When you're in your 30's, you're finished

[Ourkes]

also i don't have much money is this bad? i'm 27 with barely nothing

Not at all, I had none till 31!!! Started doing very well at 36 from hard work, really went for it and it paid off. But it was a hard road. Nothing comes easy in life regardless of what people think.

 

[Feelsbadman]

Not at all, I had none till 31!!! Started doing very well at 36 from hard work, really went for it and it paid off. But it was a hard road. Nothing comes easy in life regardless of what people think.

thanks
how can i stp thinking that ill never get a girl or exprience what i had with my ex again though? it seems to hold me back in life?

 

[Oknow]

yea true, sometimes i tihnk things could of worked out because last time i checked her social media she had a boyfriend but now i never check t because i know it hurts me
but there's no way u can have relationships with girls like that right?

no

She will cheat on you once they get bored or insecure and start looking elseware

the girl I was seeing left me for another guy once she started feeling insecure in the relationship

thank god it never became serious or I had kids with her

 

[Oknow]

thanks
how can i stp thinking that ill never get a girl or exprience what i had with my ex again though? it seems to hold me back in life?

get professional help - therapy

 

[Ourkes]

thanks
how can i stp thinking that ill never get a girl or exprience what i had with my ex again though? it seems to hold me back in life?

At 27 you really notice what others are doing but you’re still very young. And you’re not nearly 30 until you are nearly 30 ie 29.5!!!!

To stop the thinking I just non stop focus on positive role models and take their advice. I block out all of the negativity now cus it doesn’t help one bit. I exercise, eat well, try to be kind to others and all of this helps me. You might benefit from cognitive behavioural therapy but you have to be fully open and committed to it. I have pretty much brain washed myself into positive thinking and actions, there are loads of resources on youtube. I also think you may benefit from a course of SSRIs to get you through - speak to your GP. Again, no shame in getting help when needed.

If people think i’m a positive brainwashed idiot, I don’t care, I changes my life for the better. Everyone can.

 

[Norwoodcel]

You need to imply wealth in your photos. If you are rich you buy things, hang out with rich people at rich places and take rich photos. Most online profiles include occupation. Tinder doesn't but other dating apps do. Use those. I always assumed tinder was for young people anyway which is why I wouldn't bother at 31.

Oh Plzzzz I've done all that a million times.
I have photos of my exotic faraway trips etc etc.. I've got photos of me wearing luxury designer clothes.
I am above average looking and 6ft. But i do have a norwood 2.5 and i have the buzz/shaved hairstyle.
Online dating is not for guys like me. It's for 8/10's.

I'm not bitching because i'm ugly or because online dating is hopeless.. i accept it's a young persons toy now. i'm just bitching about society in general.. The bars are all sausage fests.. it's nearly impossible to meet a woman in real life.. My confidence is screwed because of aforementioned apps.. I kind of know I'm not ugly.. but i kinda have doubts and fear of embarrassment, I think many men suffer with this.

I'll probably head to the bar later and watch the England football game.. it will be 90% men

In the week i might head to the pub in the afternoon for a few pints on my own.. 90% men

i am self employed but i am actively looking for a part-time bar job just so i can get some regular social contact

 

[I wont lose this]

By the looks of it, the life of some people here resolve around dating women on tinder or flirting. lmao

 

[Oknow]

Oh Plzzzz I've done all that a million times.
I have photos of my exotic faraway trips etc etc.. I've got photos of me wearing luxury designer clothes.
I am above average looking and 6ft. But i do have a norwood 2.5 and i have the buzz/shaved hairstyle.
Online dating is not for guys like me. It's for 8/10's.

I'm not bitching because i'm ugly or because online dating is hopeless.. i accept it's a young persons toy now. i'm just bitching about society in general.. The bars are all sausage fests.. it's nearly impossible to meet a woman in real life.. My confidence is screwed because of aforementioned apps.. I kind of know I'm not ugly.. but i kinda have doubts and fear of embarrassment, I think many men suffer with this.

