I've had enough of this **** online dating. 3 women said yes to a date but then never took my phone number or gave theirs. Why in the world would you do this? Why wouldn't you, as a woman, put in less effort by not replying to my messages, and not saying yes to a date. Why waste your own time in order to waste mine? Maybe it's just that time of year. I had a lot of these things this time last year, and am noticing that
@Afro_Vacancy is having the same.
The sad thing is that online is the only chance we have. You can read all of this nonsense online about how you can meet a woman by joining a cooking class or something. All of the examples of men who met their partner through this kind of medium is where the man is a chad and was approached by the woman. In general, women do not approach men and if you want to join an initiative like a cooking class, you'd have to use game and approach yourself. If you don't want to do that a feel like you're being awkward then guess what...you have to go online.
I take cooking classes to learn about cooking. I've never gotten a date from it. I discuss some anecdotes though.
The first one that I ever went to was almost entirely men. I remember that one of the guys was there because his wife had died, and he didn't know how to feed himself.
One time a lesbian couple said that they wanted to fix me up with their straight female friend. I said ok, sure. They later asked me if it was ok if the woman had a son. I said sure, maybe, how old is he? They told me that the son was ~25. They wanted to fix me up with a 55 year old woman. I said no thank you, that I wanted to have children.
In general, there are a lot of attractive women in their 20s and 30s who show up to these cooking classes. They come with their boyfriends and husbands, it's like a date night.
A while back, an absolutely stunning woman was there with ... her dad. She was single. She works part-time as a yoga instructor. I tried speaking to her, she didn't give me the time of day. She was however flirting with another man there, so it happens. That man was better looking than I am, he was African American with very large bones and muscles. Note that she would not have flirted with me if the hot guy was not there. If no hot guy had been present, she simply would not have flirted with anybody.
One time, I was in a class with a very handsome, charismatic, and competent instructor. The man had worked in restaurants all over the world, was now a software developer during the week and a cooking instructor on the weekends. He was tall, athletic, with great hair. A lot of the women laughed at all of his jokes, and it wasn't even giggling, it was more like "hehehehe aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh ", I'm sure you guys know what I mean. I don't hold it against him though, he's a great guy and a terrific instructor.
However, it's a great hobby to improve one's cooking skills. As far as I know, you should pursue hobbies for the hobbies, and not to meet women. There are no worthwhile hobbies if the goal is to meet women while doing the hobby.
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Meeting women in real life is something that works in high school and college, when a large fraction of them are single.
"Meet women in real life" is a meme because a lot of dating advice is written by very good looking people, and a lot of it by women who can flip a switch and meet people in real life. The advice represents their truth, their reality.
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ETA: As for the phone numbers, there are multiple reasons that they're not sharing phone numbers. One is that their commitment to even a measly date is not full. They might change their mind quickly, whereas exchanging a phone number makings things official. Two, it's easier to ghost you if you don't share phone numbers. She can just delete you on the app. You might be giving off creeper vibes, or she might just assume that every guy is a creeper.
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