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This should be the first thing HairLossTalk.com tells people when they click "get started" on the homepage
Response From A Girl I've Been Seeing About My Hair Loss
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This should be the first thing HairLossTalk.com tells people when they click "get started" on the homepage
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Nah, I disagree. I think you can bring it up once, in a casually way, if it's the right situation. Especially when you're getting prepared to shave it all off. Older, more mature women aren't so turned off by a little honest insecurity.
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Bro I know you're riding the high of how well that girl took your comment, and I'm happy for you and hope things continue to go well with her, but I don't think her kind of response is going to be the norm with most people
Idk...every situation is different, but I think 99% of the time the impact of creating any conversation about one's hairloss will be a negative one
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I think it's pretty easy to use the "DON'T TELL HER EVER" advice only when you don't have to face this inevitable reality. Fred also gave the same advice to someone who was getting into a relationship but also planning on getting a hair transplant early next year, the guys concern was that while having a committed girlfriend, he has to inexplicably disappear for 2 weeks, coming back with his head noticeably weird looking, crusts, etc. The advice? "STILL DON'T TELL HER". I mean, f*** up.
I would say that unfortunately, females will never understand completely, if she does, you're very lucky. However, what choice do you have? At some point it is going to come up, especially if you're on treatments, especially if you plan on having a hair transplant some time in the future, you may as well test the waters if you're serious about it.
I would say that unfortunately, females will never understand completely, if she does, you're very lucky. However, what choice do you have? At some point it is going to come up, especially if you're on treatments, especially if you plan on having a hair transplant some time in the future, you may as well test the waters if you're serious about it.
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That was me lol
I didn't get into a relationship. I never ended up hitting the girl up even though she wanted me to
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Haha wow.
Well still, your concerns were understandable, you'd have to disappear without explanation from someone you're in a relationship with, and return with crusty little red spots all over your buzzed head. And you were being told to pretend it's nothing? What the actual f***.
Basically the advice wasn't "DONT TELL HER" it was "DONT GO OUT WITH HER" because that's practically the only solution you were left with, if you insist on "never" telling her.
Well still, your concerns were understandable, you'd have to disappear without explanation from someone you're in a relationship with, and return with crusty little red spots all over your buzzed head. And you were being told to pretend it's nothing? What the actual f***.
Basically the advice wasn't "DONT TELL HER" it was "DONT GO OUT WITH HER" because that's practically the only solution you were left with, if you insist on "never" telling her.
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ok... so the inevitable alternative is this: I continue to wear toppix around her at all times, don't let her touch my hair, don't shower with her and avoid the rain. OR... I do none of that and just let her reveal it on her own and act all fake confident, which any one can pick up on. Either way, there is NO hiding your insecurity, so every one else's suggestions are just pointless. We had a vulnerable moment. I lost half my hair in the last ten months. I told her that it f*cking sucks. If she is all, "oh my gawd he's so insecure, blah blah" then I wouldn't want to date her anyways.
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I like h.i... he knows what he's talking about. this is the real world. If you have a connection with a women, no you don't have to whine and cry and moan about your insecurities, but you can reveal them. When I am really, really into a woman, I find it amazing when she reveals an insecurity to me. It makes her vulnerable and shows me that she's putting trust in me not to use it against her. These things strengthen relationships when done the right way.
She consoled me about my situation. She wasn't a dick. I cannot see a woman this kind using occasional instances like this against me. I am that dude that listens to women, orders them their favorite sushi that they told me about months before and then go down on them like it's going out of style. Good women like good dudes, insecurities at all. It becomes a problem when said insecurity actually starts to INHIBIT the relationship.
Runninghair
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Fred its not socially taught to hate baldness. And its not girls fault.
I can look at myself now with hair and feel good and then look in mirror after shaving it sly and id look horrendous.
Human attraction is nature buddy and unfortunately baldness although natural makes u less attractive to women. Its not because their bitchhes its just the laws of attraction. Same way your attention is grabbed when a woman walks past you with a tight *** lol.
