The Frequent "official" Origin Of My Recent Failures With Women

[Exodus2011]

Exodus isnt ugly he said so himself that with hair he'd be a 6 or a 7. Also I never said I have it worse than you.

i'm famous

 

[hairblues]

i'm famous

It seems like you have been mentioned a lot lately in random posts.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Just read this thread and I got really depressed. You guys need to understand not to let anyone have power over you. You have to remember no matter how hard you try, you are going to fail with people who don't like themselves or have low self esteem. You don't know how much work it will take to keep someone with high expectations happy. Alot of you can't even do it with yourselves. I have my own struggles myself so I am speaking from experience.

You all have learned that you can identify with women who struggle with their own emotional issue by your interactions with our female posters. In this case, its something you can relate to as you have the same issue. The secret to attracting women is of course looks at first but sometimes if you are skillful enough to make them feel good about themselves you will have a "hold" over them. We all love positive feedback as long as we know its true. If you are just looking for sex, my suggestion is go to a bar and buy some attractive woman alot of drinks. Get her hammered enough and pour on the charm. If she is horny enough, she will go home with you.

If you are looking for a long term relationship then just remember what you are getting yourself into. You will no longer be alone where you get to make your own decisions. You can no longer think of just yourself. Your finances will now be shared with someone else and the financial decisions will have to justified and voted upon. Your independence as you know now will no longer exist. You will have to make sure everything you do is approved by your significant other. And you will always have to worry about how faithful they will be if you start to revert back to that independent person. And if you meet someone better, are you going to throw all this away?

I think for a lot of you fear failure so why not even bother trying if you are all ready set up for failure. That is why life is so challenging. You have to learn that failure is necessary to change. If we all succeeded then we would not even bother to change. Life would become really boring.

You have all read what goes on in some of the minds of women by reading their posts. Not much different from what goes on in your minds. Just stay away from negative shallow people who never have anything positive to say. Do you really want that person in your life? I spent my whole life focused on the importance of looks and you know what it got me. Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Thank goodness, I also focused on my career and helping others and you know what that got me. Everything. I don't have to limit myself because I can't afford to do what I like to do. I also leaned how to educate myself. That made me even stronger and more positive. I didn't need a women in my life to do any of those things. Like I said, if your whole life is based on sex, then find a sex addict. They never will turn you down unless you can't get it up or you can't satisfy them. But the good news is they will always give you a chance.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Sorry, I appreciated the effort, really, but that's just bluepilled nonsense. At least for people like me or in a similar condition.

Dante, I don't understand. You do most of what I posted already. You have accomplished plenty without a woman by your side. Not only that but you stay away from shallow people who mock you. That was not meant to be blue pilled. Actually, it was red pilled in the sense that we all are set up for failure.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

@DoctorHouse ,

I do care what other people think. More than that, I think it's delusional and arrogant to casually reject a large consensus. That should only be done very carefully.

 

[hairblues]

Just read this thread and I got really depressed. You guys need to understand not to let anyone have power over you. You have to remember no matter how hard you try, you are going to fail with people who don't like themselves or have low self esteem. You don't know how much work it will take to keep someone with high expectations happy. Alot of you can't even do it with yourselves. I have my own struggles myself so I am speaking from experience.

You all have learned that you can identify with women who struggle with their own emotional issue by your interactions with our female posters. In this case, its something you can relate to as you have the same issue. The secret to attracting women is of course looks at first but sometimes if you are skillful enough to make them feel good about themselves you will have a "hold" over them. We all love positive feedback as long as we know its true. If you are just looking for sex, my suggestion is go to a bar and buy some attractive woman alot of drinks. Get her hammered enough and pour on the charm. If she is horny enough, she will go home with you.

