"A woman can't be in a relationship with a guy she doesn't find physically attractive

[EvilLocks]

A 6'3 above average bald guy.

Make me 5'8 and average and I wouldn't have pulled anything but my c*** out in front of YouPorn.

LOL, I like the way you write, Fred. You are a funny guy.

 

[CaptainForehead]

A 6'3 above average bald guy.

Make me 5'8 and average and I wouldn't have pulled anything but my c*** out in front of YouPorn.

BRILLIANT response. Absolutely nailed the comeback unk:

 

[uncomfortable man]

To those here who think being a realist means taking a **** on yourself and all other fellow bald men, I
want to clarify this issue because it seems to be easily misunderstood. I can only speak for myself, but when I talk about the negativity that baldness invites, the opinions expressed are not my own but rather mainstream societies view of baldness. I am trying to expose the prejudice and injustice, not advocate it. that is not to say that young bald men are just as impressionable as everyone else to these social messages, so naturally self loathing can and inform these posts.

As with this topic of hairloss/baldness, it is surrounded with misconceptions, misinformation, lies and outright hatred propaganda. Being a realist means determining the truth through all of the above centrefuge. When I lost my hair at 22, I noticed sytematic changes in the way people treated me. The reason was obvious to me but everyone fed me so many white lies and bs to the point where it seriously felt like a conspiracy.Getting to the truth through all the bs in an effort to understand what was happening to me became my pursuit. Realism is the simple acknowledgement of the stigma of baldness and its inherent unfairness.

 

[Rudiger]

I thought the community made it clear they don't want you or I to argue?

Stop replying to my posts, stop getting involved with conversations that don't involve you and just stop being an aggressive antisocial dickhead in general.

The community being 2 or 3 people? And I wouldn't care if it was more, I simply promised to stop the ad hominems, the pointless dissecting, etc. And then, after you promised your "community" you would not only refrain from insults but you'd never reply to me ever again, you go on to reply, and call me a dickhead.

I said I'd continue to disagree if I felt you were being wrong, so I am. You're getting defensive because I'm still here, calling into question things about you. For example, and I think this is the reason you didn't give a proper reply, I'm exposing how you love making bald guys feel like ****, and then pretend that you're a force for good.

You aren't fooling me, and maybe everyone else is too dignified to acknowledge you, but I don't think you're fooling anyone.

 

[FWIW]

To those here who think being a realist means taking a **** on yourself and all other f9ellow bald men, I
want to clarify this issue because it seems to be easily misunderstood. I can only speak for myself, but when I talk about the negativity that baldness invites, the opinions expressed are not my own but rather mainstream societies view of baldness. I am trying to expose the prejudice and injustice, not advocate it. that is not to say that young bald men are just as impressionable as everyone else to these social messages, so naturally self loathing can and inform these posts.

As with this topic of hairloss/baldness, it is surrounded with misconceptions, misinformation, lies and outright hatred propaganda. Being a realist means determining the truth through all of the above centrefuge. When I lost my hair at 22, I noticed sytematic changes in the way people treated me. The reason was obvious to me but everyone fed me so many white lies and bs to the point where it seriously felt like a conspiracy.Getting to the truth through all the bs in an effort to understand what was happening to me became my pursuit. Realism is the simple acknowledgement of the stigma of baldness and its inherent unfairness.

What is the truth?

 

[parisienne]

There's no truth.
There's no rule.
Nothing is just black or white.
Good luck.

 

[uncomfortable man]

The truth is that the stigma is real.

 

[Rudiger]

Keeping it classy coco. Nobody cared enough to really give a **** whether we argue or not, a few people said it's a bit annoying but ignorable, get over yourself.

I'm not "attacking" I'm trying to respectfully disagree. On the other hand you promised never to reply to me again, then replied, called me a dickhead, then called me a dickhead in your signature, I mean what is that? You go from promising never to acknowledge me, to ensuring the acknowledgement of me in every single post you make.

 

[shookwun]

I think being bald in 2016 is like being black in 1996. Controversial statement I know but I think society has substituted "looksism" for racism. It's tough out there.

Modern day Hebrew

 

[F2005]

1) I've said this before but I'll repeat..any pics i have posted were many years ago, my hair situation has changed since then...obviously. i actually shave my head now, i'm not a candidate for a hair transplant and i choose not to take finasteride. And yes, i do have had aspects of BDD at times, although clearly not nearly as bad as others here.

2) there are a handful of regular posters on this impact of hair loss forum. Out of the many millions of bald men in the world who are just getting on with their lives not obsessed enough to post about how hard they have had it and compare themselves to this supposed other race 'the fullhead'.

