Reactivated My Dating Profiles, Trying To Be Enthusiastic Without Being Obsessed

[Afro_Vacancy]

what kind of meals do you cook in that classes? I tried to cook indian food and it's perfect tbh

All of the food is raw, vegan, gluten-free, soy-free, peanut-free, spice-free, salt-free, fat-free, and organic.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

what kind of meals do you cook in that classes? I tried to cook indian food and it's perfect tbh

The meals vary as they have dozens of classes. One fun class I took recently was on making chili. I've made chili myself before on multiple occasions, but because this was a class we got to make five different chillies, there were five different approaches and so I saw a lot of things that I wouldn't have guessed. For example, mushroom chili works.

Another class was on pie baking and we tried several of the crusts at once. The classic crust is flour, butter, water, and salt, where you keep everything cold. There are then additional options where you add an egg, some milk, some sugar, etc which give the pie different texture. If you make ~10 pies in a class and you take a small piece of several you can try a few things.

I took a fall vegetables class recently, which was about vegetables that grow in North America in the fall. One recipe that I've reproduced a few times is squash delicata agrodolce. You'll like it, it's very spicy, squash (call pumpkin in the UK and Australia) is nicely complemented by spiciness.

I have a class coming up on chicken. We're going to go over five different ways to cook a chicken. I'm looking forward to that. Chicken by itself is pretty boring, it needs to be complemented by other flavors and textures.

 

[rclark]

Lmao, you're not wrong!

I literally don't have any real standards when it comes to dating/hooking up, but I could never be with a girl who is a single mom (at least at my age of 24).

I've heard, that DIVORCE pussy is the most FRIENDLIEST PUSSY.

But who knows, the only way to find out is to become a HOME WRECKER.

 

[blackg]

Do you like Huey Lewis And The News? Their early work was a little too new wave for my tastes, but when Sports came out in '83, I think they really came into their own, commercially and artistically. The whole album has a clear, crisp sound, and a new sheen of consummate professionalism that really gives the songs a big boost. He's been compared to Elvis Costello, but I think Huey has a far more bitter, cynical sense of humor.

Are you freaking serious! I've never pictured you as a Huey Lewis fan.

I thought you'd only be into stuff like Britain's Got Talent, and maybe Tove Lo.

 

[blackg]

I've heard, that DIVORCE pussy is the most FRIENDLIEST PUSSY.

But who knows, the only way to find out is to become a HOME WRECKER.

Those divorcees go hard between the sheets.

 

[rclark]

Those divorcees go hard between the sheets.

You've gone TOO far @blackg on that one, you should be ashamed of yourself.

 

[rclark]

Do you like Huey Lewis And The News? Their early work was a little too new wave for my tastes, but when Sports came out in '83, I think they really came into their own, commercially and artistically. The whole album has a clear, crisp sound, and a new sheen of consummate professionalism that really gives the songs a big boost. He's been compared to Elvis Costello, but I think Huey has a far more bitter, cynical sense of humor.

To be honest, I have to disagree with you. I think they put a HUGE EFFORT AND THOUGHT into all of their lyrics. There definitely workaholics. Let's see..

DO YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE? Do you believe
it's true? Do YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE, .. BECAUSE YOU'RE MAKING ME BELIEVE IT TO!

OOOH OOOH OOOH ooo OOH OOH, OOOOH OOH ooh oooh OOOH OOOH!

OOOH OOOH OOOH ooo OOH OOH, OOOOH OOH ooh OOOH OOOH OOOH!

Do you believe in Love? Do you believe it's true? Do you believe in love?

BECAUSE YOU'RE MAKING ME BELIEVE IT TO!​

 

[DoctorHouse]

Trying to remember Huey Lewis lyrics are really hard. Let's see, DO YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE? Do you believe
it's true?
Do YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE, .. BECAUSE YOU'RE MAKING ME BELIEVE IT TO!

OOOH OOOH OOOH ooo OOH OOH, OOOOH OOH ooh oooh OOOH OOOH!

