You should try and take a break from here, get out there try and enjoy life, you worrying or not worrying is not gonna change things, enjoy yourself while you can.
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You should try and take a break from here, get out there try and enjoy life, you worrying or not worrying is not gonna change things, enjoy yourself while you can.
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I've been dealing with male pattern baldness since 2009 and have not been able to get over it. I cannot move on from something that I'm born with and used to having, it's not natural.
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i've been bald for a year now. spiderweb hair for a year before that so basically bald for 2 years now. i guess you could say i've "accepted" it as far as not freaking out over it all the time. but i definitely still freaking hate it. trust me, you cant stress about it all the time, you will ****ing lose your mind. like fred, i've had a few anxiety attacks and extreme derealization episodes, it's not fun.
i think basically i'm more in a disconnected and relaxed state now. hair is hair, it sucks *** but i'm gonna improve it one day with a transplant. nothing really matters in the end and life is short so might as well enjoy it as best you can. even if society sees you as inferior. especially if society sees you as inferior. it's important to remind yourself you are not. you are simply less attractive and look older than before. and are part of a stereotyped group. but humans do stupid *** things, this is just one of a long list of stupid *** things they do
i have the matrix as my avatar for a reason. baldness forces you to wake up from the nice little dream world of lies that is pulled over your eyes. you see all the ugly little blemishes and pock marks on the face of life, the makeup is gone. i feel just being aware of the truth makes me feel better. ugly truth is superior to false beauty in my opinion.
besides truth has it's own beauty in that its what is true. it's that way and no other way, you and the rest of the universe are imprisoned to this thing called "truth" or the way things are. (for sake of clarity considering we are part of the universe)
goddamn this mary jane is good xD
i think basically i'm more in a disconnected and relaxed state now. hair is hair, it sucks *** but i'm gonna improve it one day with a transplant. nothing really matters in the end and life is short so might as well enjoy it as best you can. even if society sees you as inferior. especially if society sees you as inferior. it's important to remind yourself you are not. you are simply less attractive and look older than before. and are part of a stereotyped group. but humans do stupid *** things, this is just one of a long list of stupid *** things they do
i have the matrix as my avatar for a reason. baldness forces you to wake up from the nice little dream world of lies that is pulled over your eyes. you see all the ugly little blemishes and pock marks on the face of life, the makeup is gone. i feel just being aware of the truth makes me feel better. ugly truth is superior to false beauty in my opinion.
besides truth has it's own beauty in that its what is true. it's that way and no other way, you and the rest of the universe are imprisoned to this thing called "truth" or the way things are. (for sake of clarity considering we are part of the universe)
goddamn this mary jane is good xD
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I hear that a lot in life over unrelated matters. "Worrying is a wasted emotion." It's true and that we should enjoy each day the best we can. I definitely think the forum has made things worse a bit as I see much younger people with less hair on here. It reminds me that hair can disappear. I wasn't used to that type of world even at my age, most people have some loss maximum, that's it.
And you're correct, some people genuinely do stop worrying once the fight is over and some time has gone. This isn't a coping mechanism (you can tell those who are convincing themselves) but some genuinely don't feel the pain any more. Of course, they would still want full hair if it was offered, but the trauma of male pattern baldness is gone. It seems like you got to this stage Danny.
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Wise words!
That's really interesting. As our appearance changes we become aware of things that others who haven't experienced this aren't aware. After this we either change our psyches, our appearance or both.
We only become aware of this 'dream world' when our external jars with social doctrines that hair = youth = good thus no hair = old = bad, the latter giving 'reason' to project hate on the beholder.
Appearance doesn't seem to be the only outlet for people to 'vent' hate on; any of the ism's will do eg sexism, racism, classism. It's all hating on groups.
If its true that at our core, whether we are aware of it or unconscious, that at some level we are all connected then by hating on others we are ultimately hating on ourselves.
