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[shookwun]

I don't think you understand @hairblues. My condition is on the severe side of the spectrum. I can't even go grocery shopping without building up enough courage in my car to actually go inside. I start sweating, shaking, and my mind starts racing at a million miles a second. I don't want to be looked at, seen by anyone, I wish I had an invisibility cloak from Harry Potter so if I have to go anywhere in public I will not be seen. All of these things/feelings started getting very very bad at the start of November.

Listen, you have all the symptoms of someone who suffers from anxiety.


Thinking the worst of situations

Scared in oherbwise safe situations

Scattered and clouded thoughts

Hot and sweaty feeling during normal situations.



Please see a psychiatrist. This is a real condition you face... it isn't because of your nw2

 

[Dench57]

I don't think you understand @hairblues. My condition is on the severe side of the spectrum. I can't even go grocery shopping without building up enough courage in my car to actually go inside. I start sweating, shaking, and my mind starts racing at a million miles a second. I don't want to be looked at, seen by anyone, I wish I had an invisibility cloak from Harry Potter so if I have to go anywhere in public I will not be seen. All of these things/feelings started getting very very bad at the start of November.

and with this severity you haven't considered seeking help?

Impact section doesn't count

 

[hairblues]

For me, sexual desire amplifies anxiety.

It's when I truly want a woman, that the condition of being unattractive to women is most damaging to my psyche. The more I want her, the greater the pain.

thats because you have ED i would imagine.

and it also sounds like you are not attracted to a lot of women who would be attracted to you which i would imagine makes it worse (Not judging just sounds that way)

thats s very different from Bald hurts situation

 

[hairblues]

and with this severity you haven't considered seeking help?

Impact section doesn't count

average anxiety and insecurity can be helped here talking to people can be over riden for situations

he's got full on agoraphobia..thats not going to be helped without an experienced psychologist

he's GOOD LOOKING and CAN get laid....MOST People good looking who CAN get laid will over ride the waves of anxiety for sex sh*t some people use it as a drug to overcome anxiety.

its not adding up.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

thats because you have ED i would imagine.

and it also sounds like you are not attracted to a lot of women who would be attracted to you which i would imagine makes it worse (Not judging just sounds that way)

thats s very different from Bald hurts situation

That's a very good guess, but the issues I listed were also present before ED.

 

[hairblues]

@Baldhurts you need a really specific kind of counseling where they have you do things in baby steps to conquer this...I think they call it Cognitive Behavior therapy..

 

[hairblues]

That's a very good guess, but the issues I listed were also present before ED.

i think if you were a 7 or 8 and you were dating women who were 7 or 8 you would not have as much anxiety. you would have anxiety but also excitement. Joy.

also you have anxiety AND you ARE dating.

he's HOT and cant even go meet women for a drink

 

[Baldhurts]

and with this severity you haven't considered seeking help?

Impact section doesn't count

I came to the impact section because I don't have anyone in my life. Nobody to talk to, no friends, no social circle. My family that lives here enjoys when people fail, I can't talk to them. I can't talk to my dad, because anyone who's read my posts before knows why. I came here to get advice and talk to other people because I just don't have anyone. I like this place. I can't remember the last time I laughed until I started reading this board. Not laughing at other expense, just some of the things that get said here. That's why I'm here.

 

[Dante92]

i like them, it's like some crazy reverse-coping where he's blaming his looks/baldness for his problems with women when it's actually his social anxiety/retardation

I see what you did there. I love your snarkiness.

 

[Dench57]

I came to the impact section because I don't have anyone in my life. Nobody to talk to, no friends, no social circle. My family that lives here enjoys when people fail, I can't talk to them. I can't talk to my dad, because anyone who's read my posts before knows why. I came here to get advice and talk to other people because I just don't have anyone. I like this place. I can't remember the last time I laughed until I started reading this board. Not laughing at other expense, just some of the things that get said here. That's why I'm here.

I'm not saying you shouldn't be here, Impact has a wonderfully fucked up community of dank memes, shitbags and misfits going through similar experiences which is valuable, you won't find one quite like it anywhere else. it's a well balanced and sensible place for any balding man as @jd_uk will confirm

you should still seek help though, it sounds like your anxiety is really severe. I'm not sure you've got anything to lose by trying CBT or anti-anxiety meds

 

[shookwun]

It's called "just force yourself to do sh*t.".

Anyone with a minimum of willpower can do this.

Fred I believe this is the ultimate cure.

Eventually, even while popping meds have to face yours fears to get over them. Even if that involves answering the door for the pizza boy once you call him.

