I had a dream women are being brainwashed into detesting baldness...

[I.D WALKER]

I like the way you think Dr.H,. Obviously (?) I have not been around these parts nearly as long as some here, so I'm honored you've magnanimously included me as a welcomed guest of your wondrous "what if" event. If I'm late please be a good sport and save me a seat near you.

Maybe some day, some of the senior members from this forum will have a meet and greet somewhere in the world and finally get to interact in person.

 

[Wolf Pack]

Thank you, WolfPack. Your pictures, though--wow. Bet you attract a lot of attention with those full, sexy lips.

If I can age well and look good like you, I would be happy. You're actually really motivational especially as women generally have it harder age wise. I say motivational even though I know a lot of it is genetics but it still gives hope What you said about your own mum despite her loving the sun and smoking, was great!

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Maybe some day, some of the senior members from this forum will have a meet and greet somewhere in the world and finally get to interact in person.

And then share their stories on this forum. I reckon there would be poor eye contact though, we may just look at each others hair for a good while :laugh:

 

[Rudiger]

THERE WAS A PHOTO?! Did I miss this

You sound like a real winner in life.

 

[Joan]

And maybe if we're lucky Joan you're also update yours? (-:

After you, I.D.

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I like the way you think Dr.H,. Obviously (?) I have not been around these parts nearly as long as some here, so I'm honored you've magnanimously included me as a welcomed guest of your wondrous "what if" event. If I'm late please be a good sport and save me a seat near you.

Lol, when he said "senior," I thought he meant us older folks! Don't worry about being late--I'll save you a seat next to me.

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If I can age well and look good like you, I would be happy. You're actually really motivational especially as women generally have it harder age wise. I say motivational even though I know a lot of it is genetics but it still gives hope What you said about your own mum despite her loving the sun and smoking, was great!

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You'll no doubt be the next Bryan Randall in about 20 years. I've seen younger pictures of him, and you are better looking than he was at your age.

 

[swingline747]

You sound like a real winner in life.

compared to you Id say so , yes

Once again late to a party and jumping in like you know whats going on

Kudos for your sharp wit..... Ill be dry heaving now

 

[Captain Hook]

It would be so cool to have a meet-up with some members in a central location... Brussels?

I second this. Annual HairLossTalk.com meet ups in various locations around the world should definitely be arranged

 

[I.D WALKER]

Lol, when he said "senior," I thought he meant us older folks! Don't worry about being late--I'll save you a seat next to me.

Now that picture just about makes a masterpiece. I'll furnish an oxygen tank to complete the ambience. (-:

 

[Wolf Pack]

It would be so cool to have a meet-up with some members in a central location... Brussels?

But I agree for the hair scrutiny, it may be the first time in my life I would wear a hat while there is no sun outside .

No but we are kind of friends on here. I don't think we would be harsh on perfect hair. No need for a hat Maybe an American Meet and a Europe one!

 

[CaptainForehead]

If you ever posted a photo, I have no doubt you'd receive TONS of compliments!

I have a really hard time understanding some young women. It's like Evillocks had $5 billion dollars, she lost $2 billion, and is depressed. I'm like, "but you still have $3 billion, why you sad?"

Anyone seen My So Called Life? There is an episode where the mom goes "I wish I had enjoyed my beauty more".

 

[Dench57]

I have a really hard time understanding some young women. It's like Evillocks had $5 billion dollars, she lost $2 billion, and is depressed. I'm like, "but you still have $3 billion, why you sad?"

Anyone seen My So Called Life? There is an episode where the mom goes "I wish I had enjoyed my beauty more".

Is that really so hard to understand? Of course it's going to hit you hard if you've got good looks to begin with and are rapidly losing them. Not saying EvilLocks is, but I think she feels that way about losing her hair.

I try not to compare myself, or my hair, with other people. I'm not interested. I only care about how I used to be, how my hair used to be. That hurts the most.

 

[Joan]

I have a really hard time understanding some young women. It's like Evillocks had $5 billion dollars, she lost $2 billion, and is depressed. I'm like, "but you still have $3 billion, why you sad?"

Anyone seen My So Called Life? There is an episode where the mom goes "I wish I had enjoyed my beauty more".

Your lifestyle wouldn't change if you still had $3 billion, but a woman who goes bald will be a wig prisoner forever if she wishes to look normal. The wig will impact her lifestyle and lower her self-esteem greatly.

 

[Captain Hook]

Is that really so hard to understand? Of course it's going to hit you hard if you've got good looks to begin with and are rapidly losing them. Not saying EvilLocks is, but I think she feels that way about losing her hair.

I try not to compare myself, or my hair, with other people. I'm not interested. I only care about how I used to be, how my hair used to be. That hurts the most.

Many more people need to be aware of this fact. Some may point fingers and tell us to quit whinging if we're low NWs but they're comparing us to higher NWs, not previous versions of ourselves.

People can easily say "Hook, you don't even look like you have any hair loss!" but when I wake up every morning and look in the mirror at my receded temples, I'm reminded that I am now a person who looks different compared to who I was even a year ago.

