Your judging him, simple as that. The thing is, although I don't cheat on my wife, it's because I have kids.
Also I have a daughter. She will judge other men on my relationship with her mom.
Why shouldn't a father have a say in their own kid...
I cut you off just where it doesn't matter, and I've already explained this but you just ploughed on regardless, Buckthorn also explained this:
HE
DIDN'T
KNOW
If he could have predicted the future, and realised she'd have an abortion, or lie about an abortion, or whatever happened, then at least your argument would be justified, but it doesn't matter. For all he knew he was happy with his perfect love, and he decided to cheat on her, despite the fact there is always the possibility she could find out and be heart broken.
Now as for your first sentence, you don't cheat because you have kids- but Fred's justified his point because he
definitely wouldn't get caught, so what's stopping you?
The point being, you can always get caught, there is always a way, and you shouldn't be that selfish to risk it, and actually you shouldn't
want to **** another woman anyway, I'm not judging anyone for
wanting to because yes men do repress their polygamy, but actually intending to go through with it is a different story. I'll judge the hell out of that, because that's where people should be ashamed for messing with other people's lives because of their own idiocy and selfishness.
In this case Fred could have carried on cheating (and judging by how little remorse he has and how he see's nothing wrong with it, no doubt he would have) and went on in the future to ruin his wife's life, their children's, mess with her side of the family, her friends, his own family and friends who have to stick through hearing about his "heartbroken" bull****, all because he thinks he's smart enough to let it out of his pants anonymously.
The most self-righteous people in the world always write "how dare you JUDGE!" as if it's this cardinal sin, when as social creatures we constantly judge! Don't deny that you or anyone else is any different, even judging on minor things, passive things, positive and negative judgements, please get off the high horse before throwing around pointless buzz-phrases in an actual debate. It's completely meaningless.
You just write "You're judging him- simple as that" and don't go on to actually explain why that's important? As if that's the end point I can't recover from? I don't really care either way if I'm viewed as judging anyone or not, my opinions have been stated and are clear as above, call it judging or whatever.
I'll judge if I want- don't judge me for it.