How Can I Cope With Self Hatred/loathing? (advice Needed)

[JohnsonDDG]

Tragic update.

Went on a first date from tinder with an average looking woman (based on pictures). I know I said i'm after a nubile pretty woman but I've got sexual needs that aren't being fulfilled. Anyway, we went for a walk and all was going well, and then she took me to a fancy art gallery. Inside the gallery they had these bright, bright lights and thats when I saw it - my date had stubble. I'm not talking a mans stubble but clear distinct stubble above her lip and a few tiny ones on her chin.

It completely undermined her 5 out of 10 looks and reduced her to a 3.

How f*****g tragic.

We'd been having a great time until then.

After I saw the stubble I stayed for another 30 minutes and then made up and excuse to go home. She text me after I left saying she had a good time and now I have to tell her I cant see her again. I don't think I can say the truth though - telling them you wont date them because they have facial hair is too brutal.

f***, what a sh*t show my dating life is.

I'm trying not to get too depressed about it by telling myself that at least I got a date. I know its a bit of a cope but that's all I have right now.

 

[davesmith420]

Tragic update.

Went on a first date from tinder with an average looking woman (based on pictures). I know I said i'm after a nubile pretty woman but I've got sexual needs that aren't being fulfilled. Anyway, we went for a walk and all was going well, and then she took me to a fancy art gallery. Inside the gallery they had these bright, bright lights and thats when I saw it - my date had stubble. I'm not talking a mans stubble but clear distinct stubble above her lip and a few tiny ones on her chin.

It completely undermined her 5 out of 10 looks and reduced her to a 3.

How f*****g tragic.

We'd been having a great time until then.

After I saw the stubble I stayed for another 30 minutes and then made up and excuse to go home. She text me after I left saying she had a good time and now I have to tell her I cant see her again. I don't think I can say the truth though - telling them you wont date them because they have facial hair is too brutal.

f***, what a sh*t show my dating life is.

I'm trying not to get too depressed about it by telling myself that at least I got a date. I know its a bit of a cope but that's all I have right now.

Bruh that is an easy fix, she just has to shave her face. As long as she doesn't whip out a 9 inch c*** I would still see her.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Bruh that is an easy fix, she just has to shave her face. As long as she doesn't whip out a 9 inch c*** I would still see her.

f*** that. I'm not dating someone with beard hairs.

I'm not talking about those little downy hairs that women get - i'm talking coarse hair that would grow on a mans chin.

 

[Roberto_72]

Dedicate your life to working out and weightlifting.

This is the dream of every intellectual!

 

[Captain Rex]

Bruh that is an easy fix, she just has to shave her face. As long as she doesn't whip out a 9 inch c*** I would still see her.

dave then bang this guy or yaawww

 

[davesmith420]

dave then bang this guy or yaawww

Ayy lmao

tfw I just saw my oneitis on Tinder. She had the most cringey bio I have ever seen (e.g. "Let's converse so I can separate out all the f*** boys.") Kind of want to punch myself square in the dick for wasting so much time on her. Gave her a hard left swipe by the way.

 

[EvilLocks]

How old are you? If you're in your 30's then I think it's unlikely you'll be pulling any university-age tail. Related Q: I wonder if men every grow out of wanting to bed prime 20 year olds? Do tastes change with age? Say when a man hits his 40's/50's, do the 45yr old cougars suddenly start looking a lot more attractive than their early 20's compatriots? Or do older men still crave young flesh?

I'm not a man obviously, but from my experience older men never stop checking out young girls. I've experienced my fair share of stares and remarks from older men, even now at 24 (I look 18). One time I was wearing a leopard print top with a slight cleavage while out shopping, and this 50+ year old man came on to me and told me to stop wearing such revealing clothes, or else I'd make all the older men go crazy. My grandfather is 86 and to be honest he's always been a creep, checking me out even tho we're related, touching my butt etc. I've always been his fav out of the grandkids cause I'm the youngest girl. He flat out told me yesterday that I was old, but good thing I looked young. I'm 100% certain that if he could choose he'd only date 16-22 year olds, as he checks out the young girls all the time.

 

[Baldhurts]

I'm not a man obviously, but from my experience older men never stop checking out young girls. I've experienced my fair share of stares and remarks from older men, even now at 24 (I look 18). One time I was wearing a leopard print top with a slight cleavage while out shopping, and this 50+ year old man came on to me and told me to stop wearing such revealing clothes, or else I'd make all the older men go crazy. My grandfather is 86 and to be honest he's always been a creep, checking me out even tho we're related, touching my butt etc. I've always been his fav out of the grandkids cause I'm the youngest girl. He flat out told me yesterday that I was old, but good thing I looked young. I'm 100% certain that if he could choose he'd only date 16-22 year olds, as he checks out the young girls all the time.

No pics no care

 

[cocohot]

I'm not a man obviously, but from my experience older men never stop checking out young girls. I've experienced my fair share of stares and remarks from older men, even now at 24 (I look 18). One time I was wearing a leopard print top with a slight cleavage while out shopping, and this 50+ year old man came on to me and told me to stop wearing such revealing clothes, or else I'd make all the older men go crazy. My grandfather is 86 and to be honest he's always been a creep, checking me out even tho we're related, touching my butt etc. I've always been his fav out of the grandkids cause I'm the youngest girl. He flat out told me yesterday that I was old, but good thing I looked young. I'm 100% certain that if he could choose he'd only date 16-22 year olds, as he checks out the young girls all the time.