I'm not a Christian but this I suspect is what Jesus meant with forgiveness, loving enemies and stopping the poison because by hating these haters we perpetuate the poison and ultimately hate and destroy ourselves.
Slight tangent there but related to 'baldhaters' and social stigma's re Matrix. This is ultimate positivity and very hard to practice therefore likely only to be truly practiced by people who know as opposed to believe it which often, if not always, comes from personal experience.
Theres not much more i can say on the topic, apart from just try, i wish i could show you guys what i was like when i worried you should of seen me, anything what was possible to have my reflection you bet i looked. I wish i could just do it for you but i cant but you can do it, all i know is it just feels pointless to worry, worrying about what society thinks about it etc, with this thinking you never be at peace because it probably be something else you would be worrying about if it wasnt a hairloss problem, and you would be in a forum about that problem im betting. I understand we all worry, we rant and get things of our chests, believe you me i done it even after hairloss etc etc we are only human, but to the extend this forum goes to is beyond ranting at many many times, you need to get help, you need to break free from this cycle and live your life, no if or buts. I hope you do it one day, take care.
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Dannyboy
Sometimes we seek haven in dark and anonymous places simply to avoid the harsh spotlight of judgment outside (randomly or deliberately) shone in our faces on which
a fundamentally harsher reality awaits us. It is not under the blinding strain of general society's supreme rule against the pardoning pleas of it's crippled and/or disadvantaged
that we find solace. It is often found behind the privacy of a closed bedroom door or basement entranceway. Here in the shadowy realm of relaxed, anonymity we call Internet.
I'm glad you have found yours elsewhere. All my best.
Sometimes we seek haven in dark and anonymous places simply to avoid the harsh spotlight of judgment outside (randomly or deliberately) shone in our faces on which
a fundamentally harsher reality awaits us. It is not under the blinding strain of general society's supreme rule against the pardoning pleas of it's crippled and/or disadvantaged
that we find solace. It is often found behind the privacy of a closed bedroom door or basement entranceway. Here in the shadowy realm of relaxed, anonymity we call Internet.
I'm glad you have found yours elsewhere. All my best.
I understand dude honestly, you just want to be in a place where you want to rant things like that thats fine, but just becareful not to let yourself become a slave to this, cause like i said ranting etc is fine but when its all someone does...its a whole new demon dont you think? take care.
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ID Walker your post and this post are great points on both sides of the coin. Its up to you which side of the coin do you want to stay on. Is it heads or tails? Of course, its not as easy as flipping a coin and saying heads you "win" and tails you "lose" or vice versa.
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DocHouse, You paraphrase me better than I could ever do. Thank you for that.
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Confidence? sure you can have it, but you need to stop the mind block you got going on...
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Confidence? What we all need is our hair to go back to its original state. 
Well you not wrong, but we all know what my reasons were.
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You're reasons are to help cheer up individuals by encouraging positiveness towards us hair loss sufferers on here. It's nice to read about someone like yourself who's actually found happiness with being bald DannyBoyy. Thank you!
No problem dude, and reasons like this, you being happy to have some positive even though you still obviously feel bad etc etc, is the very reason i come here, knowing i helped someone, even if its just one person, is good enough for me, keep your head up dude take care.
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Here's some positivity I found on 9gag's facebook fanpage:
And a comment on this that's received nearly 3,500 likes to this day:
Source:
https://www.facebook.com/9gag/photos/a.109041001839.105995.21785951839/10153887448386840/
Just like Fred has said; make a legit argument to an opponent and all they have to do is make fun of your hair loss; 'at least im not bald' and with that, they've won. 3,500 seem to have agreed in this case.
And a comment on this that's received nearly 3,500 likes to this day:
Source:
https://www.facebook.com/9gag/photos/a.109041001839.105995.21785951839/10153887448386840/
Just like Fred has said; make a legit argument to an opponent and all they have to do is make fun of your hair loss; 'at least im not bald' and with that, they've won. 3,500 seem to have agreed in this case.