Disfigured Man Discovers Looks-matching: Big Think

[RegenWaiting]

How old are you?

I'm in my 30s and its impossible to find a woman who hasn't a sexual past

Same as you. I know. Man please don't mistake me; it's not a requirement of mine that the potential girlfriend is a virgin(would be a Godess in my eyes in this sense tho'). I'm just putting out here my thinking, and what probability it takes with itself into a relationship.

Haha, yea good luck if that would be a requirement.

 

[RegenWaiting]

This talk between us got me to remember my first girlfriend. She was only 17, and she told me straight up that there would be no sex before marriage. Catholic family. Man was I impressed. Of course, it couldn't last as I wasn't gonna change names to Mr Blue Balls.

She still holds her promise however. Still virgin. Contacted me several times over the years, but it just never happened.

 

[blackg]

I'm clearly making long posts and taking it seriously, so when someone sarcastically throws out your points as being PUA sh*t, they're going to get a hostile reaction.

Fred's pretty transparent. He used to be a firm believer that f*****g vitamins can cure hair loss (so I believe he's gullible enough to spend a lot of time, even money, on PUA), I wouldn't be surprised if he believed head massages would do it.

So watch someone mention the idea that environment or diet can influence your hair loss, and watch him absolutely lose his sh*t. Even if it's a very slight mention, he goes ballistic. Why does that hurt him so much in particular? Because he possibly invested his thoughts heavily into it, and presumably felt like an idiot upon the realisation it's bullshit.

If there's one thing about the guy, and it's a consistent theme throughout a LOT of his posts, it's that inferiority complex, often posting about the stupid people around him with no common sense doing stupid things, renting houses, impractical degrees, meanwhile he has it all figured out. The strawman quotes he makes up about people with the little exclamation at the end (nobody ever says any of these things).

So doing something stupid like believing a multi-vitamin will grow hair, or (if my theory is true) you can spend a lot of time on PUA and successfully chat up women in public, this turning out to be bullshit and the fact he bought into it, is very painful for someone like him.

He seeks out those who now believes in such things, even if they don't (like me) he'll twist it so that it seems like they are, and he wants to hammer home how he doesn't believe in that sh*t like the rest of us idiots (allegedly) do.

Do you see a therapist by any chance?

 

[Rudiger]

Do you see a therapist by any chance?

No actually but I have a good friend who's a therapist, always had somewhat of an interest discussing these things.

 

[blackg]

No actually but I have a good friend who's a therapist, always had somewhat of an interest discussing these things.

Psychological therapy is very interesting.
The way we are treated as impressionable children carries far into our adulthood, so goes the theory.

 

[Roberto_72]

Psychological therapy is very interesting.
The way we are treated as impressionable children carries far into our adulthood, so goes the theory.

This is just one aspect actually.
Adolescence is just as important according to many shrinks.
If, during adolescence, life treats you badly, it is difficult you will make a very happy adult.

 

[Medina]

I don't and never have followed any ideology. You just refuse to understand the concept of turning a woman off, which is easily done. I already destroyed your entire philosophy the other day with a simple question that you failed to address properly: Do women change their mind about a guy? The answer is of course yes and it happens all the time.

So much for Fredpill. Nevermind

 

[blackg]

They changed their mind about considering him as a long-term boyfriend.

They don't change their mind when it comes to having sex with him.

That was decided before he even opened his mouth.

Most of the time, she'll just have sex with him and then move on.

If she doesn't have sex with him, she never really wanted to.

Theory still holds and applies to all my experiences with women .
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Your experiences are not universal. When are you going to realise this?
I've seen a woman heavily attracted to a man viewed from across the table.
But, later on, a struggling one on one conversation between the pair ensured that they both went home alone.
No sex.

This happens more often then you want to believe.

dislike?

 

[blackg]

^^
Haha... You bastard!

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Your experiences are not universal. When are you going to realise this?
I've seen a women heavily attracted to a man viewed from across the table.
But, later on, a struggling one on one conversation between the pair ensured that they both went home alone.
No sex.

This happens more often then you want to believe.

dislike?

There's a british show in the uk called first dates when this happened.

There was a handsome pretty boy and the girl fancied him to f***, but when she realised that he was horrendously dull and could hardly have a conversation she ended up telling him not at the end of the date when he made a move.

I had it myself when I dated a pretty Barbie type girl who just bored me to hell. We were making out on the second date and I just had an epiphany where I realised I needed to date people who were compatible with my personality.

 

[hairblues]

Well, then we just differ in opinion. I just think that women/girls who have been ''there'' before many, or even several times, are more prone to repeat that behaviour. I'm looking at their pattern. Also, they have experienced many things with someone already, making them less special every time after that, and therefore less emotional connection. Also, they are ''not afraid'' of breaking of (not in the sense of judgement from society or something like that), so that results in less tolerence for faults from the other part. Tolerance may even be the crucial thing lacking in such women, often talkad about as 'able to love' and 'respect' etc.

I dont know the flip side is if you did not sow your oats you will be more likely to cheat if you have opportunity.
male and female..

I think a lot of men are just a little grossed out if a woman had (in there opinion) TOO many men. where women are less likely to feel that way.

I think because its not really a 'logical' instinct they try to find make sense of it.....but really IF a man is grossed out someone had too many partners--he does not need to figure it out just find someone else.
And vice versa as well if a woman feels that way about a man.

 

[hairblues]

S .


Conventional beauty and attractive traits like height don't necessarily match with raw sexual attraction.

I've been close to conventional hot girls yet felt absolutely nothing for them, no electricity in the air if I can put it like that.

And close to meh-looking girls who would make it hard not to jump on them during our interaction. And they felt the same.

Everyone here who has experience with women should know what I'm talking about.