I'll probably head to the bar later and watch the England football game.. it will be 90% men

In the week i might head to the pub in the afternoon for a few pints on my own.. 90% men

i am self employed but i am actively looking for a part-time bar job just so i can get some regular social contact

Norwood 2.5 and can’t pull?

I’m near about there and can

 

[Diffused_confidence]

thanks man but i dont see it happening? like where will i meet a girl like my ex?

Dm me pics. I'm turning into a transplant guru.

 

[doubleindemnity]

Norwood 2.5 and can’t pull?

I’m near about there and can

I'm also surprised. @Norwoodcel have you tried the usual crap that is recommended for people with hair? (NW2.5 you do have hair... thousands pay for transplants to get to Norwood 2.5 every year). That is dressing well, being in shape, working on social skills etc. etc.

 

[Norwoodcel]

I'm also surprised. @Norwoodcel have you tried the usual crap that is recommended for people with hair? (NW2.5 you do have hair... thousands pay for transplants to get to Norwood 2.5 every year). That is dressing well, being in shape, working on social skills etc. etc.

I will go to Istanbul when the pandemic is over and get hair transplant..

Not a big fan of lifting weights and gymcelling.. but I will get back to swimming regularly and doing cardio. Being lean helps my jawline a lot

 

[doubleindemnity]

I will go to Istanbul when the pandemic is over and get hair transplant..

Not a big fan of lifting weights and gymcelling.. but I will get back to swimming regularly and doing cardio. Being lean helps my jawline a lot

Do you really think that a Norwood 2.5 should be getting a hair transplant? If I were Norwood 2.5 I'd close my account on this forum and be actually living. Can Norwood 2.5 be that bad??

 

[Oknow]

I'm also surprised. @Norwoodcel have you tried the usual crap that is recommended for people with hair? (NW2.5 you do have hair... thousands pay for transplants to get to Norwood 2.5 every year). That is dressing well, being in shape, working on social skills etc. etc.

his problem is a lack of confidence

when I had better hair (NW1) with great density I couldn’t pull for sh*t

 

[Oknow]

I will go to Istanbul when the pandemic is over and get hair transplant..

Not a big fan of lifting weights and gymcelling.. but I will get back to swimming regularly and doing cardio. Being lean helps my jawline a lot

not going to the gym is your problem too

Being out of shape is as unattractive as being bald

the whole point about getting into shape is to look proportional for your height

Since getting into better shape , women make it easier for me, some become self conscious / intimidated when they can see I’m in better shape than them

 

[doubleindemnity]

his problem is a lack of confidence

when I had better hair (NW1) with great density I couldn’t pull for sh*t

But confidence doesn't come into it right? You go and introduce yourself (or your photos do it online) and from then it's decided whether you have a chance or not. Confidence only comes in when you have a chance and need to turn a meeting into a successful relationship.

not going to the gym is your problem too

Being out of shape is as unattractive as being bald

the whole point about getting into shape is to look proportional for your height

Since getting into better shape , women make it easier for me, some become self conscious / intimidated when they can see I’m in better shape than them

I wonder if this is the most extreme untruth that has been posted on the impact section!

 

[Oknow]

But confidence doesn't come into it right? You go and introduce yourself (or your photos do it online) and from then it's decided whether you have a chance or not. Confidence only comes in when you have a chance and need to turn a meeting into a successful relationship.


I wonder if this is the most extreme untruth that has been posted on the impact section!

You also need to have the confidence to create opportunities, he doesn’t

you reap what you sow

people on here attribute my success to hair forgetting that I have the confidence to really put myself out there

it sounds like my hair loss is similar to his , yet opposite results

 

[whatintheworld]

You also need to have the confidence to create opportunities, he doesn’t

you reap what you sow

people on here attribute my success to hair forgetting that I have the confidence to really put myself out there

it sounds like my hair loss is similar to his , yet opposite results

How do you know? Why don't you try shaving your head and seeing if your results are the same?