If you are looking for a long term relationship then just remember what you are getting yourself into. You will no longer be alone where you get to make your own decisions. You can no longer think of just yourself. Your finances will now be shared with someone else and the financial decisions will have to justified and voted upon. Your independence as you know now will no longer exist. You will have to make sure everything you do is approved by your significant other. And you will always have to worry about how faithful they will be if you start to revert back to that independent person. And if you meet someone better, are you going to throw all this away?

I think for a lot of you fear failure so why not even bother trying if you are all ready set up for failure. That is why life is so challenging. You have to learn that failure is necessary to change. If we all succeeded then we would not even bother to change. Life would become really boring.

You have all read what goes on in some of the minds of women by reading their posts. Not much different from what goes on in your minds. Just stay away from negative shallow people who never have anything positive to say. Do you really want that person in your life? I spent my whole life focused on the importance of looks and you know what it got me. Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Thank goodness, I also focused on my career and helping others and you know what that got me. Everything. I don't have to limit myself because I can't afford to do what I like to do. I also leaned how to educate myself. That made me even stronger and more positive. I didn't need a women in my life to do any of those things. Like I said, if your whole life is based on sex, then find a sex addict. They never will turn you down unless you can't get it up or you can't satisfy them. But the good news is they will always give you a chance.

Well they do have dating sites for people specifically not concerned with 'looks' in dating.
No one here will use them though I don't think.

 

[Xander94]

Sorry guys I failed she was a 7 blonde blue eyes. I did get a hug though does that count as slaying? She showed interest but when I asked number she backed off with an excuse, she continued showing interest though at the end I should have asked again because she gave a little hint but didnt wanna take the chance because of the setting.

 

[hairblues]

Sorry guys I failed she was a 7 blonde blue eyes. I did get a hug though does that count as slaying? She showed interest but when I asked number she backed off with an excuse, she continued showing interest though at the end I should have asked again because she gave a little hint but didnt wanna take the chance because of the setting.

did you keep in touch via any social media? twitter, Facebook..instagram--whatever the youngsters are doing these days.

 

[Xander94]

did you keep in touch via any social media? twitter, Facebook..instagram--whatever the youngsters are doing these days.

Nope :/ . I think I fucked it up in the end, should've asked.

 

[hairblues]

Nope :/ . I think I fucked it up in the end, should've asked.

Yeah but that is the thing you have to keep practicing.
easier said than done but that is how you learn for next ones.

 

[Xander94]

Yeah but that is the thing you have to keep practicing.
easier said than done but that is how you learn for next ones.

That's the problem though. She wasn't just a random one she was really cool Im not sure Im gonna get that chance again. Should've pushed it f***. Totally forgot about social media should've asked that.

 

[pjhair]

Sorry guys I failed she was a 7 blonde blue eyes. I did get a hug though does that count as slaying? She showed interest but when I asked number she backed off with an excuse, she continued showing interest though at the end I should have asked again because she gave a little hint but didnt wanna take the chance because of the setting.

Don't regret it man. Asking a phone number again after she has already made up an excuse not to give is a terrible idea. I would have never done it. In fact, I would have immediately ditched the women and move on to another one. But of course I don't know the details of your interaction.

 

[Xander94]

Don't regret it man. Asking a phone number again after she has already made up an excuse not to give is a terrible idea. I would have never done it. In fact, I would have immediately ditched the women and move on to another one. But of course I don't know the details of your interaction.

Saw this on lookism.

• *On her way out, she re-approaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her#)
• *On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her)

She gave both IOI's the second one first I asked for number but she gave legit excuse (cant today cause of work until 3 in the morning because I told her about today). When she did first one I should've went for the kill.

 

[g.i joey]

Sorry guys I failed she was a 7 blonde blue eyes. I did get a hug though does that count as slaying? She showed interest but when I asked number she backed off with an excuse, she continued showing interest though at the end I should have asked again because she gave a little hint but didnt wanna take the chance because of the setting.

give me a play by play of how you lead up to asking her for her number.

 

[Xander94]

give me a play by play of how you lead up to asking her for her number.

