Can't Wrap My Head Around How She Doesn't Care

Roberto_72

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So in the midst of all this talk, it looks like I may be about to dip my feet into the dating pool again after an extended hiatus. Since breaking things off with a female about a year or so ago, I haven't touched a woman or even really attempted to put myself out there at all, a combination of a self-esteem crash over my hair as well as some other bullsh*t in my life.

Anyway, my hair is currently at a length on top that I actually feel somewhat at ease with the way I can style it to go out without a hat on, and I'm also finally finding some peace with other areas in my life, so the other night I went out to socialize a bit, and I met this girl who is the good friend of a (female) friend of mine. She's attractive, like a 7-7.5/10 or so, and I was pretty sure there was a mutual vibe, so I decided to follow up with some texts the next couple days, and now it's looking like I may be hanging out with her later this week.

I'm actually way more concerned with my ring-rust, and how long it's been since I've touched a woman or even kissed one, than I am over her noticing anything wrong with my hair, as I'm pretty sure she has no idea I'm a baldite.
Oh but it is cycling. A couple of strokes to the pedals and there you go again ;)
 

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Not to hijack the thread, but just read this. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/rom...m-he-s-being-clingy-claims-me-too-much-public

This is just the kind of thing that makes me angry. A 30-year-old woman is dating a guy who she claims is better than any guy she's dated in a long time, but she's complaining that he's too physical in public and ignores her requests not to be. Fair enough, but
- She keeps saying she really likes him but openly calls him ugly and says she knows she's much more attractive. What the f*ck?
- Even though the OP herself says she's mostly happy with him and even listed all his positive traits, the thread is full of b****s and manginas magnifying this one issue of too much PDA (making him sound like a rapist) and urging her to dump him.
- This one poster (Leigh) begins to look down on the OP when the OP refuses to dump her bf, saying some people just can't find any better and decide to settle. According to Leigh, it's better to be single and hold out than go for a man who isn't perfect in every way. She brags that she's turned down men making 150K a year because they didn't have "that X-factor." These women are in the late 20s-early 30s age group. When do they get it? We stopped believing in Santa at 7 or 8 but they go into middle age still thinking Prince Charming is real.

Can someone tell me why we collectively make monkeys of ourselves? Do our identities and accomplishments really boil down to being offerings on a serving-plate that get rejected for only meeting 99% of a woman's criteria? Men need some f*****g pride.

Just imagine, this is really how women talk to one another about their men. I've stopped holding doors, letting women go first out of the elevator, smiling, and all that BS. I'd rather talk to a gymbro about history or politics than music or movies with a female. I've got a lot of projects and ambitions for myself that interest me far more than feeding and entertaining some millennial girl for free.

I'm a misogynist, guilty as charged, but I try to be a healthy one. :D
 

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Oh but it is cycling. A couple of strokes to the pedals and there you go again ;)

Lol yeah hopefully. I hate the idea of my friend hearing about me laying down some weak *** stroke game, as it's inevitable she's going to hear about whatever happens, since females tell each other EVERYTHING
 

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Not to hijack the thread, but just read this. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/rom...m-he-s-being-clingy-claims-me-too-much-public

This is just the kind of thing that makes me angry. A 30-year-old woman is dating a guy who she claims is better than any guy she's dated in a long time, but she's complaining that he's too physical in public and ignores her requests not to be. Fair enough, but
- She keeps saying she really likes him but openly calls him ugly and says she knows she's much more attractive. What the f*ck?
- Even though the OP herself says she's mostly happy with him and even listed all his positive traits, the thread is full of b****s and manginas magnifying this one issue of too much PDA (making him sound like a rapist) and urging her to dump him.
- This one poster (Leigh) begins to look down on the OP when the OP refuses to dump her bf, saying some people just can't find any better and decide to settle. According to Leigh, it's better to be single and hold out than go for a man who isn't perfect in every way. She brags that she's turned down men making 150K a year because they didn't have "that X-factor." These women are in the late 20s-early 30s age group. When do they get it? We stopped believing in Santa at 7 or 8 but they go into middle age still thinking Prince Charming is real.

Can someone tell me why we collectively make monkeys of ourselves? Do our identities and accomplishments really boil down to being offerings on a serving-plate that get rejected for only meeting 99% of a woman's criteria? Men need some f*****g pride.

Just imagine, this is really how women talk to one another about their men. I've stopped holding doors, letting women go first out of the elevator, smiling, and all that BS. I'd rather talk to a gymbro about history or politics than music or movies with a female. I've got a lot of projects and ambitions for myself that interest me far more than feeding and entertaining some millennial girl for free.

