Are you prejudiced against bald men wth grown out horseshoe?

[HairPieceMan]

no white guy wants to stand out in the crowd with a bald head.

EVER.

and no father (even young bald father) would want to see his 20 or 30 something son standing out in the crowd in a similar manner to the way HE did in his "youth".

 

[seb]

Interesting post C.forehead.Just too pick on one of your comments regarding wanting too blend in.For me this is not the case,I just want too be left alone,and not be constantly on adrenaline alert,which creates a vicious circle in the sense people can pick on my defensiveness,and mostly(naturally) mistake it for aggressiveness.
As mentioned,I am striving for generally a life of solitude,away from the human species.Its sad really at 33 I feel like this,but it is only going too get worse,not better.

 

[CaptainForehead]

Interesting post C.forehead.Just too pick on one of your comments regarding wanting too blend in.For me this is not the case,I just want too be left alone,

Unfortunately, "normal folk" are not comfortable with this. This is unrelated to baldness, being big etc. Smart folk undergo the same discrimination. Called geeks, nerds. And normal folks say "I may not have book smarts but I have street smarts". Hah.

Life is a competition, whether you want to be in it or not. If you have any positive trait (beauty, intelligence, physique), other people will pull you down. Unless they know they cannot win, or that its in their best interest to join you.

 

[CaptainForehead]

no white guy wants to stand out in the crowd with a bald head.

EVER.

I disagree.

Lex Luthor would never want to blend in.

 

[Primo]

Interesting post C.forehead.Just too pick on one of your comments regarding wanting too blend in.For me this is not the case,I just want too be left alone,and not be constantly on adrenaline alert,which creates a vicious circle in the sense people can pick on my defensiveness,and mostly(naturally) mistake it for aggressiveness.
As mentioned,I am striving for generally a life of solitude,away from the human species.Its sad really at 33 I feel like this,but it is only going too get worse,not better.

If you're striving for a life of solitude then I fail to see why having no hair is such a problem?

Anyway, if you happen to change your mind on that one, I think that if you let your guard down a bit and stopped getting ultra-defensive every time someone makes a comment, you'd be able to feel more comfortable in your own skin and actually enjoy life.

The fact that guys are always calling you out "big seb" etc, shows they're intimidated by you and feel inferior in your presence, try using this to your advantage and dominating social situations as you should be, instead of shying away into a corner all the time, doesn't matter what you look like, that kind of unconfident behavior will get you absolutely nowhere in life.

99% of guys here would kill to be 6ft 3 and 103kg with muscular build, you're right at the top of the f*****g food chain.

 

[seb]

Maybe naively,and maybe a bit arrogantly,but I thought as I got older,and put more size on,I would be largely left alone.This is not the case.I have never got some much s**t.Is it because I look more of a challenge now,or/and is it because people think that I think I am tough asI fit into the stereotypical big,bald,bouncer image?....

 

[seb]

Primo-Regardless of me wanting a life of solitude,having no hair matters too ME,how I perceive ME.The seeds already been sown,due to the negative comments I have encountered.
Striving for a COMPLETE life of solitude is at best,a mindest,it can never really be a reality..Where would I live,where would my income come from etc.
On the whole you are largely right woth your comments,although by nature I am an introvert,who if even had hair would shy away from society.

 

[CaptainForehead]

99% of guys here would kill to be 6ft 3 and 103kg with muscular build, you're right at the top of the f****ing food chain.

+1.
I have been killing myself in the gym trying to put on muscle and gain strength.
without much success, I can barely bench my bodyweight.


Seb, as I mentioned, life is a competition and people are assholes. If they can put you, a big strong fella, down; without repercussions, then they will do so because it makes them feel better about themselves "oooh look, I am above this big strong dude". This is not a conscious thought, but its an unconscious process. Hence you have been getting more crap as you got bigger.

Try to interpret their negative comments as positive ones. After all, if a religious fundamentalist said something negative about you or your religion, you would not accept it at face value would you? You'd think "these crackpots are jealous of our lifestyle".

 

[seb]

Thanks for that C.forehead.Due too me being mildly embarrassed by the way I look,I have tried too not act like I look ie A bouncer type.This obviously confuses people,thus they try and test me out.When I strand my ground they back down.99.9% of these people are jelly-fish,their can't back up their words with actions.
I so wish I had hair,although I still would get s**t because of my other features,and my natural introvert nature.

 

[CaptainForehead]

You gotta find your own style. The bouncer style isnt necessarily the best style. Power comes from within, and not from the physique.

The demeanour I find most intimidating is the "hidden power" look.
The bouncer look is too "in your face"

Think Lex Luthor...

 

[HairPieceMan]

no white guy wants to stand out in the crowd with a bald head.

EVER.

I disagree.

Lex Luthor would never want to blend in.

yes but evil genious stereotypes dont apply to a guy that just waolks around like that ALL THE f*****g TIME,everyday, with no social reason for being like that.

i just want to look normal.

this is a very sh*t life.

its like i was never normal, only aged 1 - 18 was i normal.

 

[Captain Obvious]

I stopped buzz cutting my hair a year ago and let my horse-shoe grow out instead. It absolutely makes me look more dweeby, older and unattractive, but I reached the point where I don't give a flying squirrel about how people precieve me. I never thought I would get to this point, I thought I would always be concerned about damage control and clinging to social norms when it came to male pattern baldness, but I finally changed my priorities. And it's actually quite liberating. What it all came down to was the fact that I didn't like shaving my head and I didn't think it made enough of a difference to warrant the neverending effort.

So now I live with a "power-donut" that only needs to be trimmed every month or so. I go to an actual stylist and they're usually quite surprised that I'm not asking for the clippers like all the other baldies. I simply explain to them that I never liked the shaved look in the first place and I was sick of spending so much time maintaining the look. I ask them to take it up off the neck and clean up the areas around the ears - make it look tidy - and that's it.