OOOH OOOH OOOH ooo OOH OOH, OOOOH OOH ooh OOOH OOOH OOOH!

Do you believe in Love? Do you believe it's true? Do you believe in love?

BECAUSE YOU'RE MAKING ME BELIEVE IT TO!​

I like his music in Back to the Future. He did a cameo in it too.

 

[Calchas]

You lucky bastard!

Lucky is evened with unlucky in my case(depression,baldness)...I wish luck was generous with me in everything.

 

[doubleindemnity]

I take cooking classes to learn about cooking. I've never gotten a date from it. I discuss some anecdotes though.

The first one that I ever went to was almost entirely men. I remember that one of the guys was there because his wife had died, and he didn't know how to feed himself.

One time a lesbian couple said that they wanted to fix me up with their straight female friend. I said ok, sure. They later asked me if it was ok if the woman had a son. I said sure, maybe, how old is he? They told me that the son was ~25. They wanted to fix me up with a 55 year old woman. I said no thank you, that I wanted to have children.

In general, there are a lot of attractive women in their 20s and 30s who show up to these cooking classes. They come with their boyfriends and husbands, it's like a date night.

A while back, an absolutely stunning woman was there with ... her dad. She was single. She works part-time as a yoga instructor. I tried speaking to her, she didn't give me the time of day. She was however flirting with another man there, so it happens. That man was better looking than I am, he was African American with very large bones and muscles. Note that she would not have flirted with me if the hot guy was not there. If no hot guy had been present, she simply would not have flirted with anybody.

One time, I was in a class with a very handsome, charismatic, and competent instructor. The man had worked in restaurants all over the world, was now a software developer during the week and a cooking instructor on the weekends. He was tall, athletic, with great hair. A lot of the women laughed at all of his jokes, and it wasn't even giggling, it was more like "hehehehe aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh ", I'm sure you guys know what I mean. I don't hold it against him though, he's a great guy and a terrific instructor.

However, it's a great hobby to improve one's cooking skills. As far as I know, you should pursue hobbies for the hobbies, and not to meet women. There are no worthwhile hobbies if the goal is to meet women while doing the hobby.

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Meeting women in real life is something that works in high school and college, when a large fraction of them are single.

"Meet women in real life" is a meme because a lot of dating advice is written by very good looking people, and a lot of it by women who can flip a switch and meet people in real life. The advice represents their truth, their reality.

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ETA: As for the phone numbers, there are multiple reasons that they're not sharing phone numbers. One is that their commitment to even a measly date is not full. They might change their mind quickly, whereas exchanging a phone number makings things official. Two, it's easier to ghost you if you don't share phone numbers. She can just delete you on the app. You might be giving off creeper vibes, or she might just assume that every guy is a creeper.

I knew that this cooking class advice was all nonsense. I don't understand, however, why men are out there giving out ineffective advice. We know that women will do it, but how can a self-respecting man advise a guy to take up a cooking class to meet women when it is clearly ineffective.

I understand the latter (creeper stuff) but why am I getting so many who change their mind now... it never happened a few months back. If they didn't want a date, they just would say nothing or say no. It's very strange that they said that meeting up would sound good and then went silent. Obviously they have changed their mind but how and why... I've had women wait around 8 weeks for a date with me after saying yes and then show up after all that wait (because of scheduling difficulties). So I do find it strange when a woman says yes but does not follow through.

I had 2 dates this week. Both went well, probably better than all of my dates this year. In both of them, the woman told me intimate details about herself, was laughing a lot at my jokes and we were lightly teasing each other as the date went on. One of them noticed my muscles too. In one of the dates, there was a huge difference between the awkwardness when we first greeted to the comfort and rapport at the end of the date. She was a real tough cookie and I formed a connection with her, I thought. I could be reading it wrongly but these are almost empirical facts here. I've contacted them again and, as expected, one of them has gone silent, while the other has said that there wasn't a connection. The moral of the story is that you simply can not overcome deficiencies in looks (a NW6 in my case) with a good connection, personality etc.

