EvilLocks
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I am wearing an integration system. It's a net that they attach hair to, and weave it in with my existing hair. It's supposed to be gentle on your bio hair.
Would You Date A Woman Who Wears A Wig?
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I am wearing an integration system. It's a net that they attach hair to, and weave it in with my existing hair. It's supposed to be gentle on your bio hair.
It just seems that way now. After you fall in love with her you won't care so much if she doesn't wear it all the time.
Love does exist.
In the beginning of my most serious relationship the woman was a thin looker at first but after some time she put on some weight. She had
already gotten me attracted to her so it didn't affect sex at all. It's not like she had to re-attract me every second of every day forever. And I was in love with her so leaving her over it didn't even occur to me. I was in love with her so of course I was not turned off by her. I guess you and I are just different or else perhaps you are comparing apples and oranges. You are talking about your father, who I think you felt creepy about, whereas I'm talking about a woman I was in love with and who never made me feel creepy about her. Is it really the same thing or are you comparing apples and oranges.
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EvilLocks
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Ouch
Awe, I guess that's just the harsh reality. Which is why I'll f-cking sew that hair piece onto my head when it's time for me to get it. My (future) man will NEVER see me without it.Ouch
Losing a leg radically changes the way a person looks. If you lost a leg after 15 years of marriage do you think a man that it is in love with you would leave you because you lost your leg? It would certainly surprise him but if he was really in love with you would he actually leave you over it? Would you leave a man that you were married to for 10 years and you were in love with because he lost his hair? I don't think either you or Fred or are being realistic. Yes, it would surprise you to see the change in your spouse of 10 years after he/she lost hair but I don't believe everyone would leave a spouse over it.
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What about all of the women who are not leaving their balding husbands? What about all the men who are not leaving their wives who have put on weight? It is not universal that spouses leave spouses after one loses their hair.
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I am single, nameless, I don't have a husband of 15+ years that would "love me no matter what". Can you at least agree that it would be more difficult for me (or a woman with one leg for that sake) to get a man in the first place, when I'm bald?
Of course I agree that it would be harder for you to get a man in the first place. A lot harder. I think women with significant flaws should be careful and think things through when they select mates.
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shookwun
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I could care less about what happens 10-20 years from now.
I dont mind spending 25,000 on transplants, and products to make me look good while I am young.
It rele is nothing when you think about the time span it buys.
We are essentially buying time, and it's worth it in my books.
Either that or be miserable waiting for a cure.
I don't get a lot of people on this forum! 'spend 10,000 on a transplant and you will still bald'
Yeah, and guess what I just bought myself a good five years of luxury while you bald, and masturbate yourself to sleep every night.
I dont mind spending 25,000 on transplants, and products to make me look good while I am young.
It rele is nothing when you think about the time span it buys.
We are essentially buying time, and it's worth it in my books.
Either that or be miserable waiting for a cure.
I don't get a lot of people on this forum! 'spend 10,000 on a transplant and you will still bald'
Yeah, and guess what I just bought myself a good five years of luxury while you bald, and masturbate yourself to sleep every night.
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It's definitely more difficult, anyone who says otherwise is delusional.
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TRUTH!
Men are kindest to "flawed" women when those men are attracted to those women. I've seen men be cruel to women they were not attracted to. I mean very cruel. When I was in my 20s I knew some other guys in their 20s who had what they called "Pig Parties" where they would invite obese women out and be all lovey dovey with them at the beginning of the date and then take them to one of their homes to say mean things to them, calling them fat and saying really mean stuff to them. Those same guys were sweet as can be to the good looking girls.
It's not a perfect world.
EvilLocks
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Truth.
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I have actually met someone, and he can't stop telling me how beautiful I look. But of course, he only knows the illusion of my now glorious, long mane (thanks to extensions), not the ugly truth beneath it. I wonder if he'll look at me the same if he finds out.
I think it would be a VERY bad idea to tell him the truth early on in a relationship. Sorry but that's what I think.
