How Do I Calm Down Need Legit Advice
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And you thought he was a 'nice guy'.
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If you decide to make an effort and live your life: encouragement, positivity, support.
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to who?
Self-awareness is the first step in the right direction. The next step is opening the door of your basement.
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I bet that the entire forum will support you if you start making an effort.
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I have started Im forcing myself to go out.
Meeting people here is hard ask @EvilLocks or @Patrick_Bateman how many new people do they meet. Nobody talks to you man
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I dont understand your post
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I will PM you.
You can improve, there are many ways to do it, and we all gave you plenty of advice for months. The fact that you ignored it and kept complaining without even saying you'd try made some of us a bit nervous.
EvilLocks
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That's true. Talking to strangers is something ''nobody'' does in Scandinavia, people literally avoid sitting besides a stranger on the bus if they can. It's hard, the best way to meet someone here is either through your existing social network (friends, colleagues, classmates etc) or online.
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I can't speak for Patrick. I don't know his situation.
Evil Locks I know a little. Her situation is much worse than ours, she has health problems that she has brought up before. Physical health problems. She deals with more than anybody else here as far as I know.
You have good physical health. You cannot compare yourself to EL.
It is hard to meet people but you have to make the effort. I just moved to a city a year ago, it really sucks. I'm now thousands of kilometers from old friends. But there's no easy solution.
I understand social phobia, I do. At my old place it took me three years before I invited people over for dinner. I was scared of inviting people and having them not show up. They all came though.
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Yes and Im trying on both fronts. Only people I managed to get to know are other Greeks and some ethic people from work.
Yet to these people here Im not trying hard enough. Maybe that's true but you can't expect a social outcast to go full PUA mode with social life in a country like this
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Im not comparing evils situation with mine what are you saying ?
Come and live in scandinavia for a year and let us see how many Nordic people you manage to befriend
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I was in Scandinavia for a few weeks last year and was getting to know people already. That's irrelevant though.
If you don't like it there, then you should prioritize leaving. It is perfectly fine if Denmark is not for you, but then figure out how to go someplace else if you can. In the meantime you should see a therapist to help you deal with your issues and evolve from them where possible. You are not the first immigrant to have trouble integrating, it's a standard problem.
Melbourne, Australia, for example, would be a great city for a Greek expatriate. There are a lot of Greeks and Italians there. I think Montreal, Canada might work as well. Do you know how to programme in Drupal? Are you willing to learn? If you do then I can hook you up with a potential employer. I also know people in San Francisco but I think that SF is a bad idea for you.
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That sucks, I go to events by myself often and meet people all the time. That sounds so isolating.
EvilLocks
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I don't think he was comparing our situations, just saying that it's hard to meet new people in Scandinavia. My situation is hard, but everyone is unique here and we all have different problems - apart from hair loss, which unites us. It's not all dark and gloomy for me either, I have my own place and a job, a dog that I love and an amazing family. I also have a few good friends that I like to hang out with. I do art and photography and enjoy fashion. I'm not bad looking either. The fact that I have some health issues is something I have to deal with every day, even though some of my issues come and go. But I can walk, see and talk so I consider myself ''lucky'' Please don't pity me because I'm strong enough to handle it (barely).
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Getting to know people with actually befriending them is miles away for people here. You'll never be one of them only if you live for like 20 years maybe