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I wish I had women harassing me everytime I went out.
The Frequent "official" Origin Of My Recent Failures With Women
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ah watch it then the guy might be an incel and go ER on you. Hope nothing happens.
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The woman I met this week did write back to me, to say that doesn't think that we have the connection that she's looking for. Enough f*****g disappointment from f*****g women, I'm taking a break. I've had 11, 12 dates this year or so, the ones that I wanted to meet again didn't want to meet me and vice versa. My threshold for success are the obese girls and the women older than me. I've removed my stagnant matches from bumble and tinder, I might log on again but not for a while.
In hindsight the date argued with me on a bunch of things, I'm not sure if I should have argued back, I didn't. Arguing back makes me look argumentative, not arguing makes me look like a doormat, but probably it doesn't matter as the fact she kept contradicting me on stuff means she wasn't interested so my behaviour is ultimately irrelevant. For example I knew she liked to travel to Asia, so a few minutes into her date I mention that Japan is the Asian country I most want to see. She says "of course, it's the most modern, most western" which is a really baseless and condescending assumption. I asked her about her dating experiences, at first she said she didn't want to come off as a b**ch and then I got her to open up. She says she sees a lot of medical residents, she likes the idea of being with a doctor but they're too busy with work, she doesn't want to wait six years for company, which is what her mother tells her to do. She also said that some of them are not as smart as one would expect. She says she never sees Attendings on the dating apps, which means that by the end of medical school the residents find partners in spite of always being busy.
What it comes down to, with this few-months dating experience, on the plus side, i did get experience and i did know that at least obese women will be interested in me, as they have no other options. I saw a bit of the range in women's behaviour which is mostly due to whether or not they're attracted, and not their intrinsic personality. I did get to see different restaurants and movies too, and also Lego Batman. I'm in my 30s now, so colleagues at work rarely want to go out as they go home to their families after work.
On the downside, it actually does affect my ego to be so rigidly rejected, so consistently, so I need a break. I'm no longer as confident in other aspects of life. In general, people say "have more confidence", but it's not a switch one can just dial up or down. I'm cognizant of my successes and failures. Confidence will go up if I have successes and go down if I have failures. When people think they're attracted to confidence, there's a bit of truth, but mostly they're attracted to the person who is so awesome that they know success very well.
I have other things I could be doing. I'd like to do more research for a while, and start volounteering more, and cooking more, and exercising more. It will improve my temperament. It's also an issue that this obsession with looks and dating is vain and personality-destroying. Good looking people find love effortlessly, so they can focus on interesting things that matter like watching movies, travelling, their careers, etc.
In terms of looks, I'm almost done losing weight and can finally buy clothes soon, my modest regrowth is maintaining, I've started invisalign, and I've started exercising after a post-surgery break. I'm also on a course of antibiotics to get rid of acne on my upper back and shoulders, not something women care about but it bothers me and the use of f*****g creams is a distraction and changes what clothes I can wear. Surgical options include LASIK, hair transplant, and a rhinoplasty, but the cost is prohibitive as I need a financial savings buffer given my lack of a safety net, and it's hard to know what effect these will have. I am at the point of worrying that the benefit will be minimal.
In hindsight the date argued with me on a bunch of things, I'm not sure if I should have argued back, I didn't. Arguing back makes me look argumentative, not arguing makes me look like a doormat, but probably it doesn't matter as the fact she kept contradicting me on stuff means she wasn't interested so my behaviour is ultimately irrelevant. For example I knew she liked to travel to Asia, so a few minutes into her date I mention that Japan is the Asian country I most want to see. She says "of course, it's the most modern, most western" which is a really baseless and condescending assumption. I asked her about her dating experiences, at first she said she didn't want to come off as a b**ch and then I got her to open up. She says she sees a lot of medical residents, she likes the idea of being with a doctor but they're too busy with work, she doesn't want to wait six years for company, which is what her mother tells her to do. She also said that some of them are not as smart as one would expect. She says she never sees Attendings on the dating apps, which means that by the end of medical school the residents find partners in spite of always being busy.