Of course but I for one never said otherwise. I have actually decided to completely give up on the idea of getting involved with women so that tells you what I think about the odds of getting into a relationship when one is dealing with hair loss. All I said is that if you can get someone to fall in love with you then if they find out later on that you have lost hair they probably won't leave you. I think I'm right. I'm older than most of the posters here and I've seen too many people, scores of them, still together after looks start deteriorating to think otherwise.
My dad lost his hair and my mom loved him big time all while he was alive BUT they got together when he had his hair and they bonded during that period of time, and of course that is not the same as starting a relationship after one of the person has already lost a bunch of hair and I never said it was the same.
From what I've seen, I believe that once two people form a serious bond many relationships can survive hair loss.
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EvilLocks
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I agree. He's not my boyfriend yet though, we're just talking at this stage. We haven't even had sex yet. But I'm not planning on telling him soon, but I fear he might find out when he runs his fingers through "my" hair, and feels the mesh that the extensions are attached to underneath. I don't know what I'm going to do if that happens...
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Its not a big deal... Who cares. Its a big deal to YOU, because YOU know it's not just an accessory to a style but a device to hide your thinning.
A girl I semi-dated back in April had extensions done. That strand by strand stuff that sewed into a mesh. She had her entire hair done. I remember waking up the next day, and her hair was like a rats nest. Apparently she is advised to wear a bathing net before she goes to bed to prevent it from tangling. The next day after we had sex, I was combing and pumping a moisturizer cream in her hair to straighten, and align her extensions out. I could feel the mesh at the very top, but aside from that, when the extensions were all fixed, it looked, and fealt good to stroke my hands through.
Moral is, I didn't care. I never even knew at the time she had them. She wanted a longer style. Cool.... I never even thought about it.
My point is, you care about it, he wont.
And this means that you've gotten yourself into the same situation that Shookwun was in and it was really bothering him when he was in that situation. It bothered me to be in that situation. Shookwun and I both handled the discomfort differently. I haven't had anything to do with women for numerous years whereas Shookwun got a hair transplant.
In my view, if you get romantically involved with people who have their hair you reduce your chances of getting understanding and patience from them. This seems to me like an inescapable reality. Did you give any thought to how bald people might feel about their hair loss BEFORE you started losing your own hair? You wouldn't have any reason to so I don't think you did. Did you give any thought to what balding people have to endure before you lost your own hair? You wouldn't have any reason to think about that stuff so of course you didn't think about that stuff. Before you lost your own hair did you give any thought to the idea that people with their hair should think of bald people as desirable instead of thinking of them as unattractive? Again, you had no reason to think about this stuff because baldness was not in your life. People with hair are not thinking about these things because they don't have any reason to.
I believe that bald people should consider intentionally pinning their romantic dreams on other balding people because that is where they *could* find the most understanding and patience. I think that when balding people select people with hair for mates they make the choice to run a greater risk of rejection, disappointment, and hurt feelings. I think you make choices to risk being hurt and rejected by trying to be with men who have no chance of understanding how you feel.
This is just my opinion and I'm giving you the best advice I can. I know I might be wrong but I do believe that you would have a much better chance of finding patience and understanding if you got together with a balding man who understands what you're going through. I think that you reduce the chances of getting patience and understanding by selecting men who have no real chance of identifying with what you are dealing with. Most minority persons date persons of the same minority for a reason.
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And when we balding guys had our hair we had no problem winning all the time against bald men in the hunt for women. We had no problem with it that the bald guys always lost until we became bald guys. So if we're going to hate women (who have their hair) for being unkind to bald men then we might as well hate ourselves as well. I do agree that a balding woman was not concerned about the hardships of bald people until she herself was balding. I think this can be said of all the bald people today, including balding men. I admit that it can be said of ME. There's no reason for any of us bald guys to hate balding women because we were all the same when we all had our hair.
That aside, I think all balding people, both men and women, should face the reality that they will probably get greater understanding and patience from people who are also balding. They should romantically pair off with each other the same way that most racial minority persons are pairing off with people who are the same minority race as themselves.
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