I Accidentally Found Out My Brother Is Gay And Dont Know What To Do (he Doesnt Know I Know)

[folfoxorack]

About my posts ... they're got deleted because thread has been removed (AntiDHT thread) or I decided to delete some posts because of people like you who cannot stop dislike everything I write on this forum

And about my english level .. yep english is not my first language and I still need to learn, and if I meet someone who cannot speak french like I do I will not mock him/her, because it's stupid.

 

[CaptainForehead]

Something is better than nothing. When you have parents that are fighting, no matter how harshly, there is still hope that the situation can be fixed. Once they have divorced, it's over, and the children will suffer much, much more than if their parents had tried to work it out.

You can't make blanket statements like that.

It depends on the degree of acrimony between the two parents. Constant fighting, constant abuse of one partner by the other, all visible to a young child; I am highly skeptical it's better for the kids than having the two parent live seperately.

Am I anti-gay parenting? I believe all other variable being the same, a hetero couple makes for better parents than gay parents. However the variable variable is huge. There are many many hetero couples who are sh*t parents, and there are excellent gay parents.

I replied to @EvilLocks just because her rebuttal by single anecdote bugged me.

 

[Marky]

I agree. Living separately is indeed better in those cases.

There's some evidence that couples living separately do better than those who live together.

However, getting a divorce or separating is not better. It never is.

I can see it in my family.

Everyone gave up on their marriage except my parents and my mother's parents.

And as I've said, we weren't doing necessarily better.

One time, my father's sister came to break up a fight between my parents and right after my aunt punched my grandfather in the face (half his face was blue the next day) my mother took my aunt by the hair and threw her out, ripping off her hair in the process.

Pretty picture, right? We had periods like these, during which life at home was hell: my father being unemployed, my mom being depressed, me, well, you know. Yet, we worked it out in the end.

All this to say, my parents and maternal grandparents are doing infinitely better than all the members of my family who chose to give up on each other, broken homes with broken kids who'll have to live with that the weight of a failed family on their shoulders for the rest of their lives.

Again, you have to pick your poison. So, I stand by my blanket statement with a little tweak: constant fighting, constant abuse of one partner by the other, all visible to a young child is preferable to:

- A divorce
- Single parenthood
- Gay parents

Why? Because there's still a chance of redemption, there is still hope that the situation can get better, and that's infinitely better than the alternative: irremediable failure and all the tragic consequences that go with it.

Crazy. I can never understand how it's even possible to live under the same roof with someone when you hate your spouse
so much - especially when things resort to domestic violence, I see that as the final straw.

I dislike the lady at work that sits across from me because we've had disagreements on some issues - can't even imagine in the theater
of my mind if I had to live with a person like this.

There must be something extra or special when it comes to marriage to be able to get things back on track.

 

[CaptainForehead]

All this to say, my parents and maternal grandparents are doing infinitely better than all the members of my family who chose to give up on each other, broken homes with broken kids who'll have to live with that the weight of a failed family on their shoulders for the rest of their lives.

And you've had to live with the emotional abuse of your father. Not sure how that is infinitely better.

 

[EvilLocks]

I agree. Living separately is indeed better in those cases.

There's some evidence that couples living separately do better than those who live together.

However, getting a divorce or separating is not better. It never is.

How is living separately different than divorce? It's just formalities, a piece of paper.

So, I stand by my blanket statement with a little tweak: constant fighting, constant abuse of one partner by the other, all visible to a young child is preferable to:

- A divorce
- Single parenthood
- Gay parents

Why? Because there's still a chance of redemption, there is still hope that the situation can get better, and that's infinitely better than the alternative: irremediable failure and all the tragic consequences that go with it.

This is ludacris. Absolute and utter bogus, I don't know what else to say about it. I have no idea how you can actually believe this, but I can see that you really do believe it.

 

[EvilLocks]

I believe it, tragedy, abuse, hardships are part of life, you don't get to run away from them, and you don't get to dodge them (by raising a child on your own for example)

So let's say my boyfriend starts to beat me regularly some time down the road, do I stay in that relationship because I must ''fight for our relationship'', or do I get out of a toxic and dangerous situation as fast as possible?
I know what I would do, and if I had a child I would sure as hell take it with me and protect them at all costs. It's ridiculous to claim one should stay in a marriage no matter what, only for the sake of avoiding ''failure''
To me failure is living a miserable life when you could be living a better life, especially if there are kids involved because they need to be protected and put first.
It seems to me like you view marriage as some unbreakable contract and that it means horrific failure if it ends, whatever the reason must be. Like I said before, marriage to me is ideally something that lasts a lifetime and one should indeed fight for the marriage, but not at whatever cost.

 

[CaptainForehead]

I I was a piece of sh*t to my ex, I treated her like sh*t

How so?

 

[Dench57]

Anyway, if you ever end up in a situation where your boyfriend/husband starts to regularly beat you, at that point you'll have some serious thinking to do. And you'll have to take a good look at yourself because you will be partially responsible for it..

xD

 

[Marky]

I said partially responsible!

Could be 5% / 95% .

