What about when you shower together or are just hanging around the house?
Firstly, 5'9" is tall enough for me so I won't need
elevator shoes or the leg bone lengthening surgery.
But if I was between 5'6" and 5'8" I would probably use
the elevator shoes and I would feel very secure in them
because it's not like a hairpiece where a woman would
be looking right at them whenever we talked face to face.
Elevator shoes would be on my feet and she would not be
examining my feet as part of typical interaction.
If I was under 5'6" I would strongly consider the leg lengthening
surgery but I would not jump right into it without first find the best
surgeon doing it and getting myself in the optimum health for
surgery.
As far as a man showering with a woman while he is wearing elevator
shoes goes - by the time a man is showering with a woman they would
be emotionally attached and by then she would not make a big issue of
his height because she would be bonded to him.
For example, I typically don't shower with women in the first few dates.
And if I were the man in question, I would not need elevator shoes because
I'm 5'9", and if I were shorter and if I did use elevator shoes it's unlikely that
we would be together anymore by the time the issue of showering together
came up because I typically just hang with a woman a short while and then
move on to other women before the issue of showering with her comes up.
I'm assuming I would have my hair back when I typed the above.