I'm a misogynist, guilty as charged, but I try to be a healthy one. :D

Actually all those girls who are telling her to dump him are doing a very honest and good gesture for both her and her boyfriend, she clearly said she is settled down and compromised with her boyfriend, and that she is not that into him but it will "probably" grow on her, that is EXACTLY what I talked about few posts ago here
she is not physically attracted to him, but she plans on being attracted to his personality because he's so nice and caring, they are ONLY DATING A FKCING WEEK and she is already complaining, also, she mentioned how he is "boyfriend material" so she sck it up even though he is irritating her, and she is still with him despite not being so much into him, which clearly means her definition of "boyfriend material" is money making boyfriend.

all those women who advice her to dump him are actually helping him out so much without knowing, she NEEDS to dump that guy ASAP because she will end up doing so in the future anyway, or worse she will be cheating on him and keep him around for his "boyfriend material attributes"
and him, oh god, too bad he doesn't know all this sh*t she said on the post, poor fella.
I really do hope that woman takes the advice of the women on that thread and dump him, it will save him from a much much sadder future.

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They've been dating for 2 months, not a week. They just had their first kiss a week ago.

Because women are mentally deficient they think the vast majority of men out there are ugly. Look at this survey -- "women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh." http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating

Once I saw a post by another 30-something-old woman who was 5'6" and said she wouldn't date a man under six feet. She said she knew she was excluding about 50 per cent of the male population but she just couldn't help it. b**ch was actually excluding 86 per cent of the male population. She's been single 3 years.

I'll bet you there's nothing physically wrong with this guy, he probably looks like a normal bloke like you or me. He's just not 6'2" with green eyes and a chiseled skull.

So do the math, when the bulk of women out there treat most guys like riffraff and compete for the top 20 per cent of men (the ones who look like Prince Charming), and those men consequently have a number of women chasing them at any given time, how likely are these men to really care about anyone in particular and how likely are women to be happy?

I'm really offended that she would date this guy and yet call him ugly in front of a bunch of strangers. It would occur to most men as scummy to insult their girlfriends that way. Just as it offends me that these women would reduce a good man into the one PDA issue and condemn him so strongly.
 

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They've been dating for 2 months, not a week. They just had their first kiss a week ago.

Because women are mentally deficient they think the vast majority of men out there are ugly. Look at this survey -- "women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh." http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating

Once I saw a post by another 30-something-old woman who was 5'6" and said she wouldn't date a man under six feet. She said she knew she was excluding about 50 per cent of the male population but she just couldn't help it. b**ch was actually excluding 86 per cent of the male population. She's been single 3 years.

I'll bet you there's nothing physically wrong with this guy, he probably looks like a normal bloke like you or me. He's just not 6'2" with green eyes and a chiseled skull.

So do the math, when the bulk of women out there treat most guys like riffraff and compete for the top 20 per cent of men (the ones who look like Prince Charming), and those men consequently have a number of women chasing them at any given time, how likely are these men to really care about anyone in particular and how likely are women to be happy?

I'm really offended that she would date this guy and yet call him ugly in front of a bunch of strangers. It would occur to most men as scummy to insult their girlfriends that way. Just as it offends me that these women would reduce a good man into the one PDA issue and condemn him so strongly.

I am sorry but what kind of a pathetic beta-, no, omega man will be dating a girl for TWO MONTHS (!!!) without even a kiss?
lol. lol. lol. that is a complete joke. that guy must be a retarded blind stupid poor mofo for going with such an absurd relationship.
you date a girl for 2 months and she won't even give you a kiss? what the actual fck? can there be any huger red flag than this?
that guy deserves that girl for being a stupid mother fcker
how can someone be so pathetic? god.
that is not "I'm not really into him" that is more like "I'm repulsed by him", that guy should have known she is not attracted to him whatsoever, 2 fkcing months and she won't even kiss him, lmao
what a pathetic poor idiot, she is going to destroy his life.
 

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I've realised that people here way overestimate the importance of looks sometimes. I've experienced so many times women leaving their 'handsome' looking boyfriends because the relationship wasn't right. I've even experienced women leave their handsome boyfriends for less 'good looking' guys. I mean, even as a guy I know that what I find attractive in a woman these days goes way beyond her being stereo typically beautiful.