3) it speaks volumes that you all would rather challenge me for actually bringing a bit of perspective back than to challenge people who claim young hair loss is worse than dying of cancer and the like. It really is that extreme on here that you all can't see how f*cked up this is.

4) It is just so, so easy for any rational person to see how faulty most of the logic on this forum is. Just a f*cking walk outside disproves most of the rubbish about how terrible bald guys have it with women. As if baldness is the only thing that affects a persons looks, as if all these women with bald men are only with the guys because of <insert any excuse given on here>. I'd be willing to bet a lot of money that if most of you here had perfect hair, you'd still be b*tching about how women are only after guys with money, or guys with huge muscles, or.....<insert other excuse>. All the while some bald guy is picking up the girl that you could have had because he actually looks decent, has the balls to back himself and makes sure he f*cks the girl well.

The bottom line is that by posting these types of things on this forum, it shows that you care and worry about hair loss far more than the average bald/balding guy who never would have bothered to sign up here and post such nonsense.

Oh ok. I noticed one of your posts from late last year where you said you were an NW2 with possibly some slight thinning in the NW3 area, which is hardly noticeable hair loss at all. That is not even close to being bald. Like I said, feeling is believing. A person with an NW2 with slight thinning will not be considered bald at all. Yet an Norwood 6, now that is a completely different story.

Just because certain bald men do not find the time to post on this forum does not mean at all that they are not suffering because of their hair loss and their perceived erosion of their looks. I vent on here, but I go out without a hat all the time in my day to day activities. Yet I have a friend who does not post on here yet he never goes out socially without a hat. I have a couple of friends who have wigs, one of whom actually freaked out over what was literally an NW2 and actually got a wig. Hell, I'd bet people would see me in my day to day activities and they would never guess that I am suffering from the effects of hair loss, just like you assume with those guys you saw out and about. Little do they know.

It is not faulty thinking at all to believe that baldness does drastically and negatively affect a person's looks. It is very obvious to me and that is why I think we're all on here. As I've stated before, I've been an avid weightlifter for a long time and I also had a bit of a gut for a long time, mainly the effect of trying to get big. I had people pissed off at me and call me fat, yet it didn't affect my confidence at all. I've also had a big nose, but again, I never complained about it. Baldness is just such a blatantly obvious physical blemish that really does alter a person's looks more than just about anything I can think of. It's really a mistake for people to assume that if hair loss sufferers weren't bothered by hair loss, there would be something else they would complain about. That is not true and it certainly wasn't the case with me.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I think being bald in 2016 is like being black in 1996. Controversial statement I know but I think society has substituted "looksism" for racism. It's tough out there.

You mean 1969, right? Minus the hangings lynchings and 300 years of slavery. Thats why it would be considered controversial, but the behavior is the same. Bald guys arent forced to sit at the back of the bus or drink from different fountains. But you know what? Prejudice is prejudice and while in this time where people love to feel conciencious and pc (to feed their own egos they NEEED someone to hate. They just have to reserve their need to discrimantely hate. People need to hate... and unfortunately bald (white)guys are perfect targets.

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1) it speaks volumes that you all would rather challenge me for actually bringing a bit of perspective back than to challenge people who claim young hair loss is worse than dying of cancer and the like. It really is that extreme on here that you all can't see how f*cked up this is..

Thats the thing about perspective though, it changes based on where your standing.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

No, bald guys are not being executed by police, nor do one third of bald men end up in jail at some point. There's no similarity between baldness and Blackness in America.

A better analogy would be short people or fat people.

 

[jd_uk]

Oh ok. I noticed one of your posts from late last year where you said you were an NW2 with possibly some slight thinning in the NW3 area, which is hardly noticeable hair loss at all. That is not even close to being bald. Like I said, feeling is believing. A person with an NW2 with slight thinning will not be considered bald at all. Yet an Norwood 6, now that is a completely different story.

Just because certain bald men do not find the time to post on this forum does not mean at all that they are not suffering because of their hair loss and their perceived erosion of their looks. I vent on here, but I go out without a hat all the time in my day to day activities. Yet I have a friend who does not post on here yet he never goes out socially without a hat. I have a couple of friends who have wigs, one of whom actually freaked out over what was literally an NW2 and actually got a wig. Hell, I'd bet people would see me in my day to day activities and they would never guess that I am suffering from the effects of hair loss, just like you assume with those guys you saw out and about. Little do they know.

It is not faulty thinking at all to believe that baldness does drastically and negatively affect a person's looks. It is very obvious to me and that is why I think we're all on here. As I've stated before, I've been an avid weightlifter for a long time and I also had a bit of a gut for a long time, mainly the effect of trying to get big. I had people pissed off at me and call me fat, yet it didn't affect my confidence at all. I've also had a big nose, but again, I never complained about it. Baldness is just such a blatantly obvious physical blemish that really does alter a person's looks more than just about anything I can think of. It's really a mistake for people to assume that if hair loss sufferers weren't bothered by hair loss, there would be something else they would complain about. That is not true and it certainly wasn't the case with me.