As a NW6, you're not considered a serious dating option. As soon as a woman notices that you're a NW6 and not a NW2 buzzcutter, she has made up her mind. But a woman won't just leave the date as soon as she shows up and notices it simply because she enjoys a date night. That's true even if the NW6 makes her pay some of the bill. But when the NW6 asks for any kind of commitment or investment from her beyond that date, he won't get it.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I understand the latter (creeper stuff) but why am I getting so many who change their mind now... it never happened a few months back. If they didn't want a date, they just would say nothing or say no. It's very strange that they said that meeting up would sound good and then went silent. Obviously they have changed their mind but how and why... I've had women wait around 8 weeks for a date with me after saying yes and then show up after all that wait (because of scheduling difficulties). So I do find it strange when a woman says yes but does not follow through.

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People are quite complex. When I broke up with my ex I was emotionally all over the place. I sometimes set up dates and then cancelled them because when I was flirting I felt optimistic about meeting someone and then later i'd feel negative and cancel.

You just don't know where these people are - sometimes they just had a break up and they go on tinder to just see whats out there.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I had two dates in a row where I kissed a woman and made out at the end. This week I have three dates in three nights, which began tonight.

1) I mentioned the woman who works in medicine a few posts back. We were supposed to meet yesterday, she was going to come to my apartment and we were going to drink wine together, but she had to scrub in on an emergency surgery. I discussed this with somebody today and it was recommended to me that I not get back in touch with her, that I wait for her to get in touch. So I did that, she got in touch today to let me know what happened.

I'm not sure how I feel about her. She seems to like me a lot, and she has a decent body, but I'm not feeling it? I'll see how it goes, either way I'm not seeing her soon, as I'm going out of town this weekend, and next week there's a lot going on.

2) I went on a date tonight with a history PhD student. We talked for a few hours, she's very progressive, political, serious, kind of a female version of me in that sense which is a turnoff, she's very intellectual, ugh. We talked about serious issues so I tried to lighten up the mood to talking instead about movies, dating, travel, etc. I asked her to name the three places that she'd most like to travel to, and we both have Italy and India in our top three. I walked her to her apartment at the end, we made out, she was very enthusiastic and she grabbed me a little bit, she said that she had a great time and that I should call her.

It was a bit surprising, but while making out with her I actually felt a bit of blood rush to my dick. I guess that the new drugs that I'm on are working.

3) I'm meeting another woman tomorrow night. She's about my age, she's hot, she's ethnic, she's smart, she's artsy, and she's into dogs.

4) I'm meeting a different woman on Wednesday. We were going to meet two weeks ago or but she got sick. When she was sick I offered to drop her off some Kleenex and groceries outside her door, the context was that I had just been sick and knew what it was like, she thanks and said that this was sweet. Anyway we're meeting Wednesday, we both like a place that I have not been to in a year. She looks like she has a great rack too, but it's hard to tell for sure because her pictures are blurry.

This weekend I'm going out of town. This is a large-enough supply of woman that I'm refraining from accumulating additional contacts. Of the four women listed above, two are from bumble, one is from tinder, and one is from Jswipe. It's a lot to manage, which has reduced the time available for going to yoga or for fasting.

 

[Exodus2011]

I had two dates in a row where I kissed a woman and made out at the end. This week I have three dates in three nights, which began tonight.

1) I mentioned the woman who works in medicine a few posts back. We were supposed to meet yesterday, she was going to come to my apartment and we were going to drink wine together, but she had to scrub in on an emergency surgery. I discussed this with somebody today and it was recommended to me that I not get back in touch with her, that I wait for her to get in touch. So I did that, she got in touch today to let me know what happened.

I'm not sure how I feel about her. She seems to like me a lot, and she has a decent body, but I'm not feeling it? I'll see how it goes, either way I'm not seeing her soon, as I'm going out of town this weekend, and next week there's a lot going on.

