Were you stoned when you wrote this?
So is saying this supposed to mean something? Is it supposed to make YOU sound smarter than me? Ah, I dont like your POV so you are HIGH! Is it supposed to achieve the result of calling someone a "racist" during a debate. Am I now supposed to defend not "being high" over debating you?
Firstly, so wait are we blaming parents for knowing there's a chance their kid could be bald or could they not have known there would be such importance on it and it's not their fault? Were you stoned when you wrote this?
I sometimes complain on here about having to use a regime but you overblow it way more than I ever have, do you spend like hours a day re-applying minoxidil and popping finasteride and I dunno, getting all those constant hair transplants along with all the wig shopping you do? And oh my god shampoo, the indignity of putting a differently branded similarly affordable shampoo on my head! You were given a life to live, and to think these ridiculous thoughts you're expressing, when you have a lot of time not to worry about hair loss, even if it does dent us all in some ways, I think people like you who see life as practically unbearable would be looking for something else to loathe about yourself if it weren't for male pattern baldness.
So you think every example I posted is relegated to me personally, kudos to you for not viewing the obvious and trying to make it sound more extreme than even I was going for. But yes in my PERSONALY example,
I do have to make sure Im using my minoxidil daily, and we do this spending pretty large sums of money I could be using elsewhere on topicals I dont even know work. I personally CANT use finasteride because of sides and when it comes to hair transplants you do spend hours upon hours going to consults, allocating funds, and risking yourself to do it to feel "good" about yourself again. There are people who would always find something to b**ch about. I personally am not one. I am the hardest worker you will ever meet and I "expect" maximum return on all my endeavors. Spending tons of time in the gym, programming your brain to only go for certain foods, and trying to work out good style is all moot if you are ugly "bald".... NOT automatically ugly because you are bald but just ugly because YOU are bald, which I am. I went the shaved route, its not attractive. IF you are fine in life expecting the least out of yourself and being happy about it then good for you but that outlook makes you sound like someone who lives to sit in their basement playing video games eating cheetos.
As for being the "fat friend" well look around you, most people aren't noticeably good looking, guys particularly, generally I think women put up with our poor genes a lot more than we do with theirs. Mainly we have worse skin and poor complexions, unsymmetrical faces with strange features such as big foreheads or large brows that would make a female face disfigured instead of "rugged", beer bellies or weight that would stick out much more obviously on a woman, hair in all the unwanted places, and despite all this a lot of decent or good looking women put up with it. And by the way some people have to live with being the "fat friend" from the start, and they'll probably end up with a much better life partner than you and your defeatist attitude.
You are as good looking as you want to put in to a degree, until it comes to something you cant do anything about, IE hair. I have body hair, I shave it, you have a beer belly then WORK OUT! Asymmetrical features you have to find another way I guess but that sucks and if there is no hope YES you have a right to complain. If your parents were that busted in the face then they should not have bred unless they were SUPREME geniuses and the world could not progress scientifically without them. Believe it or not YOU are not special, and the world does not need YOU. People need to really look deep into themselves before they have kids. People in the US screaming gun control when 90% of the problems are kids. To many people have kids anyway (and the WRONG PEOPLE) so stop thinking YOU need to pass your genes, its just selfish. Im sure those people starting off as the fat friend are no happier than about it than we make it seem here. Be realistic.
Next, what I wrote was really awful unless I'm either horribly ugly or super good-looking? That makes no sense, seriously how stoned were you? Anyway I'm neither, I'm 5'10 and definitely closer to good looking than ugly, but not that big jawed obvious cheekbones kind of super good-looking I think you're talking about. As far as finding "lacklustre" women attractive- hahaha, I just find it so hilarious you'd use the phrase lacklustre women as if only top-notch women could satisfy you, anything else won't do. I mean it depends exactly what you consider lacklustre but while you're crying about your brother picking up supermodels or whatever, most of the rest of the guys in the world are perfectly happy with averagely cute looking girls who look incredible with their clothes off. I mean you can look at a LOT of pornstars or amateur p**rn if you haven't experienced this for yourself. Decently attractive girls may not look super photogenic or whatever you dream of on your arm, but that doesn't matter in the privacy of a bedroom when average looking slim girls look as attractive as pretty much any other girl (and I literally mean that, as attractive as 9/10 model types).
You go be happy with your lackluster mates. I personally spent my years with very attractive girls and NEVER had to worry about them venturing off and if they did SO WHAT, Id find another. If I could still achieve averagely cute girls Id be moderately happy but even those seem very disinterested since my hair loss. Could I find a "wife"? Sure. Personally dont want a wife. I work out, I want a woman who has that great body, but hey good luck when you have a bald head. You are pretty much relegated to fat girls. Ill say you have your PICK OF THE LITTER of fatties cause they all want to land the guy with a good body but I cant do that to myself. Sorry Im not going to put in work for something that wont take care of itself. One of the main reasons my current relationship sucks so bad and I have been trying to get out (long story) is because my GF literally trippled in her weight. Know when it happened? WHEN I LOST MY HAIR! When I bring up her weight, whats that first defense? "WELL YOU WENT BALD".
