15-22 all my energy was into studies, so baldness wasnt my top worry. It helped that at my engineering school, there were like 20 boys for every girl. 24-30 I spent in general depression. I was not aware it was due to baldness, messed up teeth, being physically untalented, and being generally ugly, but I think that was the cause.
I was in denial about my ugliness for quite a while (but subconciously I knew). Finally faced the truth in my late 20s and decided to do something. Got braces and dental implants. Saw Iron Man and started beard compensating after looking at Obadiah. I've mentioned this before, a couple of people I worked closely with in my mid 20s said after seeing my new look that they barely recognized me.
So it wasn't that I accepted my look, rather I
changed my look to work with my baldness.
However, I hate my voice more than ever. I've become more aware that it sounds girly, and it bothers me much more than it did in my 20s. I really should do some voice training. I'm just being lazy (compounded with work troubles and job search).
Also pounding weights in the gym for years has changed my body. Most of my age group is just out of shape and soft. It is somewhat small of me, but I take pleasure in that fact.
My advice to people who don't like their appearance is to change it --you won't just grow to accept it. And also evolve in some other facet so that you can find worth in yourself (I'm looking at you Exodus/Dante, and your feeling subhuman next to women comments).
The three posters who embody this philosophy of changing yourself are
@WhitePolarBear , Zircon and
@David_MPN . Fred and Zircon are the most satisfied with their lives. And I think David prefers the new him much more than the old him.
I cannot emphasize how few people have the drive to change themselves. Most people just coast along, whining how they hate their lives. Some make grand plans, but quit at the first hump. That's why there are so many fat people.
I look up to people who keep going despite setbacks. I have tons of respect for
@David_MPN : even though he hasn't found success with women, he has kept relentlessly at his David 2.0 project. That resolution is something to emulate.
