How Do I Calm Down Need Legit Advice
- Thread starter Xander94
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You're not trying.
Cold approaching does not count as trying. Showing Donald Trump memes to women in bars does not count as trying.
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That's incorrect. Most of us have had dates without relying on online, including myself, and you're one of the best-looking people here. However you try the least.
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What in hell has gotten into you?
You sure are being a drama queen this week.
yetti
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What I was referring to in that instance was a poster who said that he was specifically looking to meet a girl who had never dated someone of another race. I get it if someone wants to date someone of their own background for cultural reasons, whatever. But specifically looking for a partner who is... unsullied by the hands of anyone from another race?
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Stop this it is irrelevant to the thread.
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I don't get tinder matches not even in Russia which is the easiest place to land a date on.
Means two things.
1) Too ugly
or
2) Too untrustworthy looking
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yeah but its funny as f***
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I don't know if there's anything wrong with browsing here, maybe the way he's browsing where he's looking to be miserable and not trying to get better.
However a good therapist will be a lot more helpful. The attention is much more focused as it's a one-on-one situation, she can make a referral to a psychiatrist if there's a need for medications, and she will have more awareness of the outside world which is broader than the experiences of people here.
Xander clearly has a lot of problems. He's afraid of trying, he focuses only on looks, he is self-destructive, he lacks interests, et cetera. Even if a woman found him attractive, she would be turned off quickly. However he is young and thus he has time to turn things around.
A little bit, yes, but it's not worth him destroying his life over.
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yetti
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Actually someone in this thread posted that he was so offended by comments that emerged regarding a meme you posted, in this thread, that he was thinking about leaving the site. So that's how the conversation got started.
Maybe it's not irrelevant to the thread. A good way to enhance one's social life, rather than drive people away, is to be kind.
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Im not looking to enhance my social life I don't care much about that. I want a partner
yetti
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Don't you think having a social life, including the skills that come along with that, and also the people that would expose you to, could well lead to a partner?
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Most girls would like a guy with a rich social life. Focus on that and not on cold approaching women. I don't know why I'm still giving this advice, or why you're still looking for advice even, when you ignore all of it.
yetti
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I'm happily married. But when I dated, I dated a lot and had a lot of girlfriends, and this advice is spot-on correct. I always saw this as "welcome to my party". In other words, a potential partner wants to get the vibe that by dating you, their life is going to be enhanced, more fun, more exciting. Smiles, fun, people, interesting times and ideas etc. Rather than having to be the sole or even the main provider of all of that. Having a rich social life helps to give off that vibe for sure... and also of course make it a reality.
yetti
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sunchyme i admit that i voted for you for mod because i was so moved by your speech, but im not sure if this is the most productive use of your power
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sunchyme i admit that i voted for you for mod because i was so moved by your speech, but im not sure if this is the most productive use of your power
loool im just messing man
just a private joke with me and xander
i feel for him, i hope he turns things around
quality guy
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I only tagged you because I thought it was funny. It was the first time I read such awfully funny pseudo-italian comments here, I thought fellow italians here would have appreciated them as much as I did.
ti amo dante
