Response From A Girl I've Been Seeing About My Hair Loss

[F2005]

This world is f*cking backwards. I have NEVER complained about anything to anyone. ever. not even once. This forum is the only place I have ever vented. I have ONE thing that's effecting my mental well being and I am discouraged from talking about it. While the entitled, spoiled rich girls that reside in the suburbia that now surrounds me b**ch and moan about how they can't find the right foundation for hours straight at Panera f*cking Bread.

I totally agree with you. I never complained about anything before hair loss. When people tell me sh*t like "stop complaining" or "if it wasn't this, it would be something else", I always respond by saying "what else have I complained about prior to hair loss?" And they never have a response. I have stretch marks from my powerlifting days, I was significantly overweight at one point, and I lost my virginity much later than most people. Yet did I ever complain about any of it to anyone? Absolutely not. Never.

I think it was Fred or Evillocks who brought up how a woman at their workplace was completely devastated because they had a bad haircut and they were "really desperate" to fix it. People do not even know how good they have it. Some people truly have a golden horseshoe up their ***, through no fault of their own. Comparing a bad haircut to hair loss is like comparing a mosquito bite to a shark attack. And to whoever it was that made it like their bad haircut was the end of the world: "my heart pisses alligator sh*t for ya, honey."

 

[shookwun]

I had 3 girlfriends when I had my hair transplant.

Told the three of them. Two left me for shady reasons: "we're too different", "I don't want to be with anyone right now."

One of them stayed, the ugliest of the three, unsurprisingly, and she regularly mocked me about it, and said I was obsessed for making one comment about hair loss every week.

Food for thought buckthorn.

Must be persona & charisma related. Not having enough ambition, and goals in life!



'I like you, but not as much as I thought'

'I am not ready for such a commitment;'

'I have a lot of my mind, and need a break'

' I need to focus on myself'

 

[Joan]

My mom drives like 40 minutes away to get her hair done by this specific stylist. She borderline starves herself to stay ridiculously skinny.

When I mentioned to her I wanted a hair transplant....no support, but flat out discouragement.
When I tell her I don't want to eat something because I like keeping lean, "oh you can afford to eat it"

Wow. What was her reason for discouraging you?

 

[EvilLocks]

I think it was Fred or Evillocks who brought up how a woman at their workplace was completely devastated because they had a bad haircut and they were "really desperate" to fix it.

I think that was Fred. I have experienced close friends of mine whining (almost crying) about their failed hair cuts in front of me, though. This has happened several times, although they know about my struggles with hair loss. I think it's disrespectful to talk about that in front of me, but I never say anything. Like a few people over here said; I never complain about my hair loss to anyone but my parents and the people on this very forum. I have only discussed hair loss with my friends once, and even then I had to be drunk to do it.

 

[EvilLocks]

Women and Gay men are allowed to OBSESS about their looks. OBSESS. And it is simply normal. For example, women can talk about DYING their hair for hours straight and it's considered completely normal. I CAN'T even mention the fact that MY F*CKING HAIR IS FALLING OUT without coming across as vain and insecure??

You are right, that's truly unfair. At least as a woman I have the "right" to complain about it (although I never do, except on this forum) and even get sympathy, but you men are supposed to keep it all inside and never complain. It's not right.

 

[hellouser]

Women and Gay men are allowed to OBSESS about their looks. OBSESS. And it is simply normal. For example, women can talk about DYING their hair for hours straight and it's considered completely normal. I CAN'T even mention the fact that MY F*CKING HAIR IS FALLING OUT without coming across as vain and insecure?? It's all true. You guys are right. Who am I fooling? I always feel like a pathetic fool when I bring it up. I have crazy sympathy for my 70 year old mother who's losing her hair (which will grow back because it's simply Telogen Effluvium, not androgen related) and I fail to have even an ounce of sympathy for myself, as a single 34 year old who's about to transition from 32 years of thick hair to potentially looking like I am sick.

This world is f*cking backwards. I have NEVER complained about anything to anyone. ever. not even once. This forum is the only place I have ever vented. I have ONE thing that's effecting my mental well being and I am discouraged from talking about it. While the entitled, spoiled rich girls that reside in the suburbia that now surrounds me b**ch and moan about how they can't find the right foundation for hours straight at Panera f*cking Bread.

That's a very reasonable and rationale argument. Too bad society would reject it regardless. I wonder why?!

 

[kj6723]

Wow. What was her reason for discouraging you?

"Everyone loses their hair"

I'm assuming she's referring to men...she has no visible hair loss at 60 years old herself.

She also mentioned someone she knows who got a transplant, saying "I don't think they last." I've seen this dude and his hair has in fact gone to sh*t...most likely had a sub par surgeon, although I don't know the specifics of his situation for sure.

 

[parisienne]

Yo Jessie, b**ch!

I've not been around for long since I don't have any damn motherfucking time to research anything - I just wanted to hop on to wish you the best with that girl

 

[buckthorn]

Yo Jessie, b**ch!

I've not been around for long since I don't have any damn motherfucking time to research anything - I just wanted to hop on to wish you the best with that girl

I speak for EVERYONE here when I say WE MISS YOU!!!!!

 

[Joan]

"Everyone loses their hair"

I'm assuming she's referring to men...she has no visible hair loss at 60 years old herself.

She also mentioned someone she knows who got a transplant, saying "I don't think they last." I've seen this dude and his hair has in fact gone to sh*t...most likely had a sub par surgeon, although I don't know the specifics of his situation for sure.

Everyone loses his/her hair to different degrees, true--eventually. I'm wondering if she colors her hair, since just about everyone grays too.

I wouldn't blame her if she's concerned you'll end up either worse off or back to where you started only poorer. I hope she'll eventually support you after you've done your homework and found a reputable hair transplant surgeon.

 

[kj6723]

Everyone loses his/her hair to different degrees, true--eventually. I'm wondering if she colors her hair, since just about everyone grays too.

I wouldn't blame her if she's concerned you'll end up either worse off or back to where you started only poorer. I hope she'll eventually support you after you've done your homework and found a reputable hair transplant surgeon.

She's been coloring her hair for as long as I remember. I've never seen a grey hair on her. I haven't gotten a good glimpse of her hairline in a while, as she always wears her hair down, but there's no visible thinning on top...I know some women with visibly thinning hair, and she's not one of them. There are pretty solid hair genes seen in the men in her family too. Her father died in his 80's as a thick NW2.5, and her brother, in his late 50's is a thick NW2(still a super good looking dude who is well liked by EVERYONE...coincidence that he also still has a full head of hair? I doubt it). She has an older brother who is NW3ish...seems he got the worst of the hair genes, but I believe he only even reached 3 territory in the last 10 years or so.

I'm sure her and my dad (who was also unsupportive) are not educated on modern hair transplantation...probably still picturing plugs of the pre 1990's days. I don't feel like trying to have another conversation with them about it...it's exhausting just to think about bringing it up. I only brought it up to them in the first place because I live with them, so they will likely be the only ones I can't hide it from. I already have surgery booked with Dr. Rahal in January. He's legit, I've done my research.

 

[CaptainForehead]

Women and Gay men are allowed to OBSESS about their looks. OBSESS. And it is simply normal. For example, women can talk about DYING their hair for hours straight and it's considered completely normal. I CAN'T even mention the fact that MY F*CKING HAIR IS FALLING OUT without coming across as vain and insecure?? It's all true. You guys are right. Who am I fooling? I always feel like a pathetic fool when I bring it up. I have crazy sympathy for my 70 year old mother who's losing her hair (which will grow back because it's simply Telogen Effluvium, not androgen related) and I fail to have even an ounce of sympathy for myself, as a single 34 year old who's about to transition from 32 years of thick hair to potentially looking like I am sick.

This world is f*cking backwards. I have NEVER complained about anything to anyone. ever. not even once. This forum is the only place I have ever vented. I have ONE thing that's effecting my mental well being and I am discouraged from talking about it. While the entitled, spoiled rich girls that reside in the suburbia that now surrounds me b**ch and moan about how they can't find the right foundation for hours straight at Panera f*cking Bread.

You've got ranting skills, buckthorn!

 

[kj6723]

You've got ranting skills, buckthorn!