Many guys here believe that good looking guys don't get dumped. That is simply not true. If a women is bored in a relationship, she will dump a model. It happens all the time. I have seen handsome dudes getting dumped for average looking males. Makes me wonder, do guys on this forum ever go out and experience the real world? Or they just hide in their apartments and type things what they their limited experience tells them to be true. Life is far more complicated than the black and white perception of reality that they have.
 

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I had never imagined that women could be so cruel.

They are really ruthless, they feel no empathy, no remorse even when they dump your *** and kill your baby in the process, while they were all loving and caring only a few days before doing so.

I thought my contempt for women was already pretty high before my ex and while I was with her, but after what she's done, congratulations, she takes the cake.

Why couldn't you imagine that? When I was in India, there was this 16 years old Muslim girl who was having an affair with a boy who was her neighbor. Her parents were unhappy with the relationship and asked her to stop. You know what she did? She had her parents and five of her siblings murdered while they were sleeping in the night. She did all that so that she can continue dating the boy. I read about several such incidents while I lived in India. Even in the US, I have seen incidents of women falsely accusing men of rape and destroying their lives with no remorse. An ex-coworker of mine married a women who already had a daughter. His parents strongly suggested him to not marry the women because they knew what a b**ch she was. Anyway, after the marriage she falsely accused my co-worker of molesting her daughter. My co-worker went to jail and she got to keep the big house and brand new car that he had recently bought. The man was just 26 years old and his life is finished. The women should have been grateful that he took her in even though she had a daughter. But she wasn't. Having said that, women, like men, are not monolith. There is great variation among individuals. There are many amazing and very compassionate women out there who wouldn't even dream about committing the horrible crimes that I mentioned. But believing that women are not capable of committing horrible crimes is a mistake.
 

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The female's obsession with appearance is much greater than our own. The vast majority of men, once they phase out of adolescence, will have realistic expectations of what kind of girl they can get and are capable of falling in love with average-looking women. For most women (outside the tiny number who are morbidly obese or frighteningly unattractive), physical standards are much higher and more stubborn, including the minuscule and ridiculous, and if you meet those standards nothing else matters and you get everything you could possibly want, permanently, no matter how you behave. As an experiment I used to make fake profiles on a lesser-known social networking site and hit on every girl I could find. The difference was enormous. All the emotional instability and selfishness and bitchiness that most men experience vanished without a trace. I could write a book about it. Men with model looks really live in another galaxy of existence than the 80 percent. They would have no idea what we're talking about over here and they are never misogynists.
 

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I'd be weary of anyone who writes "all the time" all the time.

"I see ugly guys with model-looking girls all the time."

"Male model guys get dumped for average guys all the time."

All the time? You wish, the truth is, they realize there is no future with these male models and replace him an average nice guy that they can introduce to their family. Keeping up appearances is key to women, and it seems you got fooled.

She got a taste of a male model who could make her c*m just by looking at her. She might be appearing in public with her average beta male, but behind close doors, you can bet that she's still f-ing hotter guys.

In fact (and here's where I insert my convenient little anecdote), one of the girls I'm with said she stayed with a(n) average nice guy for way too long, keeping up appearances, while cheating on him. She was like "I know it's bad, I may have left the only honest guy on heart, but what are you going to do about it".

There is what you see, and there is what they do, don't trust your eyes, what they show you in public. You only see what they want you to see.

But it takes one right swipe and 2 or 3 messages on Tinder to get her male model fix, and then go back to her lucky average boyfriend like nothing happened.

Best of both worlds. This is in fact the default mating strategy for human females.

for some reason all of the most absurd situations that happen to support your beliefs always happen to you in real life, fishy I'd say.
You who always describes how horrible women are and how hypocrite and all the other things you always say, still dates a woman who allegedly told you in your face that she dated someone just for appereances and cheated on him behind his back, but you still date her.
you're a hypocrite then.
 

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I'd be weary of anyone who writes "all the time" all the time.

All the time? You wish, the truth is, they realize there is no future with these male models and replace him an average nice guy that they can introduce to their family. Keeping up appearances is key to women, and it seems you got fooled.

I am just reporting what I have observed. I am not sure that women generally dump male models and choose average guys to keep up appearances. I am not a psychologist so I may be wrong but I suspect that a complex set of factors may lead them to it. Those factors themselves may vary from women to women and relationship to relationship. The reason that you outlined may play a role too. But to what extent, I don't know.
 

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Nah, it's still in hand. :D This is a bottled-up issue that almost all of us experience. It's helping me to let the cat out of the bag without making excuses for women and being PC.
 

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Pussy and bag = Too much compromise for my personal taste. :D
 
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