Peoples Shame Of Discussing Baldness

[Saurabhaj]

Money is important, Saurabhaj, true, but love trumps money, in my opinion. Some of us have expressed we'd rather be poor with full heads of hair than rich and bald. Of what value is money if there is no love for each other?

Joan read my last post.

 

[pjhair]

There is some truth here, but if a woman loves you then you would have to really let things go to make her leave, a good woman will stick with you.

Love and attraction are not necessarily the same. My ex-wife loved me but she had no attraction left for me, that's why she decided to divorce. You may ask how do I know if she loved me? One year after the divorce, I told her I am thinking about getting a part time job, in addition to my full time job, so that I can hurry up and pay off my credit card debt that had exceeded $10,000. She was so sad by the idea of me having to work the second job that she offered to pay for my whole debt. She didn't need to do that as she was not married to me anymore. But she had genuine love and care for me even after divorce. Unfortunately, that doesn't necessarily mean she was attracted to me. If you want to maximize the probability of keeping a women, focus on what attracts her. Things that attract women are looks, money and personality. You have to be on top of your game in all three areas if you are married to a hot women.

 

[pjhair]

My Cousin elder brother is a really really really handsome guy.
His looks i can easily say 10s.
But he is not financially sound.
He became father of a daugher who got convulsions on day one.
Her health was critical.
I later found out she had exotropia..
Her both eyes were not aligned.
Also she had lower limb weakness.
She has not been able to walk even at age 14 months.

Imagine how much money he have spend on my sweet niece.
He is broked totally in terms of money.
He always tell me..
Don't care for hairs, only thing one need is money and nothing else.

Life is too cruel.
His life definitely need more than love.

I am really sorry to hear about your cousins struggle, but this is an irrelevant example. When we talk about importance of looks, we talk in terms of it's importance for attracting women. Money is of course more important when it comes to raising your kids.

 

[marco75]

Love and attraction are not necessarily the same. My ex-wife loved me but she had no attraction left for me, that's why she decided to divorce. You may ask how do I know if she loved me? One year after the divorce, I told her I am thinking about getting a part time job, in addition to my full time job, so that I can hurry up and pay off my credit card debt that had exceeded $10,000. She was so sad by the idea of me having to work the second job that she offered to pay for my whole debt. She didn't need to do that as she was not married to me anymore. But she had genuine love and care for me even after divorce. Unfortunately, that doesn't necessarily mean she was attracted to me. If you want to maximize the probability of keeping a women, focus on what attracts her. Things that attract women are looks, money and personality. You have to be on top of your game in all three areas if you are married to a hot women.

True also but if you have a handsome face and are tall, all you need to do is not get fat and keep clean.

 

[pjhair]

Wrong, just looks.

The rest is irrelevant.

Being on top of your game: looking good.

She gets wet over your looks.

Not over your money or your personality.

Which is why women can have one night stands, and get wet over a guy they don't know at all.

It's all looks. I'm surprised some people here are still in denial about this.

You didn't understand what I was trying to say. Between looks, personality and money, looks is the most important attribute. However, I was speaking about maximizing ones chance to keep a women in a world where there are many other equally good looking people. We have to be on top of our game in all the areas, not just looks. If you look like a model but are broke, there is always a chance that your wife will leave you a for a guy who looks like a model but is rich.

 

[Joan]

My Cousin elder brother is a really really really handsome guy.
His looks i can easily say 10s.
But he is not financially sound.
He became father of a daugher who got convulsions on day one.
Her health was critical.
I later found out she had exotropia..
Her both eyes were not aligned.
Also she had lower limb weakness.
She has not been able to walk even at age 14 months.

Imagine how much money he have spend on my sweet niece.
He is broked totally in terms of money.
He always tell me..
Don't care for hairs, only thing one need is money and nothing else.

Life is too cruel.
His life definitely need more than love.

I thought we were talking about money being of prime importance in a marriage over love. I am sorry beyond words for your cousin. There is no greater grief I could ever imagine than helplessly watching your child suffer.

 

[pjhair]

Wait wait wait, stop, there's nothing beyond looks, if you're talking about attracting women.

If you need your personality or worse, money to keep a woman around, you're already done for that woman.

Think for one second, and just remove looks from your equation. It all falls apart, without looks, there can be no successful mating.

There are no equally good-looking people. Women can immediately sense and pick the better-looking one (to her).

I simply disagree with this. A women can find Liams Hemsworth and Chris Hemsworth equally good looking. If a women is married to a guy who looks like Chris Hemsworth but works in McDonalds as a waiter and has a sh*t personality and a rich guy who looks like Liam Hemsworth keeps hitting on her, there is always a chance that she will dump Chris and choose Liam.

 

[pjhair]

Those are celebrities, in real life, a woman will feel the attraction and always choose the better one, if he's available. And even if he's not for that matter.

It is irrelevant if they are celebrities. I brought that example to demonstrate that two men can be equally or sufficiently close in looks for money and personality to be important enough to be decisive factors.

A woman just need to encounter a better man (that means one that makes her even wetter than her boyfriend), and she's gone.

How do you define a better man? Your definition is a man who looks better. I agree to your definition but also add that a man doesn't necessarily need to be better looking. A man can be called a "better man" if he is equally good looking but is wealthier and has a better personality than some other man.

 

[pjhair]

They're either good-looking or just coping.

Or they are right.

 

[marco75]

Wait wait wait, stop, there's nothing beyond looks, if you're talking about attracting women.

If you need your personality or worse, money to keep a woman around, you're already done for that woman.

Think for one second, and just remove looks from your equation. It all falls apart, without looks, there can be no successful mating.

There are no equally good-looking people. Women can immediately sense and pick the better-looking one (to her).

