Social Skills And Your Looks.
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But lots of times social skills are directly related to how good you feel about yourself. Before my problems with my hair loss, I was more outgoing, energetic, lively, and fun to be around. But when a person's looks are being destroyed, they tend to withdraw from society as they become more angry, depressed, and bitter. Furthermore, when a person feels good, they are prone to being more thoughtful, compassionate, funny, and outgoing. But when they feel bad, they tend to be more angry, withdrawn, and sad. One thing that I do agree with Spencer Kobren on is that how we look has a direct correlation to how we feel. And how we feel has a direct correlation with our actions.
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I agree with most of this. However, I would also add that it is not only how you like yourself that makes you angry or bitter: it is also how you perceive others liking you.
There was a time in which every "n" days I would receive a mild compliment about the way I looked. Since this has not happened anymore, I have found it more difficult to want to go and be among people I don't know and be kind to them
For the same reason, I really would not want to be in the shoes of beautiful women who look great at 25 and start to look old at 40. I guess the shock must be unbearable.
marco75
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When you are good looking you get complimented on it from people. Women want to be around you and treat you like a king. Guys want to be your friend (unless they are jealous incels), life is good and you want to be out amongst people because of the reactions, better than any drug. So you can't help being confident and friendly. Insecurity and lack of confidence really hamper your social life.
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Compare your demeanor and attitude before you started losing hair to afterwards. If you don't like the way you look when you look at yourself in the mirror, you will believe others don't like when they look at you either.
So yes, your social skills will take a hit.
So yes, your social skills will take a hit.
alexpie2
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Speaking personally,
I have somewhat bad social skills from a combination of:
- mild autism;
- Going to a religious jewish school, which makes for a sheltered childhood as the people there were delusional religious fundamentalists;
- Growing up in poverty, so limited experiences and summer camps, etc;
- Having a crazy mother who screamed for a few hours a day (seriously);
- Having to work extra hard in university because it was my only chance to become middle class and I had no safety net;
- etc;
I'm good at listening to criticism. I've been told, for example, that I chew with my mouth open, and that I criticize everything, over the years, so over time those habits can go away with a lot of effort.
It's a tough bind to crawl out of. I'm working on it but it's a lot of work. I'm going to a lot of random meetups just to talk to people, check meetup.com. If there's a social outing at work, I go. A friend had suggested I need more first-date experience, so a while back I drastically lowered my standards in online dating. However, this is now on hold as my cell phone is broken so I can't use tinder.
I'd like to be less socially awkward, but it's a great effort.
I have somewhat bad social skills from a combination of:
- mild autism;
- Going to a religious jewish school, which makes for a sheltered childhood as the people there were delusional religious fundamentalists;
- Growing up in poverty, so limited experiences and summer camps, etc;
- Having a crazy mother who screamed for a few hours a day (seriously);
- Having to work extra hard in university because it was my only chance to become middle class and I had no safety net;
- etc;
I'm good at listening to criticism. I've been told, for example, that I chew with my mouth open, and that I criticize everything, over the years, so over time those habits can go away with a lot of effort.
It's a tough bind to crawl out of. I'm working on it but it's a lot of work. I'm going to a lot of random meetups just to talk to people, check meetup.com. If there's a social outing at work, I go. A friend had suggested I need more first-date experience, so a while back I drastically lowered my standards in online dating. However, this is now on hold as my cell phone is broken so I can't use tinder.
I'd like to be less socially awkward, but it's a great effort.
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I just watched The Fear of 13 on Netflix, it's a documentary, great case study of how social skills depend on environment.
just wanted to chime in that when i was 15 i was 300 pounds, fat as f***, had acne, was labelled as an emo kid (due to hairstyle and choice of clothing, and the immediate friends i had) and still was very popular and dated hot girls (dead srs). Its actually when i lost weight and realized i looked semi decent when my confidence was lowered and i had to work in order to be as not shy as i used to be, but i had some serious charm even as a fat f***. Thats when i realized girls really do like confidence... id honestly post a pic here but its embaressing af lol.
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I agree with you, Fred. Sexual attraction is purely genetic. Makes me think about that bald guy I dated, yes I prefer fullheads (as would anyone), but he just did it for me. I can't put my finger on what it was, just something about him made me absolutely crazy. And yes, before anyone points out that I'm a hypocrite if I prefer fullheads to baldies; I would date a bald man again. Absolutely.
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you need to accept the whole traveling the world for exotic pussy life style. Of
before you actually developed emotions. An initial date, and you find out he's bald at a ripe age of 25?
Would you date a guy that wore a artificial hair apparatus?
before you actually developed emotions. An initial date, and you find out he's bald at a ripe age of 25?
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The bald me would absolutely date a man in a hair piece. In a way I would actually prefer it, as that would give us something in common, and I'd be less afraid of him leaving me for a fullhead girl.
But I have to be honest (as always); the fullhead me would probably find it weird. I don't know if it would be a dealbreaker if we really hit it off, though. If you are genuinely sexually attracted to someone I hardly think a hair piece would make a difference.
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I'm imagining me and my boyfriend (if I had one) gluing each other's hairpieces on now, that would be something lol. A real bonding experience
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CRAIGS LIST M4M SECTION?
You encouraging Fred now lol? Your kid could be called Fredlocks.
I meant to say to you evillocks, I've noticed 2-3 really bald (young women) on my daily commute. Maybe it's getting more common. Diets, chemicals etc.
Yes, I had one great-looking guy tell me that he attracted plenty of women because he was "friendly". Sure.