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[Afro_Vacancy]

I wasn't saying Fred is the smartest guy in the world lol, I just thought it was funny a qualified therapist gave you the same advice that Fred would, to go to prostitutes. I just find it funny, the idea of her handing you a written medical prescription for a prostitute. I'm not insulting you, just making a joke.

Do you think if you weren't obese and going bald you would have been seen as "awkward" though? Is it possible your awkwardness and lack of confidence comes down to not being happy with how you look, first you were fat and now you are bald(ing). You know your looks won't get you far causing you to panic when you're forced to rely on them?

A lifetime of rejection because of your looks has conditioned you to expect it and to start panicking when you're in that situation because you know another rejection is coming. The rejection is because of your looks but your therapist is attributing it to your behaviour as a "cope"?

I was average weight from age 18 to 23 or so, oscillating between slim and average actually. I gained 35 lbs when I moved to the USA at age 23 and then had a hard time losing it due to various problems (depression, my dad dying, herniated disks, bad fitness advice, etc). My receding hairline has only become apparent in the last few years. It was definitely not an issue during the ages of 18-25, when most men sleep with 5, 10, or more women. Including lots of fat slobs who did decently. I had an Afro at age 28.

The way some of you dismiss the importance of personality and temperament is a cope, and the way you dismiss advocacy for personality as a cope is a meta-cope. The fact is most successful couples tend to be very similar in values, intelligence, social status, and outlook, and that people with autism do less well in relationship in spite of autism having no physical markers, unlike say down's syndrome or Klinefelter's syndrome.I explicitly said that I missed multiple clear opportunities when younger because I couldn't read and interpret social cues, or because I felt anxiety. I didn't mean a "hello babe!" on pof I meant more explicit opportunities from real people.

By the way she told me to go weight lifting too. She said it would improve my mood. And yes you don't need to be a psychologist to suggest weight lifting to improve mood. You're enthusiastic about dumping on psychologists, but you can't do that off what I listed here, I listed some comments which are an incomplete distillation of ~15 hours of counselling. I recommend people with problems go see counsellors if they can afford it. If they run into a bad one, try a different counsellor. I think it's always preferable to SSRIs, etc.

As for the prostitute thing being an obvious thing that anybody would suggest, nobody here has suggested that, and I've been explicit and clear about my issues. I did have one friend in real life suggest it, but he's exceptionally intelligent and talented (IQ of 150+ and has had sex with 50 or 60 women -- he doesn't keep count) and we spend a lot of time together so he knows me well.

 

[cocohot]

I was average weight from age 18 to 23 or so, oscillating between slim and average actually. I gained 35 lbs when I moved to the USA at age 23 and then had a hard time losing it due to various problems (depression, my dad dying, herniated disks, bad fitness advice, etc). My receding hairline has only become apparent in the last few years. It was definitely not an issue during the ages of 18-25, when most men sleep with 5, 10, or more women. Including lots of fat slobs who did decently. I had an Afro at age 28.

The way some of you dismiss the importance of personality and temperament is a cope, and the way you dismiss advocacy for personality as a cope is a meta-cope. The fact is most successful couples tend to be very similar in values, intelligence, social status, and outlook, and that people with autism do less well in relationship in spite of autism having no physical markers, unlike say down's syndrome or Klinefelter's syndrome.I explicitly said that I missed multiple clear opportunities when younger because I couldn't read and interpret social cues, or because I felt anxiety. I didn't mean a "hello babe!" on pof I meant more explicit opportunities from real people.

By the way she told me to go weight lifting too. She said it would improve my mood. And yes you don't need to be a psychologist to suggest weight lifting to improve mood. You're enthusiastic about dumping on psychologists, but you can't do that off what I listed here, I listed some comments which are an incomplete distillation of ~15 hours of counselling. I recommend people with problems go see counsellors if they can afford it. If they run into a bad one, try a different counsellor. I think it's always preferable to SSRIs, etc.

As for the prostitute thing being an obvious thing that anybody would suggest, nobody here has suggested that, and I've been explicit and clear about my issues. I did have one friend in real life suggest it, but he's exceptionally intelligent and talented (IQ of 150+ and has had sex with 50 or 60 women -- he doesn't keep count) and we spend a lot of time together so he knows me well.

You missed my edit where I said you could disregard most of my post because you look great in the picture you posted in my other thread.

I'm not saying going to prostitutes is obvious. I just think it's funny that a counselor would recommend that, as in actually amusing. Like being written a prescription for crystal meth or something. Would you be happy going to prostitutes? Would that affect you positively or negatively emotionally?

I don't think autism exists as I posted before, I think it's just bad parenting or a bad environment. 1 in 50 boys are diagnosed with autism nowadays, and I would estimate 1 in 50 are raised by bad parents who don't socialise them properly and teach them/pass on their own poor social skills. Also exclusion due to your looks growing up would result in your social skills falling behind others due to lack of practice.

