This Guy Pulls Of Bald Look Very Well

[Afro_Vacancy]

OK, I booked a ticket down to Washington DC, I'm meeting a woman there tomorrow, Washington and Baltimore are 45 minutes away, I'm taking the train as it's easier and cheaper.

My attitude to women is truly pathetic. Yesterday I texted her to say that I had not been in touch for five days because I was busy preparing for a presentation, that it was mr priority this week, but that I was still look forward to Sunday. I was relieved because she responded with ... "great ! good luck ! I'm looking forward to sunday as well !" instead of "actually, something came up, I don't think I can make Sunday".

So I'm relaxed now. Date may or may not go well. But at least I'm spending a few hours in DC, and we'll get to see a nice museum. I've been told by multiple that the National Museum of African American History and Culture is very good. Maybe we can have food afterwards, or I'll just walk around constitution avenue.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

My grandma goes to the hairdresser once a week and as far as I know she does not have or want to have sex!There is a sense at least in women in wanting to be beautiful outside of a seduction context. It is like if you were saying the only reason why people don't want to age is because of sex... that is not true.
I value my hair because they are part of me.

But your grandma was once beautiful, maybe she still is since French women don't age.

Notice also that there are hairdressers. We have an elaborate social ritual (going to the hairdresser) for a very specific bodyparts, which most bodyparts don't have. There are no health benefits to having nice hair, it's only because society places a sexual value on hair. There are then associated benefits with going to the hairdresser, you are part of society and you can feel normal.

Age has value outside of social interactions. It's what allows you to live. Eventually we'll be cripples unfortunately.

 

[Rudiger]

My attitude to women is truly pathetic. Yesterday I texted her to say that I had not been in touch for five days because I was busy preparing for a presentation, that it was mr priority this week, but that I was still look forward to Sunday. I was relieved because she responded with ... "great ! good luck ! I'm looking forward to sunday as well !" instead of "actually, something came up, I don't think I can make Sunday".

That's pretty normal, pathetic would be putting off your presentation to text her non stop.

 

[Rudiger]

Age has value outside of social interactions. It's what allows you to live. Eventually we'll be cripples unfortunately.

Damn son, that sure went south quick. Think I'll crawl into bed now.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

That's pretty normal, pathetic would be putting off your presentation to text her non stop.

Yes, my behaviour was normal and rational in this context, what was pathetic was my relief at her not cancelling.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Damn son, that sure went south quick. Think I'll crawl into bed now.

No, there will be plenty of time for you to crawl in bed in fifty years.

For now, crawl out.

BRB, I'm going to go shower, then get a haircut, then go to the gym.

 

[Rudiger]

Yes, my behaviour was normal and rational in this context, what was pathetic was my relief at her not cancelling.

If you haven't replied to her all week then I'm surprised she didn't cancel.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

If you haven't replied to her all week then I'm surprised she didn't cancel.

It's a first date. We set it up on Sunday or Monday to be this Sunday. There was no conversation since.

I don't believe and don't advocate for extended conversations prior to the first date. Conversations are best in person.

 

[sunchyme1]

Hair allows you to have a social life = to live

pas would you ever date a bald guy or a guy who wears a wig?

 

[Rudiger]

I think it's probably for the best David left as the attractiveness of Pas' granny meant this conversation was going down a weird alley.

 

[Rudiger]

It's a first date. We set it up on Sunday or Monday to be this Sunday. There was no conversation since.

I don't believe and don't advocate for extended conversations prior to the first date. Conversations are best in person.

Ah I see, if neither of you had contacted each other than yes it's pretty normal she didn't cancel. Maybe a little strange you expected the worst, I wouldn't say pathetic though.

And although I don't stick to particular "rules" with that type of thing, I'll text chat a girl I haven't gone on a date with, no big deal, but I see your point. Sometimes, not often, I find initially meeting a girl I know nothing about to be an anxious experience, I normally get over it quickly, but pre-texting means I know things about her and I have an idea of what to chat about.

