Was anyone else here a loser even before hair loss?

[Afro_Vacancy]

Well, I'd say I was a semi-loser. I've always had a few friends, been active with sports etc. so I wouldn't cast myself as a total loser. Girls have never shown any interest towards me, though.

Same as the OP for me. I am and have been a loser for women over the bulk of my life, with hairloss being noticeable only recently.

According to girls' online profiles i should be swimming in women as I have good hygiene, I don't live with my parents, I can spell, and I'm independent. Those things don't really matter though.

 

[Saurabhaj]

what is this OP...

 

[swingline747]

Far from it. Always had girls, always worked out, went to school and worked full time living on my own at an early age (so a hard dedicated worker).
But what I felt never made me a "loser" per say is I always fought back and "tried".
Honestly being a loser is really more how you feel about yourself and the attempts you take to correct your perceived short comings.
If you are in a slump then you feel like a loser. Very few people find that calling in life and go with it successfully. Very few people are born with fantastic looks. Even less have both.

Not getting women doesn't really make you a loser. Sitting around and doing NOTHING about something that irks you does.


"If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month." Theodore Roosevelt

 

[Exodus2011]

swing with dem pep talks! MOTI ****ING VATION. GET THE **** UP AND PUNCH GOD. GET RAPED BY A GORILLA. SPLIT THE EARTH IN TWO. **** A 50 FOOT WOMAN. SUCK ON A JOLLY RANCHER WITHOUT BITING INTO IT.

 

[Funkymonk1]

Far from it. Always had girls, always worked out, went to school and worked full time living on my own at an early age (so a hard dedicated worker).
But what I felt never made me a "loser" per say is I always fought back and "tried".
Honestly being a loser is really more how you feel about yourself and the attempts you take to correct your perceived short comings.
If you are in a slump then you feel like a loser. Very few people find that calling in life and go with it successfully. Very few people are born with fantastic looks. Even less have both.

Not getting women doesn't really make you a loser. Sitting around and doing NOTHING about something that irks you does.


"If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month." Theodore Roosevelt

This. I'm not sure I like this term "loser" its too judgemental. Sure, I'm short with low self esteem and can be shy and awkward around girls and in certain social situations. Would some people consider me a loser because of that? Maybe, but these things don't define me; they're only part of my personality. I'm also fairly intelligent, creative, musically gifted, work hard at my job, have a good set of friends and quite good looking (despite being shy I do actually get my share of attention from girls). I don't think dwelling only on what you perceive as the negative parts of yourself does any good. People are more complicated then that.

 

[I.D WALKER]

A full(er) head won't neutralize my other "character flaws", but I promise you that it will positively reenergize me and help me to address my personal issues more effectively so each one can be given a more proportionate degree of attention they fully deserve. So yes a fuller head of hair will produce greater mental and spiritual fulfillment in me, hence an overall sense of wellbeing; a primary ingredient to general success.

 

[EvilLocks]

First girlfriend at 17, and I was already thinning. Second one at 19 with a diffuse NW2.

But I thought you said you were a virgin until 21? Does that mean you didn't have sex with your first girlfriends?

 

[xetudor]

I haven't met any losers. There is one guy from college that I know, he doesn't care how he looks, never had a girlfriend, plays video games a lot but he has a high paying job and he's happy as ****.

I don't think very highly of people that dismiss others by saying they're "losers". Lose what? We all end up old ugly people and then die. We all lose in the end. We only have of short life and spending it thinking what others think is a waste of time.

 

[Abu Hairy Al-Forhedi]

"Nameless almighty"...

 

[Abu Hairy Al-Forhedi]

take it easy. I'm ****ing with you. I know how its like. Women approach me all the time... actually i've become lazy to approach a girl I like.

 

[nameless]

take it easy. I'm ****ing with you. I know how its like. Women approach me all the time... actually i've become lazy to approach a girl I like.

Cool!

I'm very excited about recent news. We already have Kerastem and now someone just posted that it appears that the Chinese have solved the trichogenicity problem.

 

[Abu Hairy Al-Forhedi]

idk, I dont trust chinese. Why are you changing subject? And how come you not ranting about SM?

 

[Abu Hairy Al-Forhedi]

As I'm sure you can imagaine, SM has disappointed me.

I wasn't specifically trying to change the subject actually. I was really just trying to make sure you're aware of the news about the Chinese. If the Chinese are correct
then they have achieved the breakthrough many of us are waiting for. Here's a link:

http://pubs.acs.org/doi/abs/10.1021/acsami.6b00202

Sorry to hear about SM. Been out of the loop... Chinese are famous for faking treatments.

 

[nameless]

Sorry to hear about SM. Been out of the loop... Chinese are famous for faking treatments.

I agree that we need to wait to see if other researchers can duplicate the Chinese results. But they are moving this technology into human studies now & remember that Japan has the fast approval
process for cell therapies and this new Chinese therapy for hair loss is a cellular therapy. I think it could be in the Japan market in 2019 and maybe sooner if some maverick doctors will grab it and
run with it.