This is an article written by one of the top psychologists and accademics of the UK, Oliver James:
https://thepsychologist.bps.org.uk/volume-28/december-2015/not-your-genes

I say this not to start an argument just to say you shouldn't see your diagnosis as your destiny. Nueroplasticity, where sections of the brain literally re-wire themselves and grow as you get better at things shows you can improve these things.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

A context that may be relevant is prostitution is decriminalized here in Australia.
It's not like in large parts of the USA, where recommending prostitution is recommending jail time.
It shouldn't be illegal anywhere.

I know that people make the argument that autism "doesn't exist" and I don't really care. It exists. You can find credentialed people who argue that the Sun is made of iron, that doesn't make it so. Whether or not autism is overdiagnosed or curable is also non-sequitur.

 

[EvilLocks]

I don't mean to be rude, but,

That story doesn't sound legit.

It is legit. Anyway, you'd have to ask my ex about his true reason(s) for dumping me, I'm just telling what he said. And he said he couldn't be with a bald girl.

 

[cocohot]

A context that may be relevant is prostitution is decriminalized here in Australia.
It's not like in large parts of the USA, where recommending prostitution is recommending jail time.
It shouldn't be illegal anywhere.

I know that people make the argument that autism "doesn't exist" and I don't really care. It exists. You can find credentialed people who argue that the Sun is made of iron, that doesn't make it so. Whether or not autism is overdiagnosed or curable is also non-sequitur.

I'm not saying it doesn't exist, just that it's simply a scientific word for loser/nerd, and that its cause is not biological but environmental, like most mental illnesses and can therefore be cured with the right environment.

Prostitution is legal in the UK too I think, I'm just asking would it make you happy to go to prostitutes? How would it make you feel about yourself?

 

[Roberto_72]

It is legit. Anyway, you'd have to ask my ex about his true reason(s) for dumping me, I'm just telling what he said. And he said he couldn't be with a bald girl.

I wonder it was a good thing that he spoke his mind. Maybe a little tact would have helped...

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

It is legit. Anyway, you'd have to ask my ex about his true reason(s) for dumping me, I'm just telling what he said. And he said he couldn't be with a bald girl.

It's what he said, it may be what he thinks, but I doubt it's what actually happened.

He may not actually know why he stopped liking you, and coming up with reasons can be difficult for people so they just go for something that sounds right.

 

[cocohot]

It is legit. Anyway, you'd have to ask my ex about his true reason(s) for dumping me, I'm just telling what he said. And he said he couldn't be with a bald girl.

Sounds like he hated you. Even if it's true you don't say that to someone except to hurt them. EG would a woman ever say to a man "I had an affair because your tiny dick wasn't satisfying me" even if it was true? lol I wonder if that was ever given as an official reason for a divorce?

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I'm not saying it doesn't exist, just that it's simply a scientific word for loser/nerd, and that its cause is not biological but environmental, like most mental illnesses and can therefore be cured with the right environment.

Prostitution is legal in the UK too I think, I'm just asking would it make you happy to go to prostitutes? How would it make you feel about yourself?

The purpose of a prostitute would be to work past sexual anxiety, not for something as crude as "building self-esteem" or "being happy".

As for your points above, they're wrong from top to bottom.

1) Just because something environmental doesn't mean it's curable with right environment;
2) Biology and environment are not separate things.
3) Autism is not a scientific word for loser/nerd
4) Even if it were, that would be irrelevant.

 

[cocohot]

The purpose of a prostitute would be to work past sexual anxiety, not for something as crude as "building self-esteem" or "being happy".

As for your points above, they're wrong from top to bottom.

1) Just because something environmental doesn't mean it's curable with right environment;
Nueroplasticity exists. I've also seen it happen growing up, some people got taller and better looking with puberty and treated better and they became normal.
2) Biology and environment are not separate things.
Never said they were.
3) Autism is not a scientific word for loser/nerd
Yes it is. Auto means one, as in alone. Autism means no friends (loser), and often bookish as a result (nerd). Again 1 in 50.
4) Even if it were, that would be irrelevant.
No it wouldn't.

answered in bold

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

1) Nueroplasticity exists. I've also seen it happen growing up, some people got taller and better looking with puberty and treated better and they became normal..
2) Never said they were
3) Yes it is. Auto means one, as in alone. Autism means no friends (loser), and often bookish as a result (nerd). Again 1 in 50.
4) No it wouldn't.

When I was younger I used to do battle against young earth creationists and global warming deniers on the internet. Waste of time. I don't feel like discussing pseudoscience further.

Autism has both environmental and genetic contributing factors. It's got a somewhat complex pathology involving several factors and several symptoms. Some coping mechanisms and treatments are available and will be more effective if the individual is less far along the spectrum and if treatments are implemented at an earlier age.

 

[cocohot]

When I was younger I used to do battle against young earth creationists and global warming deniers on the internet.

Waste of time. I don't feel like discussing pseudoscience further.

Psuedoscience? There is no scientific evidence whatsoever that mental illness is caused by genetics. None. Zero. It is an article of faith like flat earth theory.