If anything I find this a little pathetic of myself, it's like I'm briefed on the situation and the strategy to deploy.

 

[Rudiger]

yes

Ok but would you f*** him though?

 

[sunchyme1]

Ok but would you f*** him though?

would you ever consider a wig yourself?

 

[Rudiger]

would you ever consider a wig yourself?

If I found a really great woman who understands my vanity and need for a hair system, was a secure and relatable person who never judged me or seen me as demasculated or insecure.

So no would be the answer here, impossible.

 

[Exodus2011]

You're applying the fact that I acknowledged you are incel, and jumping the logic on miles from that to tediously link that I must hate you because of that. Even after I've explained that it's because you're being a dick, and you've just admitted you were irrationally trying to antagonize me out of bitter hatred because I "have it easy".

Now you got your response, exactly what you were looking for and seeking, and now you're acting as if I've responded like this because you're incel? That makes no sense.

It's beyond pathetic, you've admitted you were goading and undermining me intentionally and now you're playing the victim, based on what exactly? I said the word "incel"?

In no way did I imply you're pathetic because you can't have sex, I'm saying you're pathetic for other reasons that you actually can control. I really want you to point out from what I said, that there's any indication I'm judging you for being incel.

You just can't take the fact that I'm not being like most people on here, babying you and other incels, well I'm not going to let someone act like an a**h** to me just because his life is hard.

So because I don't walk on eggshells and you can't reason with this, you jump to the conclusion I must hate ugly people or incels. That's quite an accusation for me, I never fully judge someone on how they look.

i think you're overreacting. i was a bit of a dick saying "tl;dr" but you didn't have to go on a long rant lol. was in a depressive episode last night sorry.

as for babying incels i actually think we are entitled to that, as long as we are legit incels (aka ugly NOT just socially anxious).

 

[Rudiger]

i think you're overreacting. i was a bit of a dick saying "tl;dr" but you didn't have to go on a long rant lol. was in a depressive episode last night sorry.

as for babying incels i actually think we are entitled to that, as long as we are legit incels (aka ugly NOT just socially anxious).

That's OK, I was overreacting looking back on it so I'm also sorry about that. I wasn't happy with your fleeting dismissal of my post but you weren't doing half of what I accused you of.

At least you're honest about feeling entitled to being baby'd! Haha Christ. To an extent especially in the context of this forum you definitely deserve sympathy, but personally I won't step over that line of going "well they can say what they want, they've had a hard life..." because to me that's beyond sympathy and crosses into patronising territory. Unless you don't mind being patronised either.

 

[sunchyme1]

Oh sorry I misread, you were not asking me.

lol you can answer too my friend!

cheers!

 

[Rudiger]

It all depends on the guy, but I guess if I date him and I like him, yes.
Keep in mind I am not a dater - I am not currently dating, don't have for more than a year, and I am not missing it. I am very sensitive to someone's culture. A bald man can make it up to me if he has very interesting personality (and if I don't find him ugly of course), but the other way around does not work.

Ok. In what positions?

 

[sunchyme1]

Men making peace on HairLossTalk.com, so f*****g moving

i dont like it

 

[Exodus2011]

That's OK, I was overreacting looking back on it so I'm also sorry about that. I wasn't happy with your fleeting dismissal of my post but you weren't doing half of what I accused you of.

At least you're honest about feeling entitled to being baby'd! Haha Christ. To an extent especially in the context of this forum you definitely deserve sympathy, but personally I won't step over that line of going "well they can say what they want, they've had a hard life..." because to me that's beyond sympathy and crosses into patronising territory. Unless you don't mind being patronised either.

thanks

i'm honest about it yes lol. i wouldn't want to use the term "babying" but rather "special or preferential treatment". and no pity because that doesnt help. acknowledgement of having it bad yes but not pity. its very true pity can actually make you feel worse. actually in general pitying doesnt help in shitty situations

when i hear about peoples moms dying or whatever its like wtf is "i feel bad for you" gonna accomplish? its just a meaningless custom