What happened there?

 

[Vox]

Well, my male pattern baldness is entirely from my father's side. There is none on my mother's side.

Of course this can happen too, it is just less common.

They said in the 60s that hair loss would be over by 2000. What happened there?

Never heard of such a thing. But it matters not. You cannot set precise time frames for the outcome of the research.

Besides, there are far worse conditions in life than hair loss. Medicine has much more important problems to solve and this is, IMHO, one of the reasons male pattern baldness is still around. But with the progress of genetic engineering a number of medical conditions and diseases will find an end. In my mind, a treatment for male pattern baldness would rather come as a byproduct of more general tissue regeneration techniques.

 

[somone uk]

That guy doesn't pull of baldness well look at the size of his forehead :whistle:
(i know i did this in paint but i cbas learning gimp atm)

but seriously i don't get why people come to hairloss forums and tell people to shave their head, it's not even good trolling

 

[Draco88]

^^lol i couldn't help but to laugh..

 

[bigentries]

but seriously i don't get why people come to hairloss forums and tell people to shave their head, it's not even good trolling

Then what should we tell people?
The majority of male pattern baldness sufferers don't want to deal with the stigma of a hair piece and at some levels of baldness, a hair transplant is not an option anymore.

As someone said, shaving is not trying to hide you are balding.
For me is like carrying a limp with gangrene, it has no uses anymore, so it's better just to cut it and move on with your life

 

[HatPrisoner91]

Then what should we tell people?
The majority of male pattern baldness sufferers don't want to deal with the stigma of a hair piece and at some levels of baldness, a hair transplant is not an option anymore.

As someone said, shaving is not trying to hide you are balding.
For me is like carrying a limp with gangrene, it has no uses anymore, so it's better just to cut it and move on with your life

Being one who tried hairpieces, it's even a worse hell than having no hair at all. You are living in constant fear of wondering if it looks ok, if the hair is shedding (that is the worst when it does), whether it's turning red from the sun (which it does), whether any sort of physical activity or wind will blow it off by accident and the worse, if people are walking around and noticing. And many times they do. You just wait to be asked the dreaded question of whether you are wearing one.

 

[MrBastard]

Some people here is way too negative... Sure it sucks bigtime to have hairloss, but its not the end of your life.
When it come to girls and hairloss they dont take it so hard as most guys here. There are ofc some girls who is completely turned off by hairloss but there is also some who dont care and some who think it is sexy with a bald man..

Me myself have altered my personalty being more confident the past 2 years due to things that happened in my life. I noticed a HUGE difference in how girls like me.


So you got hairloss, deal with it as good as you can and do stuff/acomplish goals in your life and raise your confidence. What dont kill you can only make you stronger!