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[hairblues]

Not sure when it comes to art, but it's true that genetically speaking guys are more likely to vary more than girls. So more geniuses and more dunces. For example there are more males in nearly all forms of special education, and there are more male chess geniuses. Even today when females are doing better in college on average, the best of the best are still male. (And the worst of the worst).

I honestly don't know so i am not debating it.
but i think the historical people its hard to use as examples.
Even just like 25 years ago i was told i could not join a class i not only wanted to take but had probably more business taking then many of the men--because i was a woman--Department head straight up told me this to my face. It was a better field for men and he did not have enough room to give a seat to a woman.
I doubt it would ever happen today.

 

[pjhair]

How much times does "multiple" means here?

Depends on how hot the women is. I once lost interest in a women only after 2-3 weeks. She was a 7. I have decided to never marry a women unless she is 8+. Losing sexual interest in a short time is very dangerous for marriage. I will not compromise even if it means staying single all my life.

 

[Patrick_Bateman]

I honestly don't know enough about this to really debate it but I will point out that Mozart, Wagner Picaso and even Einstein were all in the actual time period of where womans talents were not exactly going to flurish--same can be said of black people.

I mean today of modern current (actually alive and young living amongst us mere mortals) classical realism artists i love is a woman...there are many fantastic men but my personal favorite if i had 20 grand to grab a piece of art would be hers. Not saying she is 'Picasso'--but so much in art world is really complex to what makes an actual 'genius' of painting vs hype of those times or hype after death it's so subjective...

The same can be said about blacks because they on average have lower IQ which means they are less likely to produce a genius.

Women are less likely to be extremely stupid or extremely intelligent than a man. This is easily spotted like @SmoothSailing said, in college courses or other academic arenas it's most likely that the men will score the absolute best and worst while women will be more even. There's a reason men and women have two different leagues in sports such as chess.

 

[EvilLocks]

You can "just be friends" with him now because he has already slept with you multiple times. Otherwise, he would still be trying to stick his dick in you, if you are good looking. Once we have fucked a women multiple times, our sexual interest in her does go down.

Our history is very complex, and I don't think it was that he 'lost interest' in me, although I definitely hear what you're saying. If he was single I could try again to be honest, but he's in a long term relationship and I'm not getting in the way of that.

 

[hairblues]

If men are having sex with other women and is not pining for her or just lonley he will get over it...unless he is obsessive or infatuated which is not a m/f thing that is a personality issue with rejection.

I have male friends who if i said "hey you know what we been friends for 20 years lets have sex--we never did that before" They would be like "okay sure' but just because we are not having sex they are not in some kind of frustrated pining for me mode all this time--they move on pretty quick as most men who are sexually active/dating do.

I had guys i know who when i first met them thought they were super hot--the hotness diminishes sometimes when you get to really know someone..the 'glow' fades...as you spend time with them. Not in a mean way its just lack of chemistry i never pined for a hot guy i am friends with--and i have some hot guys i am friends with..the attraction fades pretty quickly if you can tell someone is not attracted to you. At least thats how i am.

 

[pjhair]

I am not so sure the sexual interest only depends on the "rate" of the girl. It also depends on her attitud during sex and on the relationship. Basically, your interest should decrease after a longer time than that... some say 3 years

I was just speaking for myself. My own sexual interest just depends on looks. Some guys may value other attributes.

 

[Patrick_Bateman]

For now

Yes, I do subscribe to the Flynn effect, where intelligence rises in a society over time. And that the average IQ of blacks will in fact rise.

That doesn't change my point though. Which is that it's not by chance that all the geniuses were white males, my guess is that it will even out in the future.

 

[hairblues]

I am not so sure the sexual interest only depends on the "rate" of the girl. It also depends on her attitud during sex and on the relationship. Basically, your interest should decrease after a longer time than that... some say 3 years

Some people are shallow to an extreme about looks and sex. Even shallow people there is a spectrum of it.

 

[hairblues]

Yes, I do subscribe to the Flynn effect, where intelligence rises in a society over time. And that the average IQ of blacks will in fact rise.

That doesn't change my point though. Which is that it's not by chance that all the geniuses were white males, my guess is that it will even out in the future.

I understand what you are saying there are some female genius and black genius but on average not as much as white men for reasons we dont know i suspect.

 

[EvilLocks]

Being dumped for a condition is a bitter pill to swallow. Still, it shows that he never truly cared deeply and you're better off knowing that in the long run.