Losing your hair puts you on a lower tier than the rest of society. You are talking to someone who was on both ends. Someone who had actual modeling opportunities offered to him and could pick up any girl after chatting for 15 minutes to literally getting a snub nose when trying to make eye contact in a grocery store.
I was someone that even dating hot girls my friends always wondered why I was "settling". So am I spoiled? YES but I always worked out and worked hard at personal maintenance and personal/professional growth. SO yes my brother does pick up supermodels, as I used to but he doesnt have to "work" like you say because he still has his looks and can just go out and meet someone new. Its a sucky feeling now when your "little" brother picks up better looking and more women than you do. Its also not a great personal feeling when almost all the girls you meet now outright talk about how hot your sibling is and ignore you, or you get the "YOU GUYS are brothers?"
And Im tired of the "well those are the girls you shouldnt bother with anyway" THATS ALL GIRLS!
And not that this seems to matter to you, but personality-wise, putting up with a really pretty girl is ****ing hard work 90% of the time. It's been my own experience, and having friends who have been very good looking and therefore should deserve a stand-out hot chick, they still seem to get in more head-twisting ****ty arguments than when anyone goes out with a down to earth cute girl. Really attractive women are constantly aware that all men want to bang them all of the time, this is a power ingrained in them from a young age and their entire adult life and they feel valued like a rare commodity that nobody should have for just being a nice guy, not even a nice handsome guy that they're genuinely attracted to. So unless you have a somewhat infinite wealth you can expect to be walked all over (this is generalising about very hot women but it's generally true). Worse still are friends I've had who punched above their weight, married into it and had kids, and then the reminder that nothing this great and unpresented in life comes free, basically they get cheated on, sometimes practically openly. How sad is that.
Sorry I work to hard, and whether your girl is a 10 or a 3 they all want to be treated like an 11 and are ALLLLLLLL WORK! The difference is where I used to be able to just prove a point of saying "yeah this is TO MUCH work" and could walk and find someone new, I no longer have that luxury, yes its a luxury but again I worked for it. So dealing with a model or a fattie will still equate to the same work and effort. Basically what you are saying is "I like ugly girls because I have more control on the situation". Sorry I dont need that nor desire it. I would rather have something I find attractive. And yes a standard cute girl would still be fine with me as they always were but NEVER someone who is overweight.
Well done if you've read this far but I'll finally get back to my main point, hair loss pisses me off and you off and all of us off, but your outlook on experiencing or not experiencing life based on a 6x4 inch patch on the top of your head is flat out depressing. Maybe you think you're just being "real", but if you think there's any question to whether you should have lived your life because you're balding, you need some hobbies. And if you're struggling with women as much as this post suggests, well you become what you think about, and no wonder women will find you inferior when your entire attitude is based on being so because of a lack of hair. I mean whining about not being every woman's first choice, I mean ****.
OF COURSE I read this far, why wouldnt i? Did you think half way through I would "wake up" and go "OMFG THIS GUYS IS RIGHT, over EVERYONE else in the world THIS guy right here has opened my eyes!" Stop being stupid and saying little quips like you are sarcastically profound, you are not.
But hey I never lived my live, I only have 3 houses, a very professional job, multiple skills, plenty of friends (all with great hair still). Ill also get a hobby since Ive wasted so much time learning, drums, bass and some guitar, go to the gym religiously, write, podcast, build aquariums and stands, ride my motorcycles, read the news, among many other things. Those arent hobbies though, Ill just play video games instead.
And lastly if YOU read this far and think this is how I act in my day to day life, then you sir are a RE-TARD! This is the internet. My birth name is NOT swingline, yes, believe it or not its JUST an internet handle. This is a place to vent and complain about things when you are pissy. If you think you are going to come on and "wake everyone up" then YOU are the one who needs a hobby.
edit: Also Im editing here, dont let this rant turn into a woe is me over women thread. Im not trying to portray that at all. What I am moderately pissed about is just my rotten luck and the feeling I always have to put in 5x's as much effort as the last guy. If I could have only kept my hair, my life in my eyes would honestly be "perfect".
Women are a side story but in the end the "instant" attraction from the opposite sex is what determines whether you are attractive or not, when you used to get more than you can handle to now getting ZILCH all because of something you can do NOTHING about its a suckass feeling. I also never blame women for their POV on bald men. Personally I think its repulsive as well. Looking at my on father makes me want to smash his face into a metal dumpster, among many other reasons.
That's what I really like, natural beauty even with so called imperfections. It adds to their character and is enticing, very personal, sexy. 