This is so true (why are we agreeing so much Bear?)

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I dont know the flip side is if you did not sow your oats you will be more likely to cheat if you have opportunity.
male and female..

I think a lot of men are just a little grossed out if a woman had (in there opinion) TOO many men. where women are less likely to feel that way.

I think because its not really a 'logical' instinct they try to find make sense of it.....but really IF a man is grossed out someone had too many partners--he does not need to figure it out just find someone else.
And vice versa as well if a woman feels that way about a man.

Would you be put off if the man you were dating had slept with over 20 women?

 

[JohnsonDDG]

The more women want to sleep with you (or better, to start a relationship with you), the higher value you are.

All women know this, so why would they be put off by a high number of sexual partners?

That's why saying "I slept with 30 women, all prostitutes" won't have the same effect.

Haha I hope this is true.

Like the OP was saying - it could also make people like you and me look like players who cant commit.

 

[hairblues]

Would you be put off if the man you were dating had slept with over 20 women?

No I dont ask men how many women they slept with.

I dont really ask that much about mens pasts to be honest..I mean some things come up over time.

 

[RegenWaiting]

I dont know the flip side is if you did not sow your oats you will be more likely to cheat if you have opportunity.
male and female..

I think a lot of men are just a little grossed out if a woman had (in there opinion) TOO many men. where women are less likely to feel that way.

I think because its not really a 'logical' instinct they try to find make sense of it.....but really IF a man is grossed out someone had too many partners--he does not need to figure it out just find someone else.
And vice versa as well if a woman feels that way about a man.

It would be interesting what a study designed on this theme would tell. I would defo put my money on that couples where the women went into marriage as a virgin, or at least close to it, are less likely to split or have ''a bumpy ride''. Just what I would predict upon experience, observation and general happiness between different kind of couples etc...

Also, if you think logic, nature won't have this either. While a man can make 100 children within days (if libido is healthy), a women can only have 1 or a couple in 9 months. Nature doesn't want women f*****g around. It forbids women to most of its power, but since we evolved to able to use contraceptives the last 100 years, it has changed. Therefore, the vice versa sentence I don't agree with. You just can't set equal between something that is not. It just ain't the same thing...I firmly believe.

Too me personally, I also don't appreciate something (someone) who I must share with others. Have you seen the movie ''Her''? When the main character finds out the AI is seeing thousands of others at the same time. This is how we are. We want someting for ourselves, then it can be more personal---->more lovable. I know people and things are not the same, but...the more something is 'just for you only', the more you will appreciate it and protect it. Sex is also something that cannot be more intimate, and intimacy should be reserved for 'not so many' people. I will argue you will not feel very special if somebody told you their secret, only to find out you are only one of many who has the 'honor'.

My thoughts of course. No judgement.

 

[hairblues]

It would be interesting what a study designed on this theme would tell. I would defo put my money on that couples where the women went into marriage as a virgin, or at least close to it, are less likely to split or have ''a bumpy ride''. Just what I would predict upon experience, observation and general happiness between different kind of couples etc...

Also, if you think logic, nature won't have this either. While a man can make 100 children within days (if libido is healthy), a women can only have 1 or a couple in 9 months. Nature doesn't want women f*****g around. It forbids women to most of its power, but since we evolved to able to use contraceptives the last 100 years, it has changed. Therefore, the vice versa sentence I don't agree with. You just can't set equal between something that is not. It just ain't the same thing...I firmly believe.

Too me personally, I also don't appreciate something (someone) who I must share with others. Have you seen the movie ''Her''? When the main character finds out the AI is seeing thousands of others at the same time. This is how we are. We want someting for ourselves, then it can be more personal---->more lovable. I know people and things are not the same, but...the more something is 'just for you only', the more you will appreciate it and protect it. Sex is also something that cannot be more intimate, and intimacy should be reserved for 'not so many' people. I will argue you will not feel very special if somebody told you their secret, only to find out you are only one of many who has the 'honor'.

My thoughts of course. No judgement.

I think in USA a lot of the good little christian girls for example tend to become the really 'naughty' girls after marriage. I think they get surpressed and feel they missed out on something.

My friend was Born Again raised by her parents..they were super strict she was a virgin until she turned 18 and she went wild she became very promiscuous and she also got into acid and going to acid parties on LES where squatters would take over these empty buildings and turn them into homes (pretty nice actually lol) and she got totally into the Rave scene of early 90s...Until she got married at 24 and she was with this guy for 15 years..unfortunatly he left her but in the marriage she stayed faithful...but she always said to me she felt like those wild days it was back lash to her Mom who never let her do anything.

Being a virgin until marriage is surpressing yourself...there is a huge gape between having maybe 3 lovers before marriage and like 50..I mean young girls getting married lets say early 20s she should not have already had 50 men in her life--this would be bizarre..
but 3 lovers/boyfriends lets say for someone who is 21, I think is normal amount.

I think it depends on the society where you live of course.

 

[Medina]

there is a huge gape between having maybe 3 lovers before marriage and like 50.

You might wanna reword that lol

 

[Marky]

In NYC people date by neighborhoods this is actually a huge thing. It's a criteria often for almost everyone. Male female hot or not.
Location location location.

So true, unless I'm really into someone I'm not driving to the other side of town to meet for a movie or coffee or keep a "long" distance relationship going when I can find someone in the northwest part of town where I live.
Thanks for mentioning this, I've told this to friends and got the deer in the head lights look.

 

[hairblues]

So true, unless I'm really into someone I'm not driving to the other side of town to meet for a movie or coffee or keep a "long" distance relationship going when I can find someone in the northwest part of town where I live.
Thanks for mentioning this, I've told this to friends and got the deer in the head lights look.

to travel far is not practical to be too far.