It is difficult to browse dating apps without having my self-esteem undermined. I attached three pictures that affected me due to different reasons.
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The first one has a woman showing off her body and in particular her ***. I will never be with her but let's leave that aside... the issue is that it's just so easy for her. That picture alone will get her a high match rate. It's also not an option for men. Women routinely complain about men who show shirtless pics or gym selfies, men are not allowed to show off in such a blatant manner, we're expected to be more subtle. Women don't face that constraint, I see more cleavage and booty when browsing dating profiles than at any other times. So, even if a man gets a nice body, he needs to organize an entire production to get photos that show that off.
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The second shows a woman who is practically goddess level. It's not just that I'll never date her, I'll probably never interact with her at all. I don't see women that hot at work, at my hobbies, etc. They're probably all exceedingly wealthy, they work in either medicine, management, or finance or even don't work, they live in richer neighborhoods, etc. Also, her picture is bothering me because she's wearing white (which gets dirty easily) yet she's interacting with her dog. She can probably spend several thousand dollars a year on dry-cleaning and not notice. Maybe she spends over $10,000/year on clothing. I wonder how much she spent on that handbag?
The last picture is of a woman who is theoretically attainable. She's not trying at all. She has a middling photo, and her profile says the most generic thing ever "like to have fun". Thank you for that insight. A lot of women actually write that in their profiles, because women don't need to try as hard. She can be generic as f***, sit back, and wait for a hot guy to bombard her with jokes and offer to buy her an expensive dinner.
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