I know a male model guys who are complete losers, yet still keep their women around.

If you're not good enough in terms of looks, it's 100% sure that she will leave you.

Human mating was never about anything else than looks. Unless you're talking about women who are after your ressources.

That's another type of attraction, but it's not raw sexual attraction.

A woman can change her mind about romantic attraction (liking your personality, your achievements), but never about her raw sexual attraction for you.

She as no rational control over that. Therefore, the only way to keep a woman around is if she's crazy over you for your looks.

Truth, women will settle because there are only so many handsome men. A woman can fall in love with a stranger if he is good looking. She may "love" her current kind, funny less attractive boyfriend but it's in a different way.

 

[I.D WALKER]

Like some men, I wouldn't say it's uncommon for married women to fantasize about living a double life.
Some of the more adventurous who can't stand sitting idly by spinning their wheels will take on a secret lover,
while the dreamier homebody types, are more inclined to indulge their fireside infidelities vicariously through the
more permissible medium of the daytime soap opera.

 

[Joan]

Like some men, I wouldn't say it's uncommon for married women to fantasize about living a double life.
Some of the more adventurous who can't stand sitting idly by spinning their wheels will take on a secret lover,
while the dreamier homebody types, are more inclined to indulge their fireside infidelities vicariously through the
more permissible medium of the daytime soap opera.

I'm tempted to add something here, but I'll be a good girl--lol.

 

[shookwun]

It isn't sensible and realistic to even bring money into his discussion. None of you including myself make enough for I to matters.


Cracks me up everytime. I make over 100,000 and it has made zero difference in my appeal. Perhaps it would be different in my hometown if I purchase a large place and commute back in fourth, but I dought i


Unless you make over 250,000 then this whole money situation is irrelevant. Sorry but your 40,000 entry job after university is sh*t alll. Barely enough to make ends meet.


Get real lol. No women I ever met gave a sh*t about what my career is and how much money and toys I have. However money does give you a cess to activities and the possibility in doing so. In return more experience, knowledge and places to take your women. A lot of women like to go on adventures and do sh*t. It varies where you live, but generally women will not stay with you if you are broke.



All you need is a means of transportion, place to stay and side cash. How much is not nesaesary to disclose. Most women in there twenties are not interested in going to your parents house, and waiting for you to get your dad's car when heal gets home. That being said, you don't need a high paying job to afford these luxuries but money will dictate your style of living. As long as it's medicore then you should be fine.

 

[I.D WALKER]

I'm tempted to add something here, but I'll be a good girl--lol.

Your but's will always be cute Joan.
I am reminded by them that when Joan's good, she is GOOD.., when Joan is bad, she is so much BETTER!

 

[pjhair]

It isn't sensible and realistic to even bring money into his discussion. None of you including myself make enough for I to matters.


Cracks me up everytime. I make over 100,000 and it has made zero difference in my appeal. Perhaps it would be different in my hometown if I purchase a large place and commute back in fourth, but I dought i

You are missing the context of the discussion. Things like money and personality increase the probability of KEEPING a women in long run, not initially attract them.

 

[buckthorn]

It is, I've done it.

If you don't, you are responsible for your own misery.

Let women decide if they want to reject you.

It's possible for you then. I am telling you, when I find myself unattractive, it's literally impossible for me to continue in any relationship. Even if I know she finds me attractive. There is no need for me to date right now, especially knowing that some innocent woman's feelings would be at stake and I would let her down. That's selfish and cowardly. Step one - learn to love myself again, somehow, and someway, with or without hair. Step two - go down on as many hotties as possible and marry the one with the perfect vagina. haha

 

[blackg]

Like some men, I wouldn't say it's uncommon for married women to fantasize about living a double life.
Some of the more adventurous who can't stand sitting idly by spinning their wheels will take on a secret lover,
while the dreamier homebody types, are more inclined to indulge their fireside infidelities vicariously through the
more permissible medium of the daytime soap opera.

Well said again, ID. I like how you don't see things in black and white.
I'll say it again.. A true thinking man's man.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

My parents were poor.

My father worked hard but never made enough.

My mother complained and whined all the time and did nothing to help but complain louder.

I'll make sure any kids I have never go through that sh*t.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

It isn't sensible and realistic to even bring money into his discussion. None of you including myself make enough for I to matters.


Cracks me up everytime. I make over 100,000 and it has made zero difference in my appeal. Perhaps it would be different in my hometown if I purchase a large place and commute back in fourth, but I dought i


Unless you make over 250,000 then this whole money situation is irrelevant. Sorry but your 40,000 entry job after university is sh*t alll. Barely enough to make ends meet.


Get real lol. No women I ever met gave a sh*t about what my career is and how much money and toys I have. However money does give you a cess to activities and the possibility in doing so. In return more experience, knowledge and places to take your women. A lot of women like to go on adventures and do sh*t. It varies where you live, but generally women will not stay with you if you are broke.



All you need is a means of transportion, place to stay and side cash. How much is not nesaesary to disclose. Most women in there twenties are not interested in going to your parents house, and waiting for you to get your dad's car when heal gets home. That being said, you don't need a high paying job to afford these luxuries but money will dictate your style of living. As long as it's medicore then you should be fine.

Saurab is from India, which may be a more class-obsessed place.

Money might matter more in a place where the median income is "poverty".

You live in Alberta, where the median income is "very high", and where the public schools and hospitals are arguably the best in Canada.

 

[F2005]

PJ, I tend to agree with a lot of your points. Although it's sometimes hard to define, love and attraction really are different. I've slept with girls that I've been attracted to yet I've never loved. Yet there are women that I love for reasons other than sex, so I am not attracted to them in that physical sense. And that is a really interesting story about your ex-wife offering to pay off your debt.