Sure we could all tell Evil "don't worry, you'd still look hot even if you end up going bald!" and that may very well be true, I'd even think so. But in her eyes she will always look in the mirror and think back to happier times like we all do.

 

[EvilLocks]

I have a really hard time understanding some young women. It's like Evillocks had $5 billion dollars, she lost $2 billion, and is depressed. I'm like, "but you still have $3 billion, why you sad?"

Anyone seen My So Called Life? There is an episode where the mom goes "I wish I had enjoyed my beauty more".

I'm going bald as a 23 year old woman, and you're asking me why I am sad? Wow.

 

[blackg]

Evilocks has Nothing to apologise for, for feeling devistated by the state of her hair.
It's a burden I dont envy. With her being young and otherwise attractive. (I bet she still is, though)

Anyway, I never criticise others for whatever problems they focus on.
I realise that we are all unique individuals with independent minds.

Walk a mile in someone's shoes, I say.

 

[blackg]

Well said, Fred.

 

[EvilLocks]

I've always hated the "You shouldn't feel like that!" argument. Well she does, and we do, that's just how it is.

Some people think it's like we chose to be miserable or something. It's an automatic response, we didn't choose to feel this way.

I just think the affliction must be real. When I started feeling really horrible because of my hair loss was when I was 19 on holiday.

I was at the hotel's bar and saw my reflection in the mirror. First time I could see my shinny scalp under my slightly diffused hair.

I started becoming so numb, with this pain in my throat. I just left my friends to go cry in my room. Two of the girls followed me.

And what was their response to my crying? "But you shouldn't feel like this, aren't you exaggerating? You're here to have fun! Just stop being sad and have fun!"

Then some crap about having had a bald boyfriend once (that no one had ever seen, she must have been proud to be with him!).

In short, I hate the "You're wrong to feel like this" argument. Yes, this is how I feel and if you don't approve of it, f-ck you!

Exactly. Nobody should tell me or anyone else for that sake, how they should or should not feel about something. Captain doesn't seem to understand this, and from his point of view I should not feel as much despair about my baldness. But he is not me, he doesn't know my full story or the daily struggles I face. So he should simply respect my feelings on this, like I respect his feelings about his own baldness.

 

[I.D WALKER]

I "used to be" a pretty good looking guy, fortuitously endowed with a dense and wavy head of hair that the ladies "used to" love to touch.

My fortune never quite went to my head until the day I began to lose my hair. I think I nearly lost my head after that.

My heart had long since been broken a couple seasons earlier and hadn't fully healed (it rarely does, it only get's hardened/cured by layers of scar tissue).

So I was already damaged before male pattern baldness bushwhacked me for a second time.

Today it's terribly difficult to look at old photos of my former "complete physical self" and smile warmly inside

Because what/who I see now is no longer ME.

So it seems I have not yet caught up with my new reality.

I will say that for all intents and purposes, at least on the topic of Androgenetic Alopecia,

Unless we are debating infinity theorem(s) we have been taught to know that zero times anything else is zero.

This basic rule can not logically be denied.

Perhaps beyond this universal paradigm, we'll one day discover an alternate horizon

Where our metaphysical aspect sublimely supersedes our ordinarily hopeless state of "used to be".

 

[Captain Hook]

Fred is right. As we age we gain wisdom through our experiences, it would be impossible to have acted differently simply because you have no idea what the future holds and (hopefully) 10 years from now you'll be at a level of maturity that wouldn't be achievable at present since maturity tends to be a result of learning from past experiences.

There's nothing wrong with being grateful with what you have now but it's a bit impish to think you can immediately change, the word 'retrospect' is by definition, only applicable to the past. It's illogical to think this way too because regardless of how we act, most afflictions will continue to plague us regardless, especially one we only have limited control over such as Androgenetic Alopecia. And with them come emotions, something else we cannot easily control.

Besides, it's foolish to live with regret anyways.

 

[I.D WALKER]

If I did that I think the next 5-10 years would find me still here just looking back and wishing. Lol.., confusing my falling hairs with falling stars.
It's easy to see that we could have all done things differently and more easy to overlook the real possibility that doing it differently does not necessarily produce better results. (-:

I am not judging anyone here, only have this to say. Everything in life is relative, and here is the question. In 5 years or 10 years or 20 years will you look back and wish you had acted differently.

 

[Captain Hook]

Become a fitness freak and work out every day. Eat a lot of protein and you will feel 100% better. .

"Shave your head and lift heavy" is pretty archaic advice they throw around on bodybuilding forums a lot. I love those guys but they are wrong when it comes to that adage. Lift because you enjoy it or are doing it as a form of exercise to stay healthy, don't do it to compensate for losing your hair (hint: it doesn't work that way, NW7 and shredded is still NW7. Muscles only help to a certain extent and most people don't care about getting Zyzz level aesthetic)

Ayy lmao! How the hell does eating protein make you feel better? It's just another macronutrient, sure foods with protein taste good but they won't affect your mood at all. Also, working out every day can lead to overtraining and hence carries a risk of injury. Chill with the broscience and at least take 2 days off (like the weekend for example) to rest, brah!

Fred may be a little subversive when it comes to mainstream viewpoints but he is spot on with this one.