Whatever it takes.

 

[hairblues]

I came to the impact section because I don't have anyone in my life. Nobody to talk to, no friends, no social circle. My family that lives here enjoys when people fail, I can't talk to them. I can't talk to my dad, because anyone who's read my posts before knows why. I came here to get advice and talk to other people because I just don't have anyone. I like this place. I can't remember the last time I laughed until I started reading this board. Not laughing at other expense, just some of the things that get said here. That's why I'm here.

no DO NOT talk to your Dad i have a highly intense super attractive athletic Slayer Father who is wealthy and cannot abide weakness in people let alone his offsprings and I am a woman--if he knew half the weakness i have he would have used them against me my whole life...you HIDE that sh*t from your Father he will not understand and he will try to bully the sh*t of you and to make it worse...No reason really to talk to any of your friends or family.

Go to a cognitive therapist. at lest start with a normal therapist.

 

[hairblues]

Fred I believe this is the ultimate cure.

Eventually, even while popping meds have to face yours fears to get over them. Even if that involves answering the door for the pizza boy once you call him.

Whatever it takes.

its very true you just have to keep building on things and at some point you realize your not going to die and you learn to roll with it.

I used to get like almost black outs...i used to see like in a distorted way i forgot what they call it i think
'disassociation'. where its like flat like a dream...did not last long but scared the f*** out of me when it would happen..

when a therapist explained why it happens (its like the brains exhausted from anxiety its actually trying to slow down the information its getting) it kind of took the power away.

but learning to ride the anxiety is the best way to handle it...its not easy and its not a cure but you learn to live with it and greatly lessen its power.

if he cant then medication is important.

 

[hairblues]

I still have some battles to fight.

For example I've been playing the guitar for 9 years now.

9 years and it was mostly hidden in my bedroom.

I'm always extremely self-conscious when I play in front of people.

In a few weeks, I'm going to go on stage for the first time to play a couple of songs.

Even if I have to puke my guts out before going, I don't care, I'm going to force myself.

This is how your fears should be dealt with.

Maybe I should pull a @Baldhurts on this: "It's actually my genes telling me that I should not go on stage, so I should just give up on the idea."

Huge cope.

doing sh*t inspite of your anxiety is managing anxiety.

he will get there

he's struggling.

now he knows more probably from just this thread then he knew before.

it up to him what he does with the information.

just going to therapy 1x a week will help him because its a set appointment to get out of house,

he has to practice LIVING with anxiety...hes not really living his life right now.

 

[shookwun]

its very true you just have to keep building on things and at some point you realize your not going to die and you learn to roll with it.

I used to get like almost black outs...i used to see like in a distorted way i forgot what they call it i think
'disassociation'. where its like flat like a dream...did not last long but scared the f*** out of me when it would happen..

when a therapist explained why it happens (its like the brains exhausted from anxiety its actually trying to slow down the information its getting) it kind of took the power away.

but learning to ride the anxiety is the best way to handle it...its not easy and its not a cure but you learn to live with it and greatly lessen its power.

if he cant then medication is important.

medication will help you get over your hurdle, but it's ultimately up to you to face and deal with your fears,


meds are a short term aid, and solution

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I came to the impact section because I don't have anyone in my life. Nobody to talk to, no friends, no social circle. My family that lives here enjoys when people fail, I can't talk to them. I can't talk to my dad, because anyone who's read my posts before knows why. I came here to get advice and talk to other people because I just don't have anyone. I like this place. I can't remember the last time I laughed until I started reading this board. Not laughing at other expense, just some of the things that get said here. That's why I'm here.

I cannot talk to my mother, and can barely talk to my sister. My mom understands nothing and my sister is super-critical.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

All of that is sad. I also talked again to my parents for the first time in a year this last Xmas. But it was not easy.

Welcome @Baldhurts
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How'd it go?

 

[CopeForLife]

"Dick is over riding anxiety." imo underrated quote by @hairblues

 

[CopeForLife]

Going out as a young baldcel after a months of hiding in the basement is devastating.

Everyone is settled with a girl or a group of subNW2 friends.

I saw only 1 group or old baldcels (nw7 and nw5) with fat women.

Literally no one goes alone. f*****g lol. Every f*****g waitress asks "are u waiting someone?" which only intensifies anxiety.

And I obviously not able to get friends with NTs (see my post about my socialisation through meetup) since they are f*****g retarded.

Just be NT and full head of hair.

 

[EvilLocks]

Where the hell is @buckthorn by the way?

I was wondering about this as well...