DoctorHouse
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Shook, I told you this before, you and I think alike. Unfortunately, your way of thinking or your thoughts going thru your head are the same I used to have when was your age. Guess what? Those thoughts are still there( I learn how to suppress them just to function "normal") and because of it, I fear rejection constantly. I have very little trust in people. I am still old fashioned and this social media today is way too narcissistic for me to stomach.I appreciate your kind words as always, but I don't want to give the impression to people that I dont suffer from my own problems.
Suffering from horrible self-esteem my entire child hood, which came with a series of problems as I got older.
Myself personally, I need to reboot myself on a completely restored level physically. Meaning a full head of hair, and gradually work my way up as if I were a teenager all over again. It's been a rocky road pushing myself outside of my comfort zone, and it's still a work in progress. I am a firm believer that child, and teenage tragedies such as bullying, self-esteem, and image issues are highly probable to affect you as you get older. Looking back, if I never suffered through these issues, and had the core experience that most people have with out the crutch effect of being insecure, I would be much different today.
I can only portray the casanova image for so long until I sulk back in my insecure, and low self-esteem stuff. What's ironic is I have that out going vibe, and extrovert personality, but my image issues destroy me, and prevent me from being the person I want to be.
Pretty much gave up dating for awhile, after reaching an all time low again. Despite the records, numbers and women I been with it does not fix my problems, and image issues. it's easy for people to preach to the choir about my transplants, but they don't know my history, and what I have been through.
You guys have to worry about "chads" which I think seems to be on the rise. I have to worry about women my age wanting guys 10 years younger once they get tired of me. The emotional baggage some of these women carry around makes you want to go back to school and get a degree in psychology just to date them. You had more self esteem than I ever did based upon your "conquests". Keep working on mental health as much as you can. Just look for all the exceptions in life and take advantage of them. My issues destroy me still( even more so now that I live with regrets) and honestly destroyed my quality of life. The only thing that kept me going was my career and my family. Otherwise, I definitely would have pulled a Robbin Williams.
Just remember, even with your image issues, you still are above average and have proven already to yourself you can attract women. Keeping their interest in you is going to be hard work. Although a "chad" can do it effortless, they still have to do it because there is always someone better looking then them. The more you compare, the more you despair. You can continue to fix the "outside" but if you can't fix the "inside", you will spend the rest of your life trying to fix the "outside" and just replay those same thoughts about yourself on a never ending loop. If your main goal is marriage than you need to work on how to keep women interested in you for long periods of time. In this day and age, it almost seems impossible to the present generation. I don't know what your goals are when it comes to that. Do you want that?