No, it seems like he cared first and foremost about my looks. It's bitter because I cared on a more deeper level than he obviously ever did. I would say I'm over him now though, don't cry about it and rarely think about him.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I understand what you are saying there are some female genius and black genius but on average not as much as white men for reasons we dont know i suspect.

Well you're in the film industry, a prime example of a place where women get fewer opportunities.

Google image search "great Hollywood directors", it's all men. Women rarely get the opportunity, and when they do, they don't get follow up.

Pop quiz: how many women have been sole director of a live action movie with a budget exceeding 100 million?
Answer: zero.
Patty Jenkins and Ava Duvernay will be the firsts.

Plenty of mediocre men have had that opportunity.

 

[hairblues]

No, it seems like he cared first and foremost about my looks. It's bitter because I cared on a more deeper level than he obviously ever did. I would say I'm over him now though, don't cry about it and rarely think about him.

i don't really have Mother instinct towards younger people but this just made me feel like i want to find him and beat the holy f*** out of him for you.
You are so young to go through this and to have someone in your life who seemed to just abandon you during it really pisses me off.

 

[pjhair]

No, it seems like he cared first and foremost about my looks. It's bitter because I cared on a more deeper level than he obviously ever did. I would say I'm over him now though, don't cry about it and rarely think about him.

If you care about your partner deeper than he/she does, be prepared to be on the receiving end. Romantic relationships should be treated like business transactions. Never invest more than the value you are getting from the product.

 

[hairblues]

Well you're in the film industry, a prime example of a place where women get fewer opportunities.

Google image search "great Hollywood directors", it's all men. Women rarely get the opportunity, and when they do, they don't get follow up.

Pop quiz: how many women have been sole director of a live action movie with a budget exceeding 100 million?
Answer: zero.
Patty Jenkins and Ava Duvernay will be the firsts.

Plenty of mediocre men have had that opportunity.

Yeah but that was not his point i dont think...that was my point on earlier page.

Also its debatable in 'some' ways about film for women and opportunity..or at least its not 100% cut and dry.

It's grown so much even in past 20 years from when i started.

But i have worked with both female and male directors all along the way

for example in TV i have worked with MANY female directors and producers/show runners.

In film I have also worked with both--male and female directors and producers and writers...

What i find is depending what level of project or genre you will get more diversity of male vs female.

It also depends on the type of director...you have directors who are more 'writer/directos' then you have more technical directors, you have directors who are more focused on 'actors' performances, you have directors who are more 'visual' and are focused on art department and fancy shots,

so a woman who wants to be a director which (not counting TV because its very different between tv and film) but if a woman is a director her 'taste' may be more geared towards a different direction then a man--GENERALLY speaking not across board.

Also the times we live in may expand upon the genres women become drawn too.

Also women (and men) looks may factor in to this as well Penny Marshal, Betty Thomas for example are Great directors (not saying there work is going to appeal to 'you' or 'me') but i mean they run a tight ship, they know what they want they are just good at 'directing' films. But they were both drawn to mainly comedies because that is there background primarily at least.

basically its complicated. LOL And interesting.

 

[EvilLocks]

If you care about your partner deeper than he/she does, be prepared to be on the receiving end. Romantic relationships should be treated like business transactions. Never invest more than the value you are getting from the product.

That's the thing though, I never knew he didn't care about me on a deeper level until he dumped me. I thought everything was going well as far as the relationship was concerned, and that we had this deep connection. He never showed me any signs of not caring, until the end. I would never degrade myself to a relationship knowingly being on the recieving end.

 

[hairblues]

Yeah girl, go on !

LOL

 

[pjhair]

That's the thing though, I never knew he didn't care about me on a deeper level until he dumped me. I thought everything was going well as far as the relationship was concerned, and that we had this deep connection. He never showed me any signs of not caring, until the end. I would never degrade myself to a relationship knowingly being on the recieving end.

That's why you should always keep back up. You should also keep back up of your back up, if possible. A very big mistake I made when I got married was not keeping in touch with women that I used to hang out with before I committed to my ex wife.

 

[Dante92]

A very big mistake I made when I got married is not keeping in touch with women that I used to hang out with before I committed to my ex wife.

Seems to me the only big mistake you made was getting married

 

[pjhair]

What is the back up going to change about a love deceiption?

Back ups can not only make you less invested but also help you move on far quicker.

 

[pjhair]

Seems to me the only big mistake you made was getting married

The marriage was fine. I just had many illusions about male/female dynamics especially when it came to long term relationships.