Look At This Hot Guy And His Average Gf. People's Response Are So Mean

[blackg]

I know what you mean..and agree to an extent.

if you notice i rarely complain about my hair because even though it is devastating to me personally, and i am mostly scared of how it will progress.. i am also well aware that for a 45 year old woman i am lucky compared to others here because it's not very noticeable to others (still no topik needed), I'm responding pretty well to medication compared to most, and in my 20s and 30s was completely unaffected by any hair loss.

So it sucks don't get me wrong and i am devastated personally--but it would be like 'cry me a river' to constantly complain about it on here--but once in a while i share my thoughts/feelings and people are respectful and compassionate which is nice to read at those times i feel weak about it...I don't come here for constant sympathy or to express my anger, it's not 'why' i come here..I come here because it's people experiencing an issue, that although all different age/gender/lifestye/degree of hair loss, the core issue is still shared ..we are all affected by hair loss on a social level weather we are doing it to ourselves to some degree out of depression or a sense of loss or society is doing it to us via actual rejection. For me its the first not the second and I am fully aware of the difference.

I think BH was not that cognizant to his pain in relation to others here...Thats at least how it struck me..And it' not because he is a bad guy--it is more likely he is in such a place of deep pain that to him he just not thinking about how 'is this going to be a trigger for an incel who has it worse than me? '"
Because pain is a selfish emotion...not saying selfish in a bad way but pain makes it very difficult to stay aware of how its going to effect someone else because it can be overwhelming and desperate emotion.

For him his minimal hair loss impacted him hard mentally.
When he spoke about this Father, who sounds a lot like my own (I always told people I am so glad I was not a boy lol because my Father would have ground me down to nothing--and its probably why BH wants a daughter over a son because that relationship was probably so toxic to him)..Something happening to your looks when you have a Father or maybe a Mother like that--is incredibly difficult.

That was so well said, hairblues.
You're right. Pain is often so intense and also so personal that it can often completely blind us to our privilege.

I was more disappointed in the way some posters here rejected Baldhurts, than anything else.
I know he was good looking, but damn, he guy was in misery!
I considered him a brother in pain.
Not someone to be in competition with because of his looks.
Because that's what it all boils down to in the end.
That damned male ego!

 

[Xander94]

You're over 6 feet tall, you have a Nw1.5 hairline, and you've said that you have no obvious deformities.

Your incorrect attitude is that there's no point in trying if you don't look like Lachowski.

You are, for whatever reason, choosing to remain unhappy. You would also likely benefit from therapy but you're choosing to receive that benefit.

I refuse to live my life to please women. Why should I change what have they done for me? They won't care I am expendable.

 

[hairblues]

Yes I did pilates for a while and it was predominantly older women.
I thought the exercises were too easy. It's not strenuous. I wouldn't do it long-term.

Yoga, in contrast, is hard. Particularly Ashtanga for example. I can see myself getting a different body if I did it long term, and did it regularly.

Yoga is great but you are taking wrong type of pilates class...Mat pilates if for old people and disabled people. Literally first designed to help disabled army vets who were wounded. Later redesigned and expanded to help dancers.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I refuse to live my life to please women. Why should I change what have they done for me? They won't care I am expendable.

Either way, you're not an incel.

 

[Xander94]

Either way, you're not an incel.

Im not attractive either just average joe.

 

[blackg]

I refuse to live my life to please women. Why should I change what have they done for me? They won't care I am expendable.

Yeah but one day a woman will come along and totally intoxicate you.
Then you will question everything about yourself.

Oh.. and your first mistake is by referring to women as "they." Like all women are this one big homogeneous group that all think and act the same.

They don't. And "they" don't hate you either.
Give it some thought.

 

[Dante92]

Nevertheless, nobody has yet explained why he was actually banned. No motivation.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

By the way, for anybody who doesn't want to "please women", or whatever.

I think the healthier relationships out there involve a lot of give and take.

I suppose that may conflict with the idea of looking like Lachowski, just lying down on the couch all day while a sequence of beautiful women that you don't know bring you gifts for the opportunity to suck your dick, and thus you experience "true happiness".