 

[Oknow]

How do you know? Why don't you try shaving your head and seeing if your results are the same?

He said he’s a NW2

 

[doubleindemnity]

@doubleindemnity you seem very well educated and interesting - even maybe a little eccentric, which can be a very cool trait. You just need to find someone on your wavelength and you’ll click, keep looking for them. Appreciate you have your views, but please bear in mind that being bald does not make anyone a ‘loser’, seriously. I have hair and have never looked at bald men as anything other than a man with a shaved head. I work in a male dominated environment, a mix of bald and non bald, many of the bald men are enjoying a very successful life and some not so much, the same can be said for those with hair, some are thriving, some are not.

@Feelsbadman you had a girlfriend, who had lots of sex with you, which means she was attracted to you. You’ve got to get back to that place, cus you were giving off some vibe back then that was bringing you success. Plus I just read you comment about the gym being boring and cringe if you’re over 25. I’m 42 and have been an avid gym goer since I was 20. At 42 I am fit and strong, the gym makes me feel better mentally and I have made many friends there. Whether you like it or not, staying in shape really helps in many ways in life. If you hate the gym, try something else active, I go out every weekend and scale hills, sometimes mountains, no one around but nature, feels great. What are your interests?

Also, take a look at the posts from the dude who was NW7 at a young age and posted pics on here a few days back of himself, claiming they were someone else, but then coming clean the pics are actually him. He is living a great life, maybe he can help give you direction.

Anyway, all the best to you both.

I say 'bald loser' not to label all bald people as losers but to talk about the majority of bald people, most of them here, who become losers because of their baldness. Being bald doesn't instantly make you a loser but you will probably end up losing in many areas of life when you are bald. That will make you a bald loser. I'm a bald loser and there are many here. Whenever I speak to people like the kind that you're describing the main message I get is that they'd give everything up to be young again. No matter how much money or success older guys have, they'd all love to be young. And bald people have their youth stripped away. They look 10 years older than our age and even if they look good, they can not experience young love or romance. I don't think that I will be very different when I am old; if I make myself a big success financially I would always wish that I could give it up to go back to the few years in my twenties when I had hair. So there are many ways to measure success and there are some ways to measure it where a bald guy will always come out a loser. I have found people with whom I click and get along well with. But I am not considered attractive. Like I keep saying, baldness throws a spanner in the works.

 

[Ourkes]

I say 'bald loser' not to label all bald people as losers but to talk about the majority of bald people, most of them here, who become losers because of their baldness. Being bald doesn't instantly make you a loser but you will probably end up losing in many areas of life when you are bald. That will make you a bald loser. I'm a bald loser and there are many here. Whenever I speak to people like the kind that you're describing the main message I get is that they'd give everything up to be young again. No matter how much money or success older guys have, they'd all love to be young. And bald people have their youth stripped away. They look 10 years older than our age and even if they look good, they can not experience young love or romance. I don't think that I will be very different when I am old; if I make myself a big success financially I would always wish that I could give it up to go back to the few years in my twenties when I had hair. So there are many ways to measure success and there are some ways to measure it where a bald guy will always come out a loser. I have found people with whom I click and get along well with. But I am not considered attractive. Like I keep saying, baldness throws a spanner in the works.

I’m 42 and would not give up where I am now to be young again and I had an incredible time in my 20s, but my life is overall more satisfying now. I do hear what you’re saying about balding negatively impacting a persons life and understand your perspective. Hair is very important to you. If you are not a candidate for a transplant how about a system or SMP? My friend, a white male, had SMP in London at 34/35 and his dating life improved hugely, now married to a beautiful and successful women. Correct me if I’m wrong, but are you of a non white ethnicity? If you have tanned or brown skin perhaps SMP could be an excellent route for you to frame your face?

As I said to Feelsbadman, if you want a honest opinion DM me a photo of your hair and I’ll provide unbiased feedback.