What it comes down to, with this few-months dating experience, on the plus side, i did get experience and i did know that at least obese women will be interested in me, as they have no other options. I saw a bit of the range in women's behaviour which is mostly due to whether or not they're attracted, and not their intrinsic personality. I did get to see different restaurants and movies too, and also Lego Batman. I'm in my 30s now, so colleagues at work rarely want to go out as they go home to their families after work.
On the downside, it actually does affect my ego to be so rigidly rejected, so consistently, so I need a break. I'm no longer as confident in other aspects of life. In general, people say "have more confidence", but it's not a switch one can just dial up or down. I'm cognizant of my successes and failures. Confidence will go up if I have successes and go down if I have failures. When people think they're attracted to confidence, there's a bit of truth, but mostly they're attracted to the person who is so awesome that they know success very well.
I have other things I could be doing. I'd like to do more research for a while, and start volounteering more, and cooking more, and exercising more. It will improve my temperament. It's also an issue that this obsession with looks and dating is vain and personality-destroying. Good looking people find love effortlessly, so they can focus on interesting things that matter like watching movies, travelling, their careers, etc.
In terms of looks, I'm almost done losing weight and can finally buy clothes soon, my modest regrowth is maintaining, I've started invisalign, and I've started exercising after a post-surgery break. I'm also on a course of antibiotics to get rid of acne on my upper back and shoulders, not something women care about but it bothers me and the use of f*****g creams is a distraction and changes what clothes I can wear. Surgical options include LASIK, hair transplant, and a rhinoplasty, but the cost is prohibitive as I need a financial savings buffer given my lack of a safety net, and it's hard to know what effect these will have. I am at the point of worrying that the benefit will be minimal.
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Good to hear you were able to beat your fears. So many people grow up afraid of dogs, and never overcome it.
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A 4.73/10 with 49 votes:
Take my picture OFF. I find that highly offensive. How would you feel if you were bald,
in your forties, and white with no hope and prospects?
Very insensitive David, seriously.
DANTE92, stop LAUGHING YOUR *** OFF! IT's not funny. This will be you in FIVE YEARS!
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I've gotten almost excellent on my native language final exam which is much more comprehensive than english and anyway I do not discriminate people on their grammar. Let alone non-native speakers.
And yes, you are attention wh*** and retard without any detected hairloss by tons of photo you've posted. What reaction do you expect from people who got baldness sickness for real?
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rclark has taken over the top spot for biggest shitposter here. Sunchyme will have to up his game.
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And as always your reports are so wise.
If you knew how much time I lost in my early twenties trying to fix my hair so that it did not look shitty... while people actually lived.
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now you have 3 dislikes b**ch
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The Flash and Arrow is an epitome of autism. The way characters behave is retarded in many ways... That's why we love CW tv shows tho.
She is very sexual appealing. Make up, lighting and face (esp. zygos).
Even fat girls?
Was reading this with a glass of Georgian wine (not USA state).
Mirin at persistence in rejection-retry-rejection cycle.
Bad argument. You don't need to be able to write grammatically correct English in order to correctly deduce what others are saying. Many on this forum are not native English speakers and incorrect grammar is to be expected especially because we are simply posting on a forum, not writing an essay for an English class. We can afford to be careless with grammar or spelling here. What matters the most is the content of argument that we make in debates, not grammar. So get off your high horse.
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Im sorry David its over. Time to join me Dante Exodus Cope and the others and build a monastery.
Atleast we'll be happy and have eachother. We'll spend our days planting trees or some sh*t.
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I have the correct understanding but not on this language, what's wrong with you? Do you really extrapolating lack of knowledge in foreign language onto other parts of life?
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agree she was one of the strongest models in late 70s early 80s. Beautiful.
that era you had to be tall, skinny with an almost perfect face to model.
David not only is trying with all his strength, but he'll eventually succeed. He's looksmaxing and desperately trying to improve, and that's gonna pay off. Not with online dating, of course, but it will anyway. I have nothing but respect for him for this.
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Is there a Georgia outside the USA?
Oh right, now I remember, that's the place that President Bush rescued from Vladimir Putin in 1997 ! Russia spontaneously invaded Georgia, Bush stared them down and the Russian troops retreated to the Russia - South Ossetia border.
J/K ;-)
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What is this unexpected optimism from the likes of Dante ?