If you actually care about somebody, you'll enjoy doing nice things for them.

 

[SmoothSailing]

I refuse to live my life to please women. Why should I change what have they done for me? They won't care I am expendable.

Well then don't change. Just know you are making that decision. So you are voluntarily celibate.

This is kind of like men go there own way.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Im not attractive either just average joe.

Extremely unlikely.

You're over 6 feet.
You have good hair.
No deformities.
Various women on this site said you're a 6 or 7.

 

[Xander94]

Well then don't change. Just know you are making that decision. So you are voluntarily celibate.

This is kind of like men go there own way.

This is what I don't like in todays world either you conform or die/be isolated. Im too stubborn to conform with the norm. I wanna do my own thing.

Extremely unlikely.

You're over 6 feet.
You have good hair.
No deformities.
Various women on this site said you're a 6 or 7.

In the country Im in currently those are very average characteristics.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

In the country Im in currently those are very average characteristics.

OK fine if you live in Holland being 6'0 is an average characteristic for a man.

 

[SmoothSailing]

If you actually care about somebody, you'll enjoy doing nice things for them.

Not to sound faggy but I always enjoy doing nice things for people so long as they are grateful and not just using me.

This is what I don't like in todays world either you conform or die/be isolated. Im too stubborn to conform with the norm. I wanna do my own thing.

Nothing wrong with this."Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

If you socialize it's very likely you will find a girl who will like you for who you are, you'll need patience though,.

 

[Dench57]

This is what I don't like in todays world either you conform or die/be isolated. Im too stubborn to conform with the norm. I wanna do my own thing.

Cope

You've been rated above average by women on this site. You are an incel because you can't talk to women, you admitted that. You've choked on the blackpill and gone full aspie from hanging on lookism too long

 

[Xander94]

Cope

You've been rated above average by women on this site. You are an incel because you can't talk to women, you admitted that. You've choked on the blackpill and gone full aspie from hanging on lookism too long

Can't talk to women because there's nothing I can talk to them about that they would show interest in. Only good discussions I had was with friends of my mother who are respected 50 year old doctors.

My sisters friends on the other hand....

 

[hairblues]

I refuse to live my life to please women. Why should I change what have they done for me? They won't care I am expendable.

You are biologically programmed to please women you are attracted too.

You are angry at women because you (feel/believe/know) women are not attracted to you and you (feel/believe/know) you cant have them or at least not the ones you want...which feel unnatural to men because men biologically have need of women.

So you are pissed off bitter and resentful and would like to see women 'punished' (punished just meaning rejected or treated poorly) in some way so they don't 'seem' as powerful to you...because the end of the day you resent the biological drive they hold over men--and the power men biologically give to attractive women.

 

[Dench57]

Can't talk to women because there's nothing I can talk to them about that they would show interest in.

kittens and make up

 

[blackg]

By the way, for anybody who doesn't want to "please women", or whatever.

I think the healthier relationships out there involve a lot of give and take.

I suppose that may conflict with the idea of looking like Lachowski, just lying down on the couch all day while a sequence of beautiful women that you don't know bring you gifts for the opportunity to suck your dick, and thus you experience "true happiness".

If you actually care about somebody, you'll enjoy doing nice things for them.

Yep, you're right, Dave.
Give and take in a relationship is essential. Nothing gets old quicker then a one way type of relationship.
You need that give and take dynamic, an intellectual equal, and a healthy amount of respect for each other.

 

[Xander94]

You are biologically programmed to please women you are attracted too.

You are angry at women because you (feel/believe/know) women are not attracted to you and you (feel/believe/know) you cant have them or at least not the ones you want...which feel unnatural to men because men biologically have need of women.

So you are pissed off bitter and resentful and would like to see women 'punished' (punished just meaning rejected or treated poorly) in some way so they don't 'seem' as powerful to you...because the end of the day you resent the biological drive they hold over men--and the power men biologically give to attractive women.

Yes that was the first step but it's different now.

 

[blackg]

This is what I don't like in todays world either you conform or die/be isolated. Im too stubborn to conform with the norm. I wanna do my own thing.


In the country Im in currently those are very average characteristics.

So, I take it you're unemployed?