Would You Reject Someone Just Because Of Your Hair

[blackg]

It was actually just a direct question. In general men don't like older women and women don't like short, bald or poor men, let's all just be honest here. There are lots of exceptions...

I'm glad you said "in general."
Though, there are a lot of posters on this site who won't understand "in general."

 

[cocohot]

saying to me when i was not even talking to you this line.

Are you just bitter that men your age aren't attracted to you?

was a dig...to purposely to get a rise.

If i said to a short guy on this forum out of the blue--
'aren't you just bitter because women are not attracted to you because you're short?"
that would be kind of a 'dick' thing for me to say to someone for no real reason.

It's not even really a question it's a passive aggressive statement.

It's not about what you are attracted to or not.

I could care less your personal preference in what you want to stick your dick into.

I care about purposely being a jerk to someone--then pretending to be just curious and innocent.

maybe you are the bitter one.

The thing is, if you asked that question of a short guy you might have asked it sincerely because you wanted to know the answer.

I was being direct, I knew it could be interpreted as an insult, and I know that 99% of time when people say things like that they mean it as an insult, so it was callous of me to ask you that question. That doesn't change the fact that I did not mean it as an insult but as a very blunt question.

 

[SmoothSailing]

yes, very creepy. very rapey. who wants to have sex with a passed out girl anyways?

Haha there's a huge difference between f*****g a passed out girl and being fucked up and f*****g a girl with lowered inhibition due to alcohol or drugs. And there's nothing rapey about it, she gets drunk and is willing to f*** me, it's on her. I'll take what I can get haha.

Although I'd feel fairly rapey if I wasn't fucked up and she was. But there's 0 chance of that, can't say no to a shot or a sniff.

In fact I'd say most one night stand here happen because of alcohol haha.

 

[SmoothSailing]

It's not like I could wake up beside a fat ugly chick after a drunken night and think "she raped me!".

That's not how it works.

 

[blackg]

I see what you did there.

What did he do, junior?

 

[Grasshüpfer]

the biggest thing for me honestly is that my hair loss will effect my work life in long run.

I don't want to say what i do but its very physical and its also in a very stylish industry that works very long hours

So if i had to wear a hair piece or even powders its not very practical.

I think my only recourse would be to do a weave...which is very high maintenance.

Also I freelance and i don't want to worry about being judged on my appearance as 'sick' or whatever.

I have to have a ton of confidence to sell myself to people who entrust me to do a job that is insane hours and skill.

One whiff of self doubt--forget it..Next.

The other thing can take full on i know the person but its not what i really want to do and its very very physical and again a wig is not practical.

Dating--i don't think its that big a deal BUT i was seeing someone this summer i liked and this obsessive worry kept me from really enjoying him and allowing myself to get to know him or him me...i found i really turned him down a lot and i can NOT be with someone right now with this burden on my mind...Its too much..Its not something I want to share but its also all i can think about for now. So its hard.
Im not even talking to many friends..
Im a little reclusive right now.

Hahaha, it's a bit strange. I'm probably the physical opposite of hairblues as a blonde, 28j old male. Still Hairblues story is kind of a mirror image of my own and basically every single thing she said also applies to me. Job, dating, even our kind of hairloss seems to be very similar.

Good to hear that your loss stopped for now.

 

[hairblues]

The thing is, if you asked that question of a short guy you might have asked it sincerely because you wanted to know the answer.

I was being direct, I knew it could be interpreted as an insult, and I know that 99% of time when people say things like that they mean it as an insult, so it was callous of me to ask you that question. That doesn't change the fact that I did not mean it as an insult but as a very blunt question.

you phrased it as an insulting statement and added a question mark because you want a go at me.
if you wanted to really know something like that you could have phrased it differently.
if you know 99% of time saying something like that would come off as an insult then to me that is negative intent.


Just be real.

 

[rclark]

because I thought he was kidding...

I was.

 

[hairblues]

Hahaha, it's a bit strange. I'm probably the physical opposite of hairblues as a blonde, 28j old male. Still Hairblues story is kind of a mirror image of my own and basically every single thing she said also applies to me. Job, dating, even our kind of hairloss seems to be very similar.

Good to hear that your loss stopped for now.

thank you its slowed down for now and i see some regrowth--how viable it will be i have to wait a few months and i am not patient nature.

Im also on pins and needles waiting for official announcements from FIDIA..

the closer i get to these things I'm actually more nervous and stressed which makes no sense to me.

i should feel happier but i am tired of 'waiting' feeling.

 

[hairblues]

I was.

I kind of thought second time i read it you were being sarcastic.

 

[rclark]

I kind of thought second time i read it you were being sarcastic.

I was.

 

[rclark]

you "liked" his rape post. why? it's f*****g creepy as f***.

Sorry, should have talked about a foursome with a guy dressing as a woman.

 

[cocohot]

you phrased it as an insulting statement and added a question mark because you want a go at me.
if you wanted to really know something like that you could have phrased it differently.
if you know 99% of time saying something like that would come off as an insult then to me that is negative intent.


Just be real.

