Tinder, Bumble, And Other Dating Sites.

[Baldhurts]

Sounds rough, mate. An unhappy childhood can make it very easy to go within yourself.

How do you mean framecell? You have I good body that is very receptive to training.

I was just a skinny kunt at 6'3" and weighed around 130 pounds.

 

[Baldhurts]

Yet look at you now. That is all in the past. You have evolved. Don't let that "inner child" control your life. I do it all the time and my life sucks.

I know it's hard. Everyday is really a struggle. I personally feel like I have no purpose on earth and that I'm just in limbo. My grandmother is 96 and I told her the other day if I could give my life so she could live another 30 years I would do it.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I was just a skinny kunt at 6'3" and weighed around 130 pounds.

At least you were 6ft 3. That is what I consider a perfect "chad" height. I missed that height by 2 inches. And when you get older you will shrink somewhat but you will still be 6ft at worst.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I know it's hard. Everyday is really a struggle. I personally feel like I have no purpose on earth and that I'm just in limbo. My grandmother is 96 and I told her the other day if I could give my life so she could live another 30 years I would do it.

You think you can spend your life thinking like that for another 20 years? Do you think its possible that you could?

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I was just a skinny kunt at 6'3" and weighed around 130 pounds.

6'3 is an ideal height in Western Culture. How much do you weigh?

 

[Baldhurts]

You think you can spend your life thinking like that for another 20 years? Do you think its possible that you could?

I don't know, it's tough. A couple years ago I was a huge Christian, I went to church every Sunday and read a lot of the bible and participated with volunteering and stuff like that, i remember a couple weeks back just sobbing and praying to Christ to take my life because I was useless on earth and could serve so much better in heaven. It's up to me to change my thought process.. it's fucked.

 

[Baldhurts]

6'3 is an ideal height in Western Culture. How much do you weigh?

210 as of this morning.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Do you have a grey beard? ahaha

Yes, salt and pepper. I am 6ft and weigh about 180. Body fat around 14 to 15 percent. Athletic build but want to get to be close to Baldhurts. Do I have any chance now? Took 2 years of French in high school and willing to work on remembering some French words again.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Yeah man I agree. Reading this forum and past experiences have really been an eye opener for me. Iv decided that I'm just done with online dating iv closed the book on it. I can't let this decide my happiness. I'm focusing on applying with the police and getting even more shredded and just keeping my head high for myself. If I do not meet a woman or have a relationship I'm done being upset by it.

I wasn't going to post today, but I'm concerned because I saw during my lunch hour that you're receiving a lot of garbage advice.

First, good job on applying for the police and trying to get more fit. It's important in life to be focused and to be healthy. If you are unemployed long-term, you will be idle, and idle minds go insane. At least as a police officer you will keep busy in a job most people respect, which does some good for the world. Police officer is also a job with long-term security. The pay is not wonderful, but the benefits certainly are. The province of Alberta is also kind to its public servants.

You have some sort of issues with your father that you've discussed a little here and there. I don't know what the details are. I do know that it seems like a lot of people on this forum have issues with their parents. With my father personally, we were never close. He wasn't awful, but my mother did some gatekeeping around us and thus he never got really involved. My mother however was completely insane. She would be late for everything, she's dirty, a packrat, not very smart, and she would be screaming at least an hour a day. We grew up in this apartment building in a working-class neighbourhood of Montreal, and the other residents would organize petitions to have us kicked out. They were tired of my mother endlessly screaming at the top of he lungs. Nothing was ever good enough for her. I recently sent her photos of my sister with her two babies, and her first comment to my sister was that she looks fat in one of the pictures. A sane mother would give compliments on how beautiful her grandchildren look.

A lot of us have issues with our parents, it's f*****g damaging, but you shouldn't let it destroy you.

As for you quitting your online dating, in all due respect you didn't give it an honest chance. It's not enough to match with these women. You have to talk to them and ask them out and then meet them. I'm not sure you did that. How many of these matches did you actually meet? How many women did you swipe? If you give it a month and it doesn't work, then sure take an extended break and focus on other things (I might do that too), but it makes no sense to give up given your performance after 1 week.

Question: What do you think of men who give up on weightlifting after 2 weeks because they didn't see gains?

As for the women you matched up, they are hot and you clearly have high standards. I didn't see any ugly women in there. All of them are above average.

Keep in mind only one poster here has told you that these women are ugly and that's Cope. He has unusual tastes in women, he prefers masculine-looking women, which you clearly do not. Given that you're selective, and that you have different tastes, it's normal that he doesn't find your matches attractive.

tldr;

1) Good luck with the police
2) Don't give up
3) Don't listen to what the bizarre extremists has to say about women.

 

[DoctorHouse]

A good sens of humour also works on me
But use cm and kg (I am French!!!)
Actually, Hugh Laurie is my ideal.

Would you settle for Keanu Reeves as a consolation prize over Hugh Laurie?

 

[DoctorHouse]

I wasn't going to post today, but I'm concerned because I saw during my lunch hour that you're receiving a lot of garbage advice.

First, good job on applying for the police and trying to get more fit. It's important in life to be focused and to be healthy. If you are unemployed long-term, you will be idle, and idle minds go insane. At least as a police officer you will keep busy in a job most people respect, which does some good for the world. Police officer is also a job with long-term security. The pay is not wonderful, but the benefits certainly are. The province of Alberta is also kind to its public servants.

