I discussed recent dates and non-dates with my therapist today, I was a little surprised by some of her reaction. As a recall, she is a mostly blue pilled, mostly attractive, feminist progressive woman in her 30s. She knows me very well as I've been seeing her for a year.
On the date that went nowhere on Friday with the attractive engineer, I had sent her my description afterwards, the same one that I wrote here, and I felt bad because I physically objectified the woman without discussing her personality as much. I was wondering if she would discuss that with me and I brought it up with her. She said that it's
fine to objectify someone when we first meet them, though the description would be problematic if I had known that woman for a year.
She mostly agreed with my assessment of the woman from Sunday who cancelled because she "didn't feel like a lady". She did counsel that I don't know that woman and that I don't know what her baggage is, she might have a lot going on and thus I should be weary of conclusions.
On the woman I saw last night and tomorrow night, she said that it's a difficult situation. As my therapist, she wants me to get experience, but it sounds like I'm not attracted to her. Suggestion was to try a few more times and see what happens. She counseled me against mentioning her pros and cons, and let me know that I might meet a woman with none of those pros who still set me on fire.
The latter two points did not surprise me, only the first one did.
Congrats! Was this a girl that you went on a date with earlier?
Yes, it was our third date.
nice!
have you mentioned her before?
how hot was she 1-10?
Yes. Middling hot. Tall, nice skin, hair, voice, warm hands, but weird BF distribution and strange kissing technique. It's like kissing a wet vacuum cleaner, it's hard to explain.
The woman that I met two Wednesdays back, the clinical psychologist ... she might have been the best kisser that I had ever met. Just delightful.
I'm remembering a sex columnist that I read back in undergrad, nowadays she's somewhat of a political figure in Canada. Anyway in one of her articles she wrote that oral ability was the most important sexual skill.
You’re a good to example to self-proclaimed incels that a little effort like you put in goes a long way, even if you’re not the best looking guy in the world and a bit awkward. Honestly come a long way very quickly too.
So many act as if their sex and dating life it’s officially buried if they have no experience by 20 years old too.
D00d, it was more than a little effort, and it's taken me a very long time. I've been confused about women since roughly age 13. Effort level might have started increasing in 2015.
