i accepted my hairloss

[IBM]

Tauge you are NOT ugly! You just need a bit of self belief! You will find a girlfriend one day!

Yeah!

I lost my hope of getting a girlfriend. I'm very sad. I cant take it anymore....

 

[Itsonlyinmyhead]

Yeah!

I lost my hope of getting a girlfriend. I'm very sad. I cant take it anymore....

Well lets take it like an exercise schedule. You cant go from fat to six packed, ripped arms and back in just one step, it needs to be gradual, so try things like exercising and socialising. Basically improve your confidence. Then gradually move yourself, mould yourself into what you want to be.

 

[Guest]

Yeah!

I lost my hope of getting a girlfriend. I'm very sad. I cant take it anymore....

Well lets take it like an exercise schedule. You cant go from fat to six packed, ripped arms and back in just one step, it needs to be gradual, so try things like exercising and socialising. Basically improve your confidence. Then gradually move yourself, mould yourself into what you want to be.

good post!

 

[blondeguy]

Neo,

I have to agree with you so much. We need to accept our imperfections otherwise we will go nuts. I know what I am talking about it. I have started to accept my mistakes. For years I was depressed about my ugliness. I spent thinking about it night and day and was so unhappy. Every time I walked on the streets I thought to myself what other people, especially women, would think about me. I wished I could hide my ugliness under a bag. But I am not like that anymore. I have accepted now that I am ugly and that I will always be like that. It doesn´t make sense to think about it all day. I need to live with my ugliness and the consequences such as never having a nice girlfriend. I don´t say it is easy and that I don´t feel sad about it anymore, but it no longer dominates my life. I hope I can achieve something similiar with my hair. I want to enjoy it for 2 or 3 more years and then I will just start shaving. I think it is a long way for me to acceptance (accepting my ugliness took me more than 10 years) and I will still try to save as much as I can, but in the end I will have to face the inevitable and go on with my life.

My most positive post ever!

"Most positive post ever," even though you spend the whole post repeatedly calling yourself ugly. You need to stop doing that. You're using it as an excuse to blame your loneliness on.

 

[Guest]

tauge is on a good way i think. soon he will get a girl.

 

[Itsonlyinmyhead]

Taug-you get a thumbs up, just keep accepting yourself. I know how you feel mate, I was in the same state quite a few years ago due to acne mainly and I thought I was so ugly and I had no self confidence then it gradually grew and BAM loads of girlies. Dont think about the women though otherwhise it will put stress on you and make you doubt more. Just feel comfortable in yourself.


AND

You are not ugly

 

[Guest]

hehe, ya, i see changes in you. you get more positive. and its good to accept your ugliness. i think you got pretty high standards about lookings so if you think you're ugly, thats ok. its not about if think your handsome or ugly, its about to accept how you see yourself. it doesnt matter if these guys tell you , you are handsome. you are not, in my eyes. compared to the average joe i would say , you are average. but it doesnt matter ...if you think you are ugly in your honest opinion and you accept it...then fine. and you will find a nice girlfriend. you are tall. thats a bonus you got. and i think you dont have these high standards like ccs or ibm.

Oh, I think I have pretty high standards. I think I only like about 15% of all girls in my University. CCS even went down on this ugly Jewish chick.

so i pretty much think you will find a nice girlfriend. my suggestion is, learn something about PUA. if you dont know what that is but you want to learn something about how to get a nice girlfriend...then you will find out what that means.

Yeah, I know about Pickup Artists, I have also been reading some forums. But I think it is not good for me. PUA need to be very spontaneous and most important very self-confident. I am not like that, it wouldn´t work for me. They also say that you always should go out with friends, I have no friends. And the list might be continued endlessly.
You know, part of accepting my ugliness is also the acceptance that I will never have a nice girlfriend. It is just how it is....

i think, now that you accepted your ugliness, think about how you accepted it. and then do that with your hair the same way. you said you got bdd. i think i had that too. i think it always happens when you didnt got many social skills or many social contacts. so try to socialize more. and your bdd will go away. its positive reactions from people which let you overcome it. just do one step each time. i think if people wouldnt react so positive to me since i show my hairloss...i couldnt accept it.

Well, I wish socializing would be so easy for me.... I have an avoidant personality disorder, I have zero social skills, I don´t know how to talk people, I have no friends, I have nothing. I have also accepted that I am a social outcast. I am no more trying to make friends. I am an Omega type. And I don´t think have BDD. I though I had it until I realized that I am just ugly....

its good that you show your hairloss already. thats the first step. i didnt take it for a long time. too long. i think by that you show it...you already accepted it to a degree. you now only need to learn that it doesnt matter to people. does anyone look weird at your hair? i think no.