Lol I do enjoy the rants of buck, especially when he brings mention of the decaying rats nest into it

 

[CaptainForehead]

Lol I do enjoy the rants of buck, especially when he brings mention of the decaying rats nest into it

He's got a way with words for sure.
"While the entitled, spoiled rich girls that reside in the suburbia that now surrounds me b**ch and moan about how they can't find the right foundation for hours straight at Panera f*cking Bread."
Quite brilliant.

 

[That Guy]

Women and Gay men are allowed to OBSESS about their looks. OBSESS. And it is simply normal. For example, women can talk about DYING their hair for hours straight and it's considered completely normal. I CAN'T even mention the fact that MY F*CKING HAIR IS FALLING OUT without coming across as vain and insecure?? It's all true. You guys are right. Who am I fooling? I always feel like a pathetic fool when I bring it up. I have crazy sympathy for my 70 year old mother who's losing her hair (which will grow back because it's simply Telogen Effluvium, not androgen related) and I fail to have even an ounce of sympathy for myself, as a single 34 year old who's about to transition from 32 years of thick hair to potentially looking like I am sick.

This world is f*cking backwards. I have NEVER complained about anything to anyone. ever. not even once. This forum is the only place I have ever vented. I have ONE thing that's effecting my mental well being and I am discouraged from talking about it. While the entitled, spoiled rich girls that reside in the suburbia that now surrounds me b**ch and moan about how they can't find the right foundation for hours straight at Panera f*cking Bread.

Next time, warn us to brace for impact before you drop truth bombs like this.

 

[Joan]

She's been coloring her hair for as long as I remember. I've never seen a grey hair on her. I haven't gotten a good glimpse of her hairline in a while, as she always wears her hair down, but there's no visible thinning on top...I know some women with visibly thinning hair, and she's not one of them. There are pretty solid hair genes seen in the men in her family too. Her father died in his 80's as a thick NW2.5, and her brother, in his late 50's is a thick NW2(still a super good looking dude who is well liked by EVERYONE...coincidence that he also still has a full head of hair? I doubt it). She has an older brother who is NW3ish...seems he got the worst of the hair genes, but I believe he only even reached 3 territory in the last 10 years or so.

I'm sure her and my dad (who was also unsupportive) are not educated on modern hair transplantation...probably still picturing plugs of the pre 1990's days. I don't feel like trying to have another conversation with them about it...it's exhausting just to think about bringing it up. I only brought it up to them in the first place because I live with them, so they will likely be the only ones I can't hide it from. I already have surgery booked with Dr. Rahal in January. He's legit, I've done my research.

Let's hope your mother follows in the same path as her family. I wonder, though, how she'd react if her hair started noticeably thinning, since "everyone loses their hair"--even women at some point (and, believe me, I observe every woman's hair). Anyway, good luck to you. You're doing what's right for you and what will make you feel the best you possibly can about yourself, which, in turn, will make your life happier.

 

[buckthorn]

Lol I do enjoy the rants of buck, especially when he brings mention of the decaying rats nest into it

it's not a joke man.. I am seriously concerned about waking up one day to discover a family of f*cking mice nesting in there. Or a f*cking blue jay trying to lay eggs in it.

 

[kj6723]

it's not a joke man.. I am seriously concerned about waking up one day to discover a family of f*cking mice nesting in there. Or a f*cking blue jay trying to lay eggs in it.

lmao dude, if you're trying to make me not laugh, you're failing miserably

 

[Jimbo5]

Pretty much this.

I used to start a lot of conversations about working out, diet, fashion, skin care...looking good in general is just an interest of mine.

I don't do this anymore. If someone asks me why I'm ripped I shrug, "eh, I work out a bit."

My mom drives like 40 minutes away to get her hair done by this specific stylist. She borderline starves herself to stay ridiculously skinny.

When I mentioned to her I wanted a hair transplant....no support, but flat out discouragement.
When I tell her I don't want to eat something because I like keeping lean, "oh you can afford to eat it"

Did you inherit this sickening condition from mommy's side of the family?

And how old are you? Why do you still need mommy's approval and/or support ... for anything...

 

[kj6723]

Did you inherit this sickening condition from mommy's side of the family?

And how old are you? Why do you still need mommy's approval and/or support ... for anything...

...the f***

suck my dick