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Typical good looking normie
How Do I Calm Down Need Legit Advice
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ti amo dante
You just want to have the same moment with dante that he had as kid, you are jealous, admit it
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You just want to have the same moment with dante that he had as kid, you are jealous, admit it
im gonna have that moment with him when he comes over here on the 26th
dont worry about that mate
i will have my wicked way with him
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I was in the same boat you were. But as soon as i started going out i met tons of people that introduced me to girls. Even tho for the first year or so I had to watch other people getting the girls i wanted and taking them home. But i didn't give up and tried to isolate girls at parties to talk to them and then it started rolling. Wether you are not the hottest or not doesn't matter, just try to have fun with the girls without thinking of getting laid all the time. They will eventually like you if you are not really ugly.
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Well it's the hard truth, BUT even ugly people I knew got laid, looksmatched tho. Like mentiones here very often by @hairblues , most guys want to f*** way above their looks which CAN work but 99% of the time you will get rejected.
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Pay a f*****g shrink or find someone to TALK to. Basic social human interaction, yes? You need to start over, like a child, one, small step at a time. But you need to f*****g start.
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If I had a son I would devote myself to him 100% make sure he receives the best education in sciences. He will have a rigorous martial training from a young age to cultivate his fighting spirit.
My father was the worst didnt do sh*t for me. Yet my mother married him because of money and because he did favours for her. Nothing special your theory is incorrect.
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In elementary school and junior high school I was probably the biggest outcast, geek, nerd of the school. Horrible haircut and awkward glasses, much too thin and terrible at sports, and constantly bullied by other kids. Both male and female. I remember very distinctly that when I got contact lenses and stopped wearing glasses, a girl said to me, "it doesnt matter you will be ugly anyway". I remember a kid, a local bully, actually coming into my house and pushing me down the staircase in my own house. OMG... fun times.
I had a therapist, a very good therapist. I saw him for a few years. And during one session... it must have been during late jr high school or early high school, he said something to me that changed my life. We were talking about how I reacted when I was teased, which was to get angry and try to insult people back... and how another kid in my school reacted. He was also geeky looking, glasses, way too thin, the whole deal. But he was one of the most popular kids at the school. The difference was that he reacted to teasing by actually laughing along with the bullies and thus taking away their power. He also was a very funny kid, knew how to make everyone laugh. The therapist suggested, why don't I try reacting like him?
I did and it worked. I actually studied the kid and watched him deal with people, and emulated him. Not his entire personality obviously, but the way he reacted to bullies, and also I tried to develop my sense of humor.
In pretty short order I had a good, cool group of friends, and then a girlfriend.
The point is... well I'm not sure what the point is. There are a few points. One is that no I'm not a great looking person, but I suppose I did do my jr. high version of "looksmaxing" by improving my clothes and style, and to this day I do try to look presentable at least (and connected to that is the minoxidil I pour on my head, which is how I ended up here). Another is that having a social life absolutely does help, my girlfriends would not have dated me if I had none, probably. But I suppose the biggest point is that real change is possible, with some really simple changes in outlook and social strategy. For me it was learning that anger is really, really unattractive to most people. Bullies feed on it and others are repulsed by it. It works on talk radio and for some rock stars but not in healthy relationships.
As others have suggested therapy could really be helpful to you. I wouldn't have figured out what I needed to change without it probably.
I have been thinking the very same thing for months, but I was afraid to tell it. Natural selection in a way.
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Before I started losing my hair I didnt care. I'd rather have a couple of true friends than 100 social circles. You all can rot together with this rotten society without me
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I was reading the thread and I did think there's a risk that Xander would be psychologically abusive in a relationship.