Regarding my hair situation... i was probably fairly in denial about it. I went to see a hair transplant doctor who confirmed that i had diffuse thinning all over (even the back and sides) hemce would never be suitable for a transplant even if i wanted it. In reality in those 7 years the 'V' has got bigger as you would expect and the NW2-3 area is bald but it is see through all over. Like i say...i could choose to take finasteride and probably regrow/keep a fair bit of my hair, but to me a hormone changing drug for life isn't worth it. I shave my head now and while i personally think i look better with hair, the only people who have commented on it are those that knew me for most of my life...others react the same as before and i've been surprised by how little it's affected me.

I disagree that baldness always negatively affects someones looks. I also understand that hair loss can bother you where as other supposed 'defects' don't but it can work the other way around too. My NW7 dad who was very bald in his early 30's said hair loss never really concerned him, but he was self conscious about other things like needing go wear glasses. We all have our insecurities. Sometimes hair is one, sometimes not. It's completely wrong to say that every bald/balding guy out there is somehow dying inside or devastated by it.

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You mean 1969, right? Minus the hangings lynchings and 300 years of slavery. Thats why it would be considered controversial, but the behavior is the same. Bald guys arent forced to sit at the back of the bus or drink from different fountains. But you know what? Prejudice is prejudice and while in this time where people love to feel conciencious and pc (to feed their own egos they NEEED someone to hate. They just have to reserve their need to discrimantely hate. People need to hate... and unfortunately bald (white)guys are perfect targets.

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Thats the thing about perspective though, it changes based on where your standing.

True. Just like when i see a bald guy i don't think anything negative about it, and i know plenty of others think this way.

It's wrong to tell people coming here that baldness will wreck their lives etc, is worse than dying of cancer etc etc, "wait til you're NW6". Not talking about you in particular but i've seen it so many times. It will affect everyone differently.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

jd, I don't think we need to take finasteride for life. There are a lot of treatments being researched, we need only take it for a few years in my opinion.

 

[jd_uk]

jd, I don't think we need to take finasteride for life. There are a lot of treatments being researched, we need only take it for a few years in my opinion.

I'm not too confident of any non hormonal 'cure' for hair loss. Not for many years. I personally don't want to mess with my hormones at all. A day is too long. That's just me but to each their own. Once you're on finasteride then there's always going to be the concern of 'catch up' hair loss if you ever come off it.

 

[Rudiger]

The chances of you even knowing your hormones are being messed with are so tiny, but maybe the 2% risk isn't worth it (even though you can just stop anyway and go back to normal).

Each to their own indeed, I guess.

 

[jd_uk]

women hate 90% of bald men. Get on dutasteride/finasteride and a transplant.

Otherwise lay down and rot.

*facepalm*

 

[buckthorn]

women hate 90% of bald men. Get on dutasteride/finasteride and a transplant.

Otherwise lay down and rot.

You should rephrase this to, superficial, shallow women that are only interested in looks, hate 90% of bald men. I am not after the women that will immediately "hate" me because I lack hair. I am after those that have an ability to look beyond that. You know, those that have a brain?

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and, actually you're correct. I "hate" 90% of women. I also "hate" 90% of men. Once you learn to weed off the completely superficial losers, your life will become much more meaningful.

 

[jd_uk]

You should rephrase this to, superficial, shallow women that are only interested in looks, hate 90% of bald men. I am not after the women that will immediately "hate" me because I lack hair. I am after those that have an ability to look beyond that. You know, those that have a brain?

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and, actually you're correct. I "hate" 90% of women. I also "hate" 90% of men. Once you learn to weed off the completely superficial losers, your life will become much more meaningful.

Great post.

 

[buckthorn]

women hate 90% of bald men. Get on dutasteride/finasteride and a transplant.

Otherwise lay down and rot.

In college, at the age of 21, I had a gorgeous girlfriend. We had been together of almost eight months and were madly in love. I remember shaving my head completely bald just for the hell of it. She told me, "you look like a cancer patient". I told her and her family that this is what I was going to do from now on. The next six months, and nothing had changed. Our sex life was the same. We would play basketball together in front of everyone. She even took me to her brothers wedding and wasn't ashamed at all. Some women are just cool. They are good people. I am not saying that physical attractiveness isn't important, it is. I am saying that they are so attracted to you based on other qualities, that physical attractiveness becomes LESS important. But yeah, you can apply this thread to almost every one in their twenties. Once you reach your thirties, you will realize that things do indeed drastically change.