Hope4hairRedux said:SmileBam said:You must have very low self esteem to say this.Hair loss is a big problem,but is not the end of the world.Dress well,work your body,be joyful and confident,and everything wi'll be ok.
This is the standard counter argument to 'hair loss fucks my life up' argument.
First of it does depend. But I personally disagree. Smooth made a very interesting and refreshing point that I feel rings great truths. People go on and on about 'confidence', but it is such an overated element.
Bottom line as smooth said, girls will approach and fancy good looking guys, shy or confident. If your confident but bald like an egg and ugly, what hope do we have? Honestly lets be serious. A girl does not give a sh*t how 'confident' you are. Obvoiusly you need to have some inner belief and conviction in your ability. But this isnt going make girls like you. Its just going to give your more energy to keep on looking. The people with no inner strength are the ones who go bald and then retreat socially, aka dudemon. Even so, thats understandable in its own way. Girls arent wired that different from guys. We both look for attractive mates, simple as. Obvoiusly there are slight differences but its more or less the same. How many guys hee would go out with an ugly girl just because she had 'confidence'?
Bottom line is that generally speaking women dont dislike baldness per se, but most bald guys become far less attractive without hair, and thats why it sucks. There are a lucky few white guys that seem to weather the storm quite well and still look quite good, but they are few and far between. If your average, perhaps confidence will help somewhat. But in general it doesnt matter how 'confident' you are. Obvoiusly workout, eat right, dress well. But dont expect these things to really raise your attractivness that much, they will help slightly.
Sometimes when I think of the cruelty and vanity of the human race it makes me so sad. We are living in this rat race and theres nothing we can do about it, other than stay in it or drop out.
you say confidence is overrated but you don't have an understanding of what true confidence is either so its a moot point...its not about faking being happy and energetic. The truth is, most men have your opinion engrained in their mind so if they don't look like a male model...they are unable to be confident because they think they need to look like a male model to get any interest....they feel like they don't have "permission" to be confident and it would be offensive if they were confident but not also good looking.
I can identify with this mindset because its definitely true that we get this impression as males...but its not so cut and dry/black and white....if you don't think personality and attitude matter dramatically then you're also wrong....you're also wrong in thinking that ugly girls are gonna be the ones who are attracted to ugly/and or bald men....if anything, ugly to average looking girls are more insecure and value a good looking guy MORE because in her mind he will reflect the fact that she isn't indeed ugly. Whereas the really good looking girls who are also self assured won't care as much about her partner's genetic looks because it won't matter as much to her....shes prbly had experience with being with the Adnois like guys when she was younger and she'll reach a point where other factors become a lot more important than simply just looks.