You can improve in some parts of life, like getting an education, landing a good job, grooming yourself, dress nicely and other things like that.
But you cannot max your looks. And let's be honest, many studies (i can link them if you want) show that attraction, which takes only few seconds to be established, is fundamentaly built on looks. Looks are determined genetically, you either get facial hair or don't / you either have a sharp jawline or don't/ you either are tall or you are not / you either have a sad looking canthal tilt or you don't / etc. There is nothing to max because nature doesn't allow you to choose which genes you want to be expressed.
For truly unfortunate ugly folks, you either accept the fact that you won't get pass a certain threshold in society or you cope and blame society.
Either way, it doesn't make your life less sad.
I concur, there are certain aspects to ones aestetics you can't change(after puberty) like f.ex. height. But most, and I really mean most other things you can change with adequate means and resources - and of course motivation. Also you are mentioning immediate attraction, but imo it's important to make a clear distinguishment between immediate attraction and qualities and factors which determine your overall relationship suitability. In that equation go many, many factors that each part evaluates over a period of time (including looks which gives you an IN - populary said), and the sum of those will clarify if the partners are ''a good match''. A have lived to experience that mainly 5 ''big'' and recongnizable factors many strong couples have in common, and often in this order:
1) Looks-matched (Height, skin colour...everything else is mostly taste)
2) Age (Women can be up to 5 ys older, whether men can stretch to 10-ish without it being noticable)
2) IQ (No needto go into detail here - most of us get it)
The first three factors are the ones most important to my experience, and sadly are also those you can hardly or can't change at all.
4) Geography (Same culture, food, traditions, religion etc...globalizing has made this a 4th, but only 10-15 years earlier it was above IQ, and maybe even age and looks in some countries like f.ex. India - arranged couples)
5) Social class (Economy, education, status, parents bakground etc)
These are the things you can mostly work against if born in the west(most users here) so you have access to make the ''social climbing''.
To comment on your opinion even more directly; I didn't try to change Dante's line of thought, all I did was share what I believed with him, so it's up to him how he will interpret it. I don't know his situation in detail (finances etc), so therefore possibly he has limitid options. This is a forum for hairloss, and a sub section of ''cope and impact'' if you want to call it that. I too have hairloss, and I'm giving my opinions on things and how I experience this, and also if I can...give a positive input to other users, potentially of help. It's always with good intention.
I would not wish for anyone to 'give up on life'. I try to better myself for myself and compete with myself. Do you know of Jack Nicholson (great actor and a ''player'' who was not very tall, bald and with a so-so jawline)? Do not mistake me, I know that's not the rule, rather the exception. But we have all been dealt a certain ''cards'' in life called genes, and we most make up the most of those. I regard Dante as a very intelligent and spirited forum member, and a respect him much because of those traits, and if he can excel in something, then it certainly is things correlated with those traits.
I think everybody can improve, if not in height, then in bodyframe etc. Never has there been a healthy male eating the right amount of macros and lifting corretly that hasn't had results. I have yet to see it. Healthy. But not necessarily this. Dressing, hygiene, being just fit past 30 is a bonus if you're goal is to ''fit into society expectations''. Somebody is more the artistic and impulsive type, so they dress and live an eccentric lifestyle with focus on intellect and philosophy etc. That too is ok. Whatever one chooses. There are many pleasures to life that aren't bound to be recognized in importance by society as a whole.
Maybe I haven't said this before, but I myself am not on hairlosstalk.com because I can't get laid with a different chick every weekend (never even tried this lifestyle, doesn't tempt me), but because I feel different than what I see in the mirror. I just would like to have my hair back really. And I feel I speek for many here when I write those words.
Lastly, those are my opinions, it's ok to think otherwise.
