CaptainForehead
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I remember what this was about, and my reasoning was that fat people tend to look after themselves poorly in general, don't care about hygiene, obviously their looks, in most cases this seeps into other aspects of their lives. I've worked with a lot of different people, and the ones who consistently smell? Never the type to go to the gym and get their vitamins. Never organised. Eat doritos and dip at their f*****g desk (OK that's just one example).
This is not an overblown exaggeration, this is reality. People who don't give a sh*t about themselves tend to let themselves go in all ways, and that includes taking a shower daily.
This kind of pains me to bring up because we're talking about a good friend of mine, but a girl I know and work with for years used to be slim and pretty. She's still somewhat pretty, but in the last 2 years she's put on a decent amount of weight, but she's still salvageable, I try and give advice and fitness and even I've stopped eating shitty take out food so we both can eat healthy and this is more for her than myself most times.
She's trying, she hates her fat, like any sane person does, there's nothing redeemable about it. She even brought up her mother who is very overweight, and this is related to a huge point I've been making, once you go down that slippery slope in your 20's, it gets harder and harder to break habits and accept yourself. When I say "accept yourself" I don't mean that in the blackg approved liberal special snowflake fairytale, I mean accept the fact that you hate your appearance, and have let yourself go. Just like a guy who bic's, you are kidding yourself, you'll always subconsciously look at yourself and think "well, this is sh*t".
So that girl, who always looked pristine when she was slim, like 8/10, now will look a mess at least one of the days of the week, and related to what we're talking about, she often smells. Not as much as maybe 6 months or a year ago, but there were times when she would smell consistently for 3-4 days running, and it was obvious she wasn't washing. Other people mentioned it as even bothersome, it almost got to the point where I had to tell her as her supervisor.
She hates her appearance, her being overweight, the possibility she'll turn out like her mother, how her decisions are putting her health into question for the future, as her mother is at only 58. Since going to a boot camp and eating healthy at my insistence (and only because she complained daily about how she hates what she's eating and doing to herself, which again, is a cry for help) she is taking care of herself.
I wasn't even thinking about this when I wrote about fat people smelling, but it's definitely related. I did not say that fat people will always smell, I said they are more likely to smell if they are fat, because they don't give a sh*t about themselves and have low self-esteem.
I don't know why this came up on youtube but it's director Kevin Smith, who actually looks trimmer than I ever recall, and even younger. He spends the first 2 minutes talking about how much he hates watching himself on talk shows, and simply refuses to do them, because he looks like jabba the hut when sitting down. He even mentions how he has 2 talk shows himself that he's devised, and he specifically would base the format on him standing up, because he hates his appearance so much when he watches himself sitting down. Like I mean, f*****g sitting down? A guy who is regularly filmed and photographed, and can't bring himself to see how he looks while sitting down? Something we need to do all the f*****g time?
That is extreme, on body dysmorphic levels, but that's how fat people, on a whole, constantly feel. And you're happy to sit back and watch them feel this way.
Like everyone else I've known lots of fat people, and even the most cheerful and positive, extroverted ones, will always at some point in time, mention their weight, even in a fleeting joking manner. "I probably shouldn't take another piece, look at me! Ha!" (cry for help).
There is a sinking depression everyone feels when they haven't made the most of their opportunities in life. Just like that girl who was 8/10, now she's heading for obesity, she knows that bad decisions have affected her life. Her current boyfriend is an absolute maniac, he's not bad looking but he talks total nonsense and literally every person I've known to have met him, they instantly bring up how insane he is, it's just a barrage of fantastical stories that make no sense. She has to put up with him now, she can't get a normal looking slim guy who is also normal mentally, she has to settle with someone that looks OK, but no sane person would really want to spend their time with. This results in many arguments between them, which I hear and witness all the time.
So yes, if you're ugly, you make the best of what you can in other ways. If you're bald, you'll hate it but you at least know it's not your fault, it's genetics.
If you're fat, that's nearly always, completely your fault. And the guilt and shame you feel results in more guilty and shameful decisions, in terms of your health, diet, and inevitably other aspects of your life.
That's a pretty uniquely sh*t feeling to have, unlike baldness or ugliness, and they kid themselves "LOL I really shouldn't have another bite! But I'm being a bit naughty today!". Yes, naughty today, yesterday, the day before, and tomorrow. Eternal guilt and shame.
No self control, no focus, no discipline, and this will manifest in many varieties of poor decision making in life.
Good post.