 

[EvilLocks]

Jeez! That is so completely different from my experience. Women were all over me. I never had to pick-up a woman
when I had my hair.

When I was 15 my dad would get upset about the family phone ringing constantly. He would get very annoyed about it. My
parents went to the local phone store to get phone lines installed in every room in the house, including even the 2 bathrooms.

At first, we only had two phones - one in my parent's room and one in the kitchen. But about midway
through my 15th year many chicks started calling and calling and calling. My parents got tired of having to walk to one of the
two phones all day and night so they put phones in every room. It cost quite a bit of money to install all the new phone
lines, and they had a big phone bill each month. There were about 10 phones in that house. My dad used to gripe about the
phone constantly ringing and the expense of installing all of the phone lines and paying for all those phones each month
but my mom would brag about how popular I was.

I can't lie to you - I can not possibly relate to your situation. I'm sorry but I can't. Many, many chicks passed through my life
and I wasn't even trying. It could have been even more if I had tried. I was constantly, and I mean constantly, having to come
up with excuses not to get together with one woman or another. Many, many more chicks that I did not get involved with tried
to pick-up on me. I invented excuses not to get involved with them so I could keep from hurting their feelings. Some of those
I didn't get involved with were unattractive but many of them were attractive. There were reasons why I rejected the attractive
ones. I declined way WAY more women than they declined me. I was only rejected a handful of times but I politely said "no"
many, many more times than that.

Sorry.

HAHAHA

 

[Joan]

I've always had this "loser aura" because of my timidity. Even though on paper I'm not a loser, I still feel like I am.

I'll always be an underdog, not the unconditional winner I see some people become. Some people just always win and face no problems whatsoever.

But I'm OK with it. I've been all kinds of loser, "the loser who can't get a girl", "the bald loser", and now "the loser who can't get a job".

I can still cope by telling myself that at least my life story is interesting and that I've faced adversity. I don't know, maybe I idealize the life of others.

Plenty of people are timid, and even those who appear confident and outgoing sometimes are struggling on the inside and merely putting on an act. Being on the shy side doesn't make you a loser.

Not being able to get a girl (not that you have that problem anymore) doesn't make you a loser either. Look at how many beautiful/handsome celebrities are married several times and end up being single in the end. Why? They have money, fame, looks, charisma, so that shouldn't happen, but it does. All kinds of people have trouble with relationships, but that doesn't make them losers.

Being bald or anything we hate about our appearance doesn't make us losers either. We lost the genetic lottery, but we're not losers because of that.

You're not sitting on your *** all day, happily sponging off your parents with no goals in life. You are busting your butt looking for a job, and not having one at the moment does not make you a loser. If someone is healthy mentally and physically and chooses to milk the system, then that's another story.

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HAHAHA

I guess I wasn't the only one who found that funny!

 

[shookwun]

Crazy how some people can go from stud to dud from hair loss.

I believe Nameless.

I can't ever imagine him being a stud in his recent pictures, but I know for a fact that in his early years he pulled. He had the look, and aesthetics for that following era that all the women wanted.

 

[Joan]

Crazy how some people can go from stud to dud from hair loss.

I believe Nameless.

I can't ever imagine him being a stud in his recent pictures, but I know for a fact that in his early years he pulled. He had the look, and aesthetics for that following era that women all wanted.

I find it hard to believe that someone whose phone was literally ringing off the hook when he was young, who was the clone of Duncan James, and who had a fun, outgoing personality, cannot still attract women who are in his age bracket (mid-40s), regardless of his hair loss. He isn't fat or disheveled, I believe he has a good job, and he's not uneducated. Unless he will settle for nothing less than pretty women half his age, I don't see why he'd have any problems.

 

[shookwun]

I find it hard to believe that someone whose phone was literally ringing off the hook when he was young, who was the clone of Duncan James, and who had a fun, outgoing personality, cannot still attract women who are in his age bracket (mid-40s), regardless of his hair loss. He isn't fat or disheveled, I believe he has a good job, and he's not uneducated. Unless he will settle for nothing less than pretty women half his age, I don't see why he'd have any problems.

I think it's a matter of choice.


He's a true lone wolf. Doesn't need reassurance, dependence and validation of a female he's not even interested in. Settle for the best, forget the rest.

I actually commend him on having such character. A lot of men are weak at the knees, and will be with someone for the sake of not appearing, and being alone.


When he gets his hair back, I know he will go out and pull East Asian tail. He will merchant his way in their pants. Fifty for the baldo, twenty for handsome boy. Romance tours all across East Asia, and Europe.

 

[Exodus2011]

I haven't met any losers. There is one guy from college that I know, he doesn't care how he looks, never had a girlfriend, plays video games a lot but he has a high paying job and he's happy as ****.

I don't think very highly of people that dismiss others by saying they're "losers". Lose what? We all end up old ugly people and then die. We all lose in the end. We only have of short life and spending it thinking what others think is a waste of time.

so much truth. as long as you are a good person you are fine. thats what matters.