Nobody can spot my hairloss under normal daylight when it is combed forward.

look in the eyes of people when you are at university. do they look at your hair or in your eyes (...if they look at you). if they look in your eyes you should pretty much be fine coz that means they dont care about your hair or think its normal.

Well, they quickly look away when they see me and ignore me at best.....

 

[Guest]

umm, now you are falling far back.

tauge if you are standards are so high, then maybe thats your problem. its not all about looks, yet you say only 15 % of the girls at university are acceptable.

okay, i dont know what to tell you...

 

[blondeguy]

You know, part of accepting my ugliness is also the acceptance that I will never have a nice girlfriend. It is just how it is....

If you tell yourself you will lose, you will lose. The inverse is also true.

 

[JayB]

Oh, I think I have pretty high standards. I think I only like about 15% of all girls in my University. CCS even went down on this ugly Jewish chick.

Be careful with statements like these considering youre German lol

 

[Guest]

Oh, I think I have pretty high standards. I think I only like about 15% of all girls in my University. CCS even went down on this ugly Jewish chick.

Be careful with statements like these considering youre German lol

yeah seriously. not sure if he's referring to the blonde girl that ccs said is jewish, but she is ugly. but what does her being jewish have to do with it? clearly taug is an ugly anti-semite, but being german, his ugliness is not surprising, hah. see, two can play at that game.

jayman - only 1/8th german, fortunately

 

[IBM]

i think the neo-nazi wing suite to Taug. He could shave all his head and not be judged by neo-nazi girls. It have this advantage.

 

[Guest]

I am glad to see that you people, unlike me, have no prejudices...... :roll:

 

[IBM]

yeah seriously. not sure if he's referring to the blonde girl that ccs said is jewish, but she is ugly. but what does her being jewish have to do with it? clearly taug is an ugly anti-semite, but being german, his ugliness is not surprising, hah. see, two can play at that game.

jayman - only 1/8th german, fortunately

See i was right. She was ugly. And CCS is all handy and dandy with scales is dating a girl that Jayman considers her ugly.

I'm doomed. I'm the lonely wolf under full Moon.

 

[IBM]

Taug your avatar is ridiculous. Posting a guy with great hair. It remembers me Jayman with middle aged man with tremendous hair that people complained about.

 

[RaginDemon]

got a haircut today, cut it extra short for summer. I told the hair dress not to worry about the receeding temples and thinning on the top, just cut it short.

it turns out to be okey, and I like it alot. Instead of worrying ppl see my thin spots, I don't think about it at all. I have been playing ball outside all day and it felt really good.

The keeping your hair long to cover your thin spot method never really worked on me btw... It just made me depressed all the time.

 

[Guest]

how long is your hair now?

my hair is actually 8 cm, yet it is from times where i hided my hairloss under long hair. but now i show my hairline and my hair is way too long for this style. im gona let it cut next week to about 5 cm. i think thats okay. 5 cm is normal length. i dont need 1 cm. which is very short. and shaved or buzz cut i dont have the balls for yet or anyway i dont want that style.

congrats to your new hair style and that you like it!

 

[Nathaniel]

yeah seriously. not sure if he's referring to the blonde girl that ccs said is jewish, but she is ugly. but what does her being jewish have to do with it? clearly taug is an ugly anti-semite, but being german, his ugliness is not surprising, hah. see, two can play at that game.

jayman - only 1/8th german, fortunately

See i was right. She was ugly. And CCS is all handy and dandy with scales is dating a girl that Jayman considers her ugly.

I'm doomed. I'm the lonely wolf under full Moon.

Well, it could be worse if you were a sheep.

 

[recognition2]

got a haircut today, cut it extra short for summer. I told the hair dress not to worry about the receeding temples and thinning on the top, just cut it short.

it turns out to be okey, and I like it alot. Instead of worrying ppl see my thin spots, I don't think about it at all. I have been playing ball outside all day and it felt really good.

The keeping your hair long to cover your thin spot method never really worked on me btw... It just made me depressed all the time.

Way to go man, I feel more confident after getting a buzz cut either.
And you know, it's kind of a trend since Prison break . People ask me if I'm getting a tatoo on my body soon .

 

[Itsonlyinmyhead]

Get a tattoo of your house put across your body, with all the plumbing to fill the space.

:lol: