Peoples Shame Of Discussing Baldness

[buckthorn]

She has eggs, and she is very pretty.
She has the option of making a bunch of babies with decent genes men.

I am growing tired of this generic, "she has options to", "he has options to.." stuff. You understand it's not accurate, right? Just because someone has options to do things, does NOT mean it's easy for them to do so, and in some cases impossible. I have several friends that are gorgeous women, or super handsome men, yes some with NW1's. Some of them are mentally f*cked beyond belief, or have issues that I don't understand. I don't tell them, "dude, you could be this and that and blah blah" because I know because of their mental barriers they will never be able to.

 

[buckthorn]

"Ugly" people have a MUCH harder life. I will never deny this. People that strike the "genetic lottery" are born with a foundation to do many more things. It doesn't mean they will be able to build a beautiful house on top of it, no matter how hard they try. It's best not to judge. I know one girl who is just downright hot. Petite, sexy, beautiful face, etc... BUT, she has a complete inability to even go out for coffee with someone new because she has so much social anxiety. Yes, I feel bad for her. I never say, "f*ck you, you have all these abilities" because that wouldn't help anyone.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

"Ugly" people have a MUCH harder life. I will never deny this. People that strike the "genetic lottery" are born with a foundation to do many more things. It doesn't mean they will be able to build a beautiful house on top of it, no matter how hard they try. It's best not to judge. I know one girl who is just downright hot. Petite, sexy, beautiful face, etc... BUT, she has a complete inability to even go out for coffee with someone new because she has so much social anxiety. Yes, I feel bad for her. I never say, "f*ck you, you have all these abilities" because that wouldn't help anyone.

If I met her, I might tell her that she's ahead in life simply for having a friend like Buckthorn.

I think pointing out people's strengths can be helpful, but it needs to be done within a constructive conversation.

You're retarded.

You have an attitude problem. You're calling other people gay, retarded, etc.

You may not realize it but the resulting effect of you spewing invective is simply to make yourself look bad.

 

[pjhair]

You need good genes on the outside, and on the inside.

Shook isn't going to like ID's comment about how hair loss is devastating at every age.

Come on, try to start your 20's, your life, with a diffuse NW4.

Aggressive hair loss in 20's is worse than aggressive hair-loss in 40's but that doesn't mean it's not devastating in 40's. There is a reason we see so many hair transplant patients in their 40's, 50's and even in 70's. Personally, I don't want to lose hair even if I am 90. Though I suspect I will be dealing with many other health issues along with hair loss at that age

 

[Joan]

You need good genes on the outside, and on the inside.

Shook isn't going to like ID's comment about how hair loss is devastating at every age.

Come on, try to start your 20's, your life, with a diffuse NW4.

Speaking for myself, I agree that hair loss is devastating at every age but not as devastating at older ages. I also think where one is at certain points of his/her life has an impact as well.

 

[pjhair]

I agree, there's never going to be an age when you don't care.
But these older hair loss sufferers need perspective. Hair loss at 30? You already have a stable career, maybe you already have a family, you've lived your youth to the fullest. You've won at the game of life already.

Yes, by 30's people usually do have stable career. But as far as family is concerned, that's not always the case. I got divorced when I was 32. Hair loss and the resulting wane in my looks has made it harder for me to find a stable relationship and move on. But I agree with you. Hair loss in early 20's is a lot worse because people don't even have stable careers and it pretty much ruins college experience for them, a time when we meet so many beautiful and single women.

 

[Roberto_72]

Speaking for myself, I agree that hair loss is devastating at every age but not as devastating at older ages. I also think where one is at certain points of his/her life has an impact as well.

Indeed. However, this is true when you start "losing it" (pun intended) at 40-50. When you start losing it at 20 and at 40-50 you are still struggling, the idea you are no longer a balding youngster does not help

 

[buckthorn]

If I met her, I might tell her that she's ahead in life simply for having a friend like Buckthorn.

awe, thanks man!!

 

[Joan]

Indeed. However, this is true when you start "losing it" (pun intended) at 40-50. When you start losing it at 20 and at 40-50 you are still struggling, the idea you are no longer a balding youngster does not help

Of course it doesn't, and it's also devastating to have had to deal with hair loss for so much longer than when it suddenly hits you in middle age. And even when women start losing hair, say, in their 40s and up, their social circle will consist of women in the same boat to different degrees. When you're young, you're most likely the sole outcast. I see that every time my son (21) has friends over. He attends a large state university, and he said he's only seen one bald (shaved) kid on campus; that's it.

 

[whatevr]

You're retarded.

The way you treat people on here, you deserve all the hair loss you get.

 

[EvilLocks]

You're retarded.

What an intellegent response. Bravo!

 

[EvilLocks]

I agree, there's never going to be an age when you don't care.

But these older hair loss sufferers need perspective. Hair loss at 30? You already have a stable career, maybe you already have a family, you've lived your youth to the fullest. You've won at the game of life already.

Exactly. I can understand that hair loss is difficult at any age - no one wants to go bald. But it is harder when you go bald in your youth. Most young people do not have their life together in their teens or early 20's, and having to deal with baldness at this age is incredibly hard... If I could just live my youth with a full head of hair I'd be so, so happy. Of course I'd like to have a full head of hair my entire life, but if I could just make it to 30 or 40+ with a full head of hair I'd take it. Almost 4 years of my youth (and counting) have been ruined because of hair loss, and that is time I'll never get back.

 

[Dante92]

What an intellegent response. Bravo!

Don't forget very mature and constructive.

 

[N003]

Exactly. I can understand that hair loss is difficult at any age - no one wants to go bald. But it is harder when you go bald in your youth. Most young people do not have their life together in their teens or early 20's, and having to deal with baldness at this age is incredibly hard... If I could just live my youth with a full head of hair I'd be so, so happy. Of course I'd like to have a full head of hair my entire life, but if I could just make it to 30 or 40+ with a full head of hair I'd take it. Almost 4 years of my youth (and counting) have been ruined because of hair loss, and that is time I'll never get back.

True is:

I don't see many guys after 35 years with full hairs. The most guys will have some hair loss. We are not getting younger.
I have a big clique and 8 of 10 guys have hair loss after 35 years.

But yes its hard for a young guy in his early 20's. It's getting better when you get older (30+). Then it's something normal.

 

[Agent 47]

True is:

I don't see many guys after 35 years with full hairs. The most guys will have some hair loss. We are not getting younger.
I have a big clique and 8 of 10 guys have hair loss after 35 years.

But yes its hard for a young guy in his early 20's. It's getting better when you get older (30+). Then it's something normal.

Well, look at the bright side.
The younger you bald, the earlier you get done with this sh*t.
You will have time to get used to it and learn to cope with it.
Meanwhile, the NW1 guys will freak the f*** out when it happens to them, and you will look at them and laugh.

75% of all men go bald eventually. At least if you are young when it happens, you won't need to worry about it anymore.
Even the fullheads live in fear of baldness, i remember hearing some of my friends say "OMG i hope i don't have the balding gene".

 

[Fullhead1day]

What an intellegent response. Bravo!

Like you know anything about intelligence, you can't even read properly. I never said it's a bad thing to talk about hairloss on this forum. You just should NEVER open up about baldness to anyone you know. It makes you look weak.

 

[buckthorn]

You're retarded.

hey dude, just relax a little. We ALL feel your pain. This is indisputable, because we are all on here daily searching, in desperation for some relief. Understand that the amount of hair, and other physical features become irrelevant when you can't even use them because you are so emotionally distraught. Different things effect different people in different ways.

 

[Saurabhaj]

Before

Well, look at the bright side.
The younger you bald, the earlier you get done with this sh*t.
You will have time to get used to it and learn to cope with it.
Meanwhile, the NW1 guys will freak the f*** out when it happens to them, and you will look at them and l

Hair is important before marriage.
After marriage..if everything goes well.
The most important thing is
Money,money,money.
No one will judge you for your looks..
It will be your status/job position,
Lifestyle and your Financial strength.

 

[buckthorn]

It's pathetic when you see these 40 year old guys freak out and be like "OMG my life is over, I can't go bald!"

Please.

it's just different for certain people man. I am 34. Yes, my twenties were full of beautiful women and great times. I am grateful. But, I am 34 and single. I want a wife and family one day, but am self conscience as f*ck around attractive women. Hell, even so around my family. What is with all these generalizations flying around? We are all way smarter than this.

 

[buckthorn]

You've had your fun.

And I've had mine, thanks to my strategy.

Some people here will never get their chance because of their balding.

well, like I said, I am grateful for all the fun I have had, and I am glad you are too. Also, I definitely feel for these people, I do. But, it does me no good now. I definitely would trade all that for one good woman right now.