No wonder you're fucked up, seriously. No offence. Everyone on this forum seems to have a tragic backstory. You should tell your psychologist about this if you haven't already.

 

[EvilLocks]

No wonder you're fucked up, seriously. No offence. Everyone on this forum seems to have a tragic backstory. You should tell your psychologist about this if you haven't already.

Haha, thanks (true tho). To be honest it hasn't affected me too much, I rarely see him anyway, like once or twice a year. He never touched me like that while I was a child either. I just shake it off and move on. My paternal grandfather is a creep, but my maternal grandfather (who died) is a saint and a true hero in my life. He was the most kind hearted man ever..

 

[hairblues]

I'm not a man obviously, but from my experience older men never stop checking out young girls. I've experienced my fair share of stares and remarks from older men, even now at 24 (I look 18). One time I was wearing a leopard print top with a slight cleavage while out shopping, and this 50+ year old man came on to me and told me to stop wearing such revealing clothes, or else I'd make all the older men go crazy. My grandfather is 86 and to be honest he's always been a creep, checking me out even tho we're related, touching my butt etc. I've always been his fav out of the grandkids cause I'm the youngest girl. He flat out told me yesterday that I was old, but good thing I looked young. I'm 100% certain that if he could choose he'd only date 16-22 year olds, as he checks out the young girls all the time.

I was hit on by my Fathers friends since i was 16

same men still hit on me at 45 when i see them.

its just old perves hit on everyone and anyone.

Your grandfather no offense sounds really creepy.

Do you think he groomed you from a young age about your views on youth?

Don't get me wrong when i was 18-20, women in 30s and 40s seemed 'old' to me.

when i was in my 20s with the older BF i was so offended when he chose an older woman over me because to me it was like he picked an old 'hag'..once i got to 28 i did not feel that way anymore about aging i dont know why i think it was just like 'oh its not so bad here.'

but you seem nervous about even being past 18...this is very unusual in my opinion.

 

[CopeForLife]

Tragic update.

Went on a first date from tinder with an average looking woman (based on pictures). I know I said i'm after a nubile pretty woman but I've got sexual needs that aren't being fulfilled. Anyway, we went for a walk and all was going well, and then she took me to a fancy art gallery. Inside the gallery they had these bright, bright lights and thats when I saw it - my date had stubble. I'm not talking a mans stubble but clear distinct stubble above her lip and a few tiny ones on her chin.

It completely undermined her 5 out of 10 looks and reduced her to a 3.

How f*****g tragic.

We'd been having a great time until then.

After I saw the stubble I stayed for another 30 minutes and then made up and excuse to go home. She text me after I left saying she had a good time and now I have to tell her I cant see her again. I don't think I can say the truth though - telling them you wont date them because they have facial hair is too brutal.

f***, what a sh*t show my dating life is.

I'm trying not to get too depressed about it by telling myself that at least I got a date. I know its a bit of a cope but that's all I have right now.

haha this reminded me a story when guy was eating a girl out at her place and when they moved to a part of a room where lighter was above them she shouted horrified that he has a horseshoe pattern on his diffused scalp (he rushed away after this)

not sure if this story is srs but still funny

 

[JohnsonDDG]

haha this reminded me a story when guy was eating a girl out at her place and when they moved to a part of a room where lighter was above them she shouted horrified that he has a horseshoe pattern on his diffused scalp (he rushed away after this)

not sure if this story is srs but still funny

Haha my story is definitely serious. Could you date a woman with stubble?

 

[CopeForLife]

Haha my story is definitely serious. Could you date a woman with stubble?

I flaked after a date when I saw a stubble on a girl.

That's disgusting.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I flaked after a date when I saw a stubble on a girl.

That's disgusting.

I didn't notice until we were under bright lights so I'd spent two hours with her until that point.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I didn't notice until we were under bright lights so I'd spent two hours with her until that point.

Johnson, would the outcome still be the same if she had acne but no stubble?

 

[EvilLocks]

but you seem nervous about even being past 18...this is very unusual in my opinion.

I'm not nervous about being past 18 lolol. Anything below 25 is young. It's just a fact of life that men like young women, and the first signs of aging starts around 25. I don't think anything has 'shaped my views on youth', except being forced to become a realist who sees things the way they are.

 

[hairblues]

I didn't notice until we were under bright lights so I'd spent two hours with her until that point.

Im Italian. she has no excuse. Thats just gross.

Not that she has hair thats just DNA but that she did not kill those follicles by now. Zap them.

of course thats a horrible impression, you cant get passed some things.

i was on a first great date that the guy was gorgeous but he used my bathroom after dinner....for 45 minutes. i was so turned off.
Another guy a first date he drank too much and puked...the smell...i was so done.

Lip hair stubble dark and thick enough you can notice it on a first date??? Run because wtf does she have going on UNDER her clothes. its not just visually gross it says something about her grooming and carelessness.

Its just dirty and manly looking.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Johnson, would the outcome still be the same if she had acne but no stubble?

Yeah, spots are fine and most women cover it with foundation.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I'm not nervous about being past 18 lolol. Anything below 25 is young. It's just a fact of life that men like young women, and the first signs of aging starts around 25. I don't think anything has 'shaped my views on youth', except being forced to become a realist who sees things the way they are.

You like older guys anyway so it won't be a problem. Just stay fit and take good care of yourself. You will always be attractive if you can do that. For me the most attractive thing about a women is if they are in great shape.