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Try being single for all your life those women would be in the mental hospital LUL
The Frequent "official" Origin Of My Recent Failures With Women
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Any one who has common sense knows that social skills are extremely important, when supported by looks, that is.
I think it's very smart of you to put yourself out there. Given that you are good looking, you will end up meeting someone sooner or later.
Precisely. Social skills alone wouldn't get an ugly guy a women above his level, but lack of them can and do prevent good looking guys from getting laid. I have seen it countless times.
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They are willing to wait a long time, and also some women are willing to date much older women which changes the equilibrium dynamics of the dating pool. There might also be effects from more men being in jail or in the military, or dead for that matter.
As an aside I was in New York City for a bit recently and I swiped ... and I got far more matches than I normally got. FML.
Guys can and should do the same.
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Social skills.. Yeah, man it's totally being able to ask her what's her name and where she works / goes to school then saying cool when she talks about herself. That's super skillfull, no wonder you guys are getting laid. Where do I sign up for the PUA camp in order to learn these extremely difficult techniques, I want to get laid too. Btw here's a picture of me.
I'm going to drown in puss once I learn these techniques aswell!!
I'm going to drown in puss once I learn these techniques aswell!!
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I'm working on my social skills. I think they're better than they used to be.
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You are smart, educated, well paid (?), and all around nice guy. You have alot going for you and have been trying to get a girlfriend for a while now. Would you say that improving your personality has made you get more and/or higher quality women? From the stories you've been posting (good posts btw) you haven't been doing so hot as far as I know.
I would say that a great personality (whatever that means) is the least important trait a man can have. If you're legit aspie then it's a different story of course. Girls don't picture your future children with your epic personality.
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Yes we should but there's always some beta male that will shower with gifts the most pathetic woman.
True. I still can't believe that my friends fat female co-worker matched with almost all the guys she right swiped on.
You underestimate the difference that social skills can make. I came to America from an extremely, extremely conservative and traditional Indian family. For the first 23 years of my life, I had rarely spoken to a women besides my mom and sister. When I came to the US, I was in my physical prime. Within a couple of months of coming to the US, i started going to college parties. I still remember in one of those parties a stunningly beautiful women walked up to me and said "You are really sexy." . I was so socially clueless, I just looked at her and said nothing. I had no idea what to do and was in a state of shock as people simply didn't talk that way in the city I was raised in. She tried to make some further small talk but I was really nervous and awkward during the whole interaction. Needless to say that nothing happened with that women. Similar thing happened with me in other parties as well. After spending some time in the US, I caught up on to the social skills and then these kind of interactions often ended up in me getting laid.
When I speak about the importance of social skills, I speak from my personal experience. I have seen the difference that they can make. However, they will ONLY help you if you are good looking to begin with.
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So far it's hard to say. I'm getting more dates but it's partly due to casting a wider net and trying harder. I can't tell you which effect matters more.
I'm trying because I don't want to look back on my life when I'm 70 and think "damn, if only I had left my basement." Nobody gives a sh*t about career or hobbies on their death bed. If I fail, and I never get a woman, I at least want to know that I gave it a sincere effort. That certainly means a few years.
My social skills are difficult to describe. I think I do better in smaller groups, and I do better once people get to know me. Larger groups, and first introductions, are harder for me. I have some work to do.
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I cannot talk to attractive men without getting nervous. There is a really hot guy in my office and whenever he talks to me, I put my eyes down whenever he makes an eye contact with me. He is so attractive. The same nervousness you guys feels with good looking women, I feel the same with handsome men.
I am Raj Koothrapali but with men.
I am Raj Koothrapali but with men.
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Agreed. Especially with the advancement of male sex toys. Fleshlights, High quality sex dolls, and even home made pocket pussies have pretty much made women obsolete.
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Didn't think you were old enough to know about this. Haha.
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What about pubic hair? Should I shave or buzz with a clipper? Or not even maintain and just go natural?
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Yeah, I know the type.
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When there is really some spark between you and a girl, you want her to relax and be comfortable in the beginning of the date, because she is as nervous as you are.
If you are looking to get laid you will either be disappointed or too excited on the first sight.
She will know, and either be heartbroken or feeling she deserves better.
People have insane subconscious antennas for this kind of thing.
I think the art is kind of to make the date feel more like a conversation with her bbf and to genuinely care about her.
If you realise you could be friends just based on your interests and the conversation is going, you should start flirting, touching ect.
Yes looks matter, but every girl has so many similar looking guys (options), that it will be the interaction she remembers.
There is a podcast called the art of charm. Especially in the first episodes they make very accurate and smart observations.
The podcast starts as a pickup podcast, then turns into a smart observation of human behaviour and then slowly degrades again as they invite more people to promote dumb books.
If you are looking to get laid you will either be disappointed or too excited on the first sight.
She will know, and either be heartbroken or feeling she deserves better.
People have insane subconscious antennas for this kind of thing.
I think the art is kind of to make the date feel more like a conversation with her bbf and to genuinely care about her.
If you realise you could be friends just based on your interests and the conversation is going, you should start flirting, touching ect.
Yes looks matter, but every girl has so many similar looking guys (options), that it will be the interaction she remembers.
There is a podcast called the art of charm. Especially in the first episodes they make very accurate and smart observations.
The podcast starts as a pickup podcast, then turns into a smart observation of human behaviour and then slowly degrades again as they invite more people to promote dumb books.
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I am not into Disco-Balls.
'Just shave it bra.'
Smoother shaved the better in my personal preference.
Or at very least buzz it...trim it down.
you will now get guys telling you the women on reddit like really hairy balls LOL
FYI_
if you are having random sex with new women don't do a close clean shave down there that same day.
Causes little microscopic tears in skin makes STD easier to pass.