You got a hair transplant for a reason mate....
I can look at myself now with hair and feel good and then look in mirror after shaving it sly and id look horrendous.
Human attraction is nature buddy and unfortunately baldness although natural makes u less attractive to women. Its not because their bitchhes its just the laws of attraction. Same way your attention is grabbed when a woman walks past you with a tight *** lol.
You got a hair transplant for a reason mate....
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Exactly. It's easy advice to give unless you actually face it yourself, not on a hair loss forum but in *reality*, the "under no circumstances do you tell her!" is so easy to say if you aren't living with it yourself.
Like I say, if you can avoid talking about it, do that, but there comes a point where you can't. It's difficult enough hiding hair loss from close friends and family, and the only people who don't have to worry about this probably don't have these close personal ties and relationships in the first place.
Hiding it from your partner? Only for so long, again the only people who could think this is a realistic possibility don't ever have a partner to worry about in the first place.
Try going away for even a weekend with a girl, never mind a proper holiday, never mind living with her, and in my case having to secretly apply minoxidil (hardest part), nizoral (easiest), and even popping a finasteride every evening is difficult. If you think you can lie your way through a lifetime of this, then you don't know what it's like.
Which is why the source of such advice is questionable at best.
blackg
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Thank God!
Great post David. This is something that I can agree on 100 percent.
And every Australian woman I have come across each had a variety of differing opinions about what makes a man desirable.
Dare I say.. That even included, for some... yikes!!, bald men.
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No, that's not how things work.
Stop fabricating arguments based on evolutionary dynamics / genetics / etc. You have no background in the subject matter.
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I remember my coworker once made a negative comment about some guy being bald. I asked her:
'What's wrong with baldness?'
'What's NOT wrong with baldness?'
I didn't bother carrying the conversation further, no matter how much logic or rationale you try to bring to the conversation about how baldness is socially crippling, fullheads and especially women DO NOT want to hear any of it. Bald men are essentially necessary to them to distinguish rejects from the non-rejects. Essentially, bald men are scapegoats.
'What's wrong with baldness?'
'What's NOT wrong with baldness?'
I didn't bother carrying the conversation further, no matter how much logic or rationale you try to bring to the conversation about how baldness is socially crippling, fullheads and especially women DO NOT want to hear any of it. Bald men are essentially necessary to them to distinguish rejects from the non-rejects. Essentially, bald men are scapegoats.
Lol,what a mentality you have...
Kid,men don't talk about unicorns..
Try to get mature mentally..
I want to add one interesting thing..
My cousin sister was up for the marriage,she is post graduate in commerce.
One bald guy who was about 32 approach him,he was just graduate,
Also he was not having a good job,was having small shop.
I loll at his appoach,i said NOPE.
I send that guy pic to one girl who is closer to me,she immediately looking at the pic said...
Eeeeee.. Taklu(Marathi word) means Baldy..
She smashed jokes about his look.
Loll,she knew i am bald but she never made any comments on my hair,but i got her perspective about
a thing which i call "Negative Halo Effect."
I also did yes,yes to her views like i am NOrwood Zero.
She said he should have looked into mirror before approaching.
But we at hairloss talk have popular opinion that every women has a right to speak about her point of view..
And we should respect it.
And this is not that girl's fault
Its society's Fault.
Its in out hand to create our self worth,like other's are doing.
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Durr...Try to get speak English goodly
FFS, the point is it was a joke about how it's mythical, like a unicorn.
L
Lol,i love people who have mentality like you
If you don't have matter to fight,start grammar terrorism.
I am coming to your home,i will not pay the fees,teach me English.
Put your address here.
That guy is my New English Teacher.
Finally i found my English Guru.loll.
Durr...Try to get speak English goodly
FFS, the point is it was a joke about how it's mythical, like a unicorn.
Lol,i love people who have mentality like you
If you don't have matter to fight,start grammar terrorism.
I am coming to your home,i will not pay the fees,teach me English.
Put your address here.
That guy is my New English Teacher.
Finally i found my English Guru.loll.