There is on the other hand lots of scientific evidence that mental illness is caused by environment. Someone who was child abused is 90 times more likely to become a schizophrenic, and for someone with good family and friends the opposite is the case.

https://thepsychologist.bps.org.uk/volume-28/december-2015/not-your-genes

 

[constrictedvoid]

Correct. The novelty of a man wears of very quick within the online scene. Ts either leave your print and a good impression or get left behind and forgotten . I hAve spoken with lots of chicks and most don't bother to text first unless they are highey interested. Even then you must keep her attention on you before and within the initial stages. Always remember, you're not the only one dividing his attention to her. It rele all falls down to preference, your personality has very little do with anything in regards to her decision.


I have been through the ropes of women semi-interested, very-interested and those who are not leading to anything. How receptive she is, 85% related to your looks threshold. I would say the other 15% is just initiative to make something happen between the two of you. Most women who are genuinely interested will give you lots of material to work with, and flatter you heavily. The ones who make you feel hesitant are those you drop asap.

I don't want to hear about matches anymore. Does not mean anything. Talk to me about actual dates and sexual encounters that took place when you finally met. A lot of noobs jerk off to 'matches' like they mean anything

Try tinder in Mexico, or even better, Ecuador. They say "hola", you say, "Hey, I don't speak Spanish, do you want to meet up at x or y today?"(usually I ask to take a walk), mostly they say yes instantly. Not only that, your matchrate is near 100%. I don't think this is just them being poor and seeing what they perceive as a rich white male, it works for girls who seem relatively well off too. Tinder in first world countries, unless you look like a male model, really takes quite the effort. I've had girls down to come to my place as a first "date", but always after quite a bit of talking, which, on tinder feels forced, whereas in real life, to me being flirty is quite natural, and it was definitely not a very regular thing. I haven't actually been to Mexico or Equador yet, though mexico I do intend to visit, but it'[s a whole different game.

 

[blackg]

Try tinder in Mexico, or even better, Ecuador. They say "hola", you say, "Hey, I don't speak Spanish, do you want to meet up at x or y today?"(usually I ask to take a walk), mostly they say yes instantly. Not only that, your matchrate is near 100%. I don't think this is just them being poor and seeing what they perceive as a rich white male, it works for girls who seem relatively well off too. Tinder in first world countries, unless you look like a male model, really takes quite the effort. I've had girls down to come to my place as a first "date", but always after quite a bit of talking, which, on tinder feels forced, whereas in real life, to me being flirty is quite natural, and it was definitely not a very regular thing. I haven't actually been to Mexico or Equador yet, though mexico I do intend to visit, but it'[s a whole different game.

Try Grindr.

 

[EvilLocks]

It's not about misogyny, it's about realism. It's as simple as that: looks, status, money, are all that really matters.

Health is what matters the most of all.

 

[shookwun]

Try tinder in Mexico, or even better, Ecuador. They say "hola", you say, "Hey, I don't speak Spanish, do you want to meet up at x or y today?"(usually I ask to take a walk), mostly they say yes instantly. Not only that, your matchrate is near 100%. I don't think this is just them being poor and seeing what they perceive as a rich white male, it works for girls who seem relatively well off too. Tinder in first world countries, unless you look like a male model, really takes quite the effort. I've had girls down to come to my place as a first "date", but always after quite a bit of talking, which, on tinder feels forced, whereas in real life, to me being flirty is quite natural, and it was definitely not a very regular thing. I haven't actually been to Mexico or Equador yet, though mexico I do intend to visit, but it'[s a whole different game.

I wouldn't doubt it. Being white alone in a lot of countries is a sign of status and being financially well off. Everything if you're poor the exotic factor and generalization is enough to interest them if you are some what decent looking.


I plan on traveling some where in east Asia or south america soon. Most likey the south. Do they all use tindr here also?

 

[constrictedvoid]

I wouldn't doubt it. Being white alone in a lot of countries is a sign of status and being financially well off. Everything if you're poor the exotic factor and generalization is enough to interest them if you are some what decent looking.


I plan on traveling some where in east Asia or south america soon. Most likey the south. Do they all use tindr here also?

Yeah, I've done Thailand, south east Asia wise. Near 100% match rate in Equador(high 90s), 80s match rate in Mexico, low 90s in Thailand. My looks are a bit above average, but not in the top 10%. I tried a bald guy(NW5 or so), his match rate in the first world was near zero(a lot below 1%), Mexico, Thailand both had well above 50%(did not try Ecuador with him), lower than with my own pics, but not even by all that much. Girls were also still very down to go out with mister NW5. US is the worst place out of the ones I tried, European women are a little more forgiving, but not by much. Besides them being more interested, I also found Mexican and Thai women more interesting/fun. They were down to go on hikes with me, talk about travel, health, various hobbies, emotions, relationships of various kinds, all in a much more open way. First world women seemed very narrow, comparatively, just based off tinder. I talked to US women with a male model account, they were generally the worst. Yeah, they were down to meet mister 7% bodyfat, godlike facial structure, NW1, tall, dark, handsome, but they were still boring and shallow as sh*t on average.

As far as the percentage of people using tinder goes, it's obviously lower in these places, but if you're in big cities, you won't run out IME. I think it's a bit higher in Thailand than in Latin America, but that's only based on comparing swyping in smaller cities and seeing where I run out first, I haven't crunched any numbers on that, I'm sure you can find data somewhere.