You have some sort of issues with your father that you've discussed a little here and there. I don't know what the details are. I do know that it seems like a lot of people on this forum have issues with their parents. With my father personally, we were never close. He wasn't awful, but my mother did some gatekeeping around us and thus he never got really involved. My mother however was completely insane. She would be late for everything, she's dirty, a packrat, not very smart, and she would be screaming at least an hour a day. We grew up in this apartment building in a working-class neighbourhood of Montreal, and the other residents would organize petitions to have us kicked out. They were tired of my mother endlessly screaming at the top of he lungs. Nothing was ever good enough for her. I recently sent her photos of my sister with her two babies, and her first comment to my sister was that she looks fat in one of the pictures. A sane mother would give compliments on how beautiful her grandchildren look.

A lot of us have issues with our parents, it's f*****g damaging, but you shouldn't let it destroy you.

As for you quitting your online dating, in all due respect you didn't give it an honest chance. It's not enough to match with these women. You have to talk to them and ask them out and then meet them. I'm not sure you did that. How many of these matches did you actually meet? How many women did you swipe? If you give it a month and it doesn't work, then sure take an extended break and focus on other things (I might do that too), but it makes no sense to give up given your performance after 1 week.

Question: What do you think of men who give up on weightlifting after 2 weeks because they didn't see gains?

As for the women you matched up, they are hot and you clearly have high standards. I didn't see any ugly women in there. All of them are above average.

Keep in mind only one poster here has told you that these women are ugly and that's Cope. He has unusual tastes in women, he prefers masculine-looking women, which you clearly do not. Given that you're selective, and that you have different tastes, it's normal that he doesn't find your matches attractive.

tldr;

1) Good luck with the police
2) Don't give up
3) Don't listen to what the bizarre extremists has to say about women.

David, great advice as always. I am glad you posted. I honestly look forward to your posts. You are a very interesting guy and that will score points for you in the dating scene with women with substance.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Yes if someone is a mature 20 and dates 35 i think this is fine.

For me it was too old..i remember i went out with my friends Uncle on a date who was like 15 years older then me i think i was 21 or 22.

I felt so uncomfortable the whole time and he was very handsome but I felt like it was a date and he was trying to 'lock' me down which felt desperate because he did not know 'me' he just knew i was so young.

i went out with a guy who was 10 years older then me for a few years i met him i think i was 18 or 19 cant remember all timelines anymore...it was not a great relationship the balance of power was very one sided. I felt really out of my depth. He had so much baggage and i had this clean slate. He wound up dumping me for an older woman he fooled around with when i went to college...after college i feel like i really came into 'myself' than before college.
i had dinner with him once after and it felt more like family then an ex boyfriend...we did have sex but was NOT the same..which i was glad to have that closure because when he dumped me and i was in College it was so devastating.

I think he was actually really uncomfortable with our age difference. He used to joke about the song "Father Figure" LOL

You're about 45, so based on the half plus seven rule you should not date any men older than 76.

I'm just here to help by the way.

;-)

 

[DoctorHouse]

But you would have to be a really great guy. Keanu Reeves... yuck, berk, yuck... how ugly
Maybe it is you who would not like me, thought about that?

I heard your voice already. That alone was a turn on. If you think Keanu is ugly I have no chance now. Dante and I are just going to have to stick together now and realize at least we have each other to think of sarcastic things to post.

 

[Baldhurts]

I heard your voice already. That alone was a turn on. If you think Keanu is ugly I have no chance now. Dante and I are just going to have to stick together now and realize at least we have each other to think of sarcastic things to post.

I'm with you and Dante.

 

[CopeForLife]

David, taking into account your ED I do not think you should keep pushing hard that Tinder/Bumble dates.

Even if you will get ONS you will not able to plunge your penis inside because of ED and it will only intensify your situation.

I still agree with shook it is mental problem.

I also recall your history about visit an escort that you gave 600$ for a literally nothing.

Both situations – with expensive western escort and ONS with a girl you like put pressures on the nerves. Money in the first case and fear of shame in the second.

I think you need to:
1. find a hqnp girl attractive girl with who you can relax and try to mentally overcome your ED (it can take all day or even more) – ONS won't work
2. rent an escort for same purpose, but in USA/Auss/Canada it will hit a pocket drastically and again it will push your nerves and lower chances to beat ED

1-st is obviously unreachable.

I think it is time for a business trip to SEA.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I'm with you and Dante.

If I had a million dollars right now, I would do what ever takes to make Dante feel better about himself. If I could buy him an island to live and populate it only with people who would not mock him and everyone would treat him with respect and honor, I would.

 

[CopeForLife]

It always makes me laugh

Now I am dead srs.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I am sorry David
Seems like you've come a long a way.

I hope so, but I feel like now I'm at the home stretch and it's just where I'm losing motivation. It's been a f*****g hill to climb, and maybe now that I've almost secured a nearly-safe career and almost made myself passable to women I might just lose all motivation and fail.

Due to the obstacles in my life I've so little motivation lately. The past few days I did find a scintilla of motivation, but it's still not enough. I have a hill to climb, to climb back really.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Irony
Keanu is obviously sexy.
But right choice, Dante has a sexier voice than me

I was not fortunate enough to hear his voice. He was supposed to let me hear it but never did. So its your voice embedded in my memory now. And I replay it over and over again until I figure out if you were talking to me or Bucky.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I am really considering to marry you now.

I want Dante to be my best man. And of course I want Bucky to be the ring bearer. And I want Fred to minister the ceremony. I want Hairblues to give me something Blue. Joan to give me something new. And David to give me something borrowed. And I want Baldhurts to train me before the wedding. And I want Shook to let me borrow his black cap.