I'm being real, if I wanted to insult you I wouldn't deny it. I knew you would probably find it insulting and I didn't care, but that's not the same thing as wanting to insult you. I just wanted an answer to the question of whether or not women really do like older men.

You made a post saying any man over 37 should forget about a woman in her twenties being interested in them, I will be 37 some day so I asked you straight up, were you telling the depressing truth? Or as an older woman were you bitter that men your own age are more interested in women 15 years younger than you and it's tough for you to compete?

I've just said it again in my last sentence, and I know you won't like reading it but understand that the answer to this question is important to me and to decisions I will make about how to live my life. Evillocks and pas have said they like older men before so when I read your post I wanted to know were they just saying that to be nice to the men on this forum.

Be honest, in general men are mostly attracted to women in their twneties/mid thirties, and women in general are attracted to tall, rich, popular fullheads. In general that is, not always. Why can't we be honest about these things without people getting sensitive?

 

[hairblues]

I'm being real, if I wanted to insult you I wouldn't deny it. I knew you would probably find it insulting and I didn't care, but that's not the same thing as wanting to insult you. I just wanted an answer to the question of whether or not women really do like older men.

You made a post saying any man over 37 should forget about a woman in her twenties being interested in them, I will be 37 some day so I asked you straight up, were you telling the depressing truth? Or as an older woman were you bitter that men your own age are more interested in women 15 years younger than you and it's tough for you to compete?

I've just said it again in my last sentence, and I know you won't like reading it but understand that the answer to this question is important to me and to decisions I will make about how to live my life. Evillocks and pas have said they like older men before so when I read your post I wanted to know were they just saying that to be nice to the men on this forum.

Be honest, in general men are mostly attracted to women in their twneties/mid thirties, and women in general are attracted to tall, rich, popular fullheads. In general that is, not always. Why can't we be honest about these things without people getting sensitive?

OMG you keep going

If you wanted to know about younger women being attracted to older men you did not ask that.

What i said if you read it was that for NIGHT CLUBS girls who are 22 (IN GENERAL since you like that phrase so much)..are NOT into the guys in late 30 to late 40s hanging out at the club--NOT looking to hook up with these men out dancing and drinking who are mostly college aged girls.

I said nothing about in life on dating sites etc

How do i know this?

I was 22--and to be really honest i was talking to a man on this site who was late 40s talking about clubs..
So really an almost 30 year age difference there.

Do younger women date older men?

Sure.
I don't know how prevalent it is i think its less so today then when i was younger to be honest.

I have no idea how old you are Im guess you are not as young as i thought and this triggered something in you and it pissed you off.

My first 'real' mature boyfriend and relationship was with a man i met when i was 18 and he was 28.
He left me 3 years later for a woman about 10 years older then me who he fell in love with.
So i don't know that all men don't want older women vs younger women.
DO they masterbate and day dream about younger women? Sure
Can they actually get younger woman--that is individual I'm sure some can and some can't.

I know me and my friends out in clubs 10 year older was for sure good---15-20 years older in the club to me was always kind of creepy unless they owned the clubs or were there for a fluke a party or something.

I used to see the 'older' dudes who would hang out order some bottles of liquor sit in the VIP and we used to use theme to be in VIP and to drink their liquor and buy us food.
9 out of 10 of them were way too old and we just hung out
To be fair i actually still know some of them lol--they just liked sitting with pretty young girls to 'feel' good and look impressive.
But i do not know anyone who hooked up with any of them
That was what i was really talking about with nameless--dont be that guy.

Can you get young woman? i have no idea i don't know you and i have no idea your age...Im guessing you are older than i thought.

I have a friend he's very comfortable financially he's good looking he's in his mid 40s and NOW wants to meet a girl to start a family...he told me he is having trouble meeting women under 35 on tinder and other dating sites his words "The young girls today won't talk to older men"
This is a NYC Financial district good looking fit guy who wants to start a family and totally understandable he's looking for a woman 10-15 years younger than himself
So i don't think its that easy unless you are stunningly good looking/sexy or do what i call 'lead with your money'

Are their exceptions? Yes
There are whole websites devoted to women looking for their sugar-daddys--part of it is financial but some genuinely enjoy being a 'baby girl' to their older lovers.

But please lets not pretend you did not want to be insulting.
We are mostly intelligent people on the site so lets not play bullshit.

 

[cocohot]

One final time, callous, reckless, but not intentional insult. Accept or don't but that's the truth.

 

[hairblues]

One final time, callous, reckless, but not intentional insult. Accept or don't but that's the truth.

I have no issue accepting the truth as you call it

I have issue with your communication skills.

Like i said you meant to be insulting.

You are as fake as my December tropical tan.

 

[hairblues]

You're wasting your time, arguing with some users. Don't even bother.

Correct because he's being inauthentic.

 

[hairblues]

@Dante92

What exactly am i saying you disagree with?

You believe a 22 year old hottie at the club is going to talk and hook up with an average looking late 30s to early 50 year old man who is bald or balding ?

 

[cocohot]

Oh boy!

See, just be honest, no one will take offence.

 

[hairblues]

See, just be honest, no one will take offence.

I have no issue with your opinion i have issue with your delivery

Im not offended i just think you are not being real about intent.