2) I went on a date tonight with a history PhD student. We talked for a few hours, she's very progressive, political, serious, kind of a female version of me in that sense which is a turnoff, she's very intellectual, ugh. We talked about serious issues so I tried to lighten up the mood to talking instead about movies, dating, travel, etc. I asked her to name the three places that she'd most like to travel to, and we both have Italy and India in our top three. I walked her to her apartment at the end, we made out, she was very enthusiastic and she grabbed me a little bit, she said that she had a great time and that I should call her.

It was a bit surprising, but while making out with her I actually felt a bit of blood rush to my dick. I guess that the new drugs that I'm on are working.

3) I'm meeting another woman tomorrow night. She's about my age, she's hot, she's ethnic, she's smart, she's artsy, and she's into dogs.

4) I'm meeting a different woman on Wednesday. We were going to meet two weeks ago or but she got sick. When she was sick I offered to drop her off some Kleenex and groceries outside her door, the context was that I had just been sick and knew what it was like, she thanks and said that this was sweet. Anyway we're meeting Wednesday, we both like a place that I have not been to in a year. She looks like she has a great rack too, but it's hard to tell for sure because her pictures are blurry.

This weekend I'm going out of town. This is a large-enough supply of woman that I'm refraining from accumulating additional contacts. Of the four women listed above, two are from bumble, one is from tinder, and one is from Jswipe. It's a lot to manage, which has reduced the time available for going to yoga or for fasting.

why would a politically female version of you be a turn off?

sounds like youre making good progress though. has losing your virginity to a prostitute had anything to do with improving things? making you more confident on dates or anything?

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

why would a politically female version of you be a turn off?

sounds like youre making good progress though. has losing your virginity to a prostitute had anything to do with improving things? making you more confident on dates or anything?

I think that it was worth doing, and I recommend it to others if they're in a situation where they can see a good prostitute. There's no substitute for genuine experience.

I also (might?) have better pics, I manipulate the algorithm better, I have a better profile text, and I'm growing a beard.

 

[CaptainForehead]

I
I manipulate the algorithm better, I have a better profile text,

How are you manipulating the algorithm, and what improvements have you made to the text?

I had two dates in a row where I kissed a woman and made out at the end. This week I have three dates in three nights, which began tonight.

You sl*t

It was a bit surprising, but while making out with her I actually felt a bit of blood rush to my dick. I guess that the new drugs that I'm on are working.

What drugs are these?

 

[JohnsonDDG]

2) I went on a date tonight with a history PhD student. We talked for a few hours, she's very progressive, political, serious, kind of a female version of me in that sense which is a turnoff, she's very intellectual, ugh. We talked about serious issues so I tried to lighten up the mood to talking instead about movies, dating, travel, etc. I asked her to name the three places that she'd most like to travel to, and we both have Italy and India in our top three. I walked her to her apartment at the end, we made out, she was very enthusiastic and she grabbed me a little bit, she said that she had a great time and that I should call her.

WTF?!?!

Why don't you want an intelligent woman?

That's the only woman I think you would be happy with and the type of woman who would admire you.

 

[IdealForehead]

WTF?!?!

Why don't you want an intelligent woman?

That's the only woman I think you would be happy with and the type of woman who would admire you.

Yeah but Afro's not ready to settle down yet. That girl has commitment and marriage material written all over her. And Afro just wants to sow his wild oats. Maybe in a few years. For now he needs someone more exciting.

I like that we've now got our very own Hairlosstalk drama/sitcom going.

"The Life of Afro"

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Yeah but Afro's not ready to settle down yet. That girl has commitment and marriage material written all over her. And Afro just wants to sow his wild oats. Maybe in a few years. For now he needs someone more exciting.

I like that we've now got our very own Hairlosstalk drama/sitcom going.

"The Life of Afro"

Isnt he like 36?

 

[IdealForehead]

Isnt he like 36?

Yeah well he's got some catching up to do. Guys like him and I are legit manchildren.

It's one of the consequences of not growing up a SuperChad like you Johnny Boy. We've all got catching up to do ...

Afro's just hitting his stride by the sound of things. Dude's got a more active dating life than anyone I know right now. Gotta find some girls that are exciting for a while first.

 

[CaptainForehead]

I thought Afro was 33