She asked me what Im doing later and then I said I don't know wanna go for lunch ? She said I cant I have to go I said ok wanna give me your phone number to scedhule later she said she has work till 3 so we continue conversation for a while chatty chatty. Then at the end she comes and hugs me and says I guess I'll see you around the city, ofcourse I didnt escalate about keeping in touch through facebook when I should have (didnt even think about that lul).

RIP

 

[hairblues]

She asked me what Im doing later and then I said I don't know wanna go for lunch ? She said I cant I have to go I said ok wanna give me your phone number to scedhule later she said she has work till 3 so we continue conversation for a while chatty chatty. Then at the end she comes and hugs me and says I guess I'll see you around the city, ofcourse I didnt escalate about keeping in touch through facebook when I should have (didnt even think about that lul).

RIP

Do you know her name?

Just friend her on FB maybe.

This way if she is interested she will accept and chat with you.
If she is not--well then at least you know..

I mean see what Joey thinks he is closer to your age. I think you may be same age if not mistaken.

 

[pjhair]

She asked me what Im doing later and then I said I don't know wanna go for lunch ? She said I cant I have to go I said ok wanna give me your phone number to scedhule later she said she has work till 3 so we continue conversation for a while chatty chatty. Then at the end she comes and hugs me and says I guess I'll see you around the city, ofcourse I didnt escalate about keeping in touch through facebook when I should have (didnt even think about that lul).

RIP

This situation is somewhat tricky as she didn't explicitly deny giving you her number. She was simply concerned that you wanted to meet the same day and she needed to work. You made the situation tricky by phrasing your question that way. I would still not have asked for her phone number at the end as asking the phone number twice in the same day is simply bizarre to me. However, if you really saw some potential at the end, you could have written down your number on a piece of paper and given it to her asking you to call or text sometimes. I have seen it work sometimes.

 

[Xander94]

This situation is somewhat tricky as she didn't explicitly deny giving you her number. She was simply concerned that you wanted to meet the same day and she needed to work. You made the situation tricky by phrasing your question that way. I would still not have asked for her phone number at the end as asking the phone number twice in the same day is simply bizarre to me. However, if you really saw some potential at the end, you could have written down your number on a piece of paper and given it to her asking you to call or text sometimes. I have seen it work sometimes.

I would have done it if not for the context as I was afraid I might get flat out rejected (although I doubt it), but you're right on the first hint I reacted way too stressy I saw IOI and went for the kill immediatly when I should've taken a more chill approach. Im pretty positive that someone with more game than me would've slew easily on this situation.

Maybe next year dudes LUL.

She also made mistake she should have asked for facebook or something at the end since she knew I was interested so maybe she wasnt after all.

I have a girl who is literally looking at me creepily alot in the gym. I don't like her though.

Met alot of new people this weekend and talked to many new people it was an awesome experience !

 

[g.i joey]

She asked me what Im doing later
Then at the end she comes and hugs me and says I guess I'll see you around the city

Make yourself seem busy, even if you're not, this works. Also, you should have been a little more assertive, if she asked what you were doing later you could have said, you had plans with friends but next week you have nothing planned so she should take your number, add you on facebook or wtv, the key is you shouldnt be asking. She came back to give you a hug for a reason, either she thinks your extremely handicapped and pities you, or she thinks your cute and wanted your attention before she left, i hope for your sake its the latter, and it probably is considering she was wondering what you were doing with your day.

Just my 2 cents, i use a bit of an aggressive/assertive approach with females but i think for my look and body type it works. From what ive read you're a good looking dude so you probably have better chances than me.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Please. You talked about failures and negative experiences as if they were actually positive, as if they could teach you something which could help you improve and feel better. They don't, they simply make you feel shittier and more helpless, until you get to the point you don't really care about anything anymore, and you just go to bed every night hoping to die in your sleep.

I wrote a response and then I deleted it. I am going to take my failed post and learn from my failure.