As my mother always says: "if a man ever tried to beat me, I would have cut his dick while he was sleeping!"

How come no man ever laid a hand on her is a mystery...

Being naive or a pushover is not a virtue.

Allowing yourself to become someone else's punching bag should make you think hard.

I don't see what's funny about that, but I can totally see why it would make you smile .

Yeah true - but sometimes "turning the other cheek" works too, as my faith teaches, and I'm not talking butt cheek and a*** here
you dirty dog.

My colleague who sits across from me got upset with me over a trivial matter and I asked her "are you serious" - she turns to me and
says "look atch my face how sherious it is" - yep she really talks like that. Only days after her face starting twitching and it hasn't stopped
in several months if not longer.

True story no matter how insane that sounds, her eye brows jump up and down all day then a bit of left lip and cheek twitch. I peek over my computer screen to see if they're still going and they always are. Then googling what the heck can that be?!

 

[DoctorHouse]

Bravo to Fred again, exactly the stuff I've been meaning to post but hard typing from a smartphone while semi-vacationing on the weekend.

I'll also add I've taken a lot of heat over the years not getting married - but where is the incentive when 50% of marriages end in divorce and
ruin peoples lives in more ways that is ever seen on the surface. Then from the observations I've made and the things married couples
tell me I'd say another 25% of marriages are miserable as hell. That only leaves 25% of marriages which are pretty good and sound, not perfect but doable. This means you have 1 in 4 chance in picking the right partner - pretty crappy odds. Thank God in my 20's and 30's
things didn't work out with some of the girls I was in "love" with - looking back now I'm sure I would have ended up in the bad side of the 75 percentile.

Marriage is not for everyone but the fact that divorce is so common and accepting these days, people know marriage no longer has to be for better or worse. If it's worse, you just end it. Being married or a widower will give you an advantage in the dating world if you become single. Most divorced women or widowers tend to like to date divorced men or widowers. Having never been married can actually handicap your dating if you are over 35 with women who are divorced or widowers. Of course exceptions will exist. I wonder what the divorce rate is amongst same sex marriages? Is it the same?

 

[rclark]

You're not really polite and you're homophobic, not good at all.

Well, you're right about the first part of that sentence.

No you dumb f*****g stupid in bred troll, I'm not homophobic, and I NEVER will be. Coming
from a member who TROLLS one of my LGBT friends, who are STILL members of this board,
as well as dislikes posts AFTER six months have already gone back, you better believe I'm going to RUDE.

Normally this would be funny, but we both know who the other person you trolled is, you worthless
piece of sh*t.

I don't have issues with Marky, WhitePolarBear, or anybody else who disagrees with me. In fact, I never
had issues with people who gave me dislikes in the past.

And I don't troll back people who give me dislikes. JeanLucBB gave me a lot of dislikes. But don't give me dislikes because you're an IDIOTIC TROLL.

@folfoxorack, you are the same "privileged idiot" you were born, and
will always be. You are the f*****g DUMBEST f*****g troll on this board. And you even have an idiotic userid, which nobody could memorize if they posted ten messages in three years.

I've wasted too much time on you, you stupid idiotic troll. Go f*** yourself.

Keep disliking all my posts a**h**, I DON'T CARE. You're so stupid.

If that's NOT TRANSPARENT at this point, you'll never learn.

I'll show you how to tie your shoes, and give you GRAPHICS for that.

You probably need a GPS to go to the bathroom, stupid f*****g in breed.

 

[folfoxorack]

Take your pills, and go to bed ... you're really crazy
I think you really have mental issues to react like that. Really you're not ok in your head :/

Folfoxorack is from a treatment I had, chemotherapy ... indeed I was not really inspired but it I never claimed it was the best userid.

"Keep disliking all my posts a**h**" ... Keep that advice for you ... -_-
And I wont dislike all your posts, take too much time, just some because you're mad because of that

 

[rclark]

About my posts ... they're got deleted because thread has been removed (AntiDHT thread) or I decided to delete some posts because of people like you who cannot stop dislike everything I write on this forum

And about my english level .. yep english is not my first language and I still need to learn, and if I meet someone who cannot speak french like I do I will not mock him/her, because it's stupid.

You gave me lots of dislikes before I made that comment about your English. Lots of them. And my
friend as well.

You can't be Antydhor, because I've always said good things about him.

And you keep on doing this to me. You did this before my comment because you are a lying hypocrite.

Let me give you a userid you should pick: Obrázky pro dotaz

 

[folfoxorack]

I'm not Antidhtor ... I never said that. You're acting again like an idiot and a liar. Please stop with your childish attitude and try to be a bit more mature ... just try.
I'm done with you, find someone else to bother.

And I dont mind if you think, and you're absolutely right about that, my english is mediocre. Yeah I know that and I don't have a problem being a newbie in english and I didn't dislike some of your posts because you said something about my english low-skills ... because again you're right about that.
Bye bye

 

[hanginginthewire]

It must be quite something to have the world all figured out before your 30th birthday. #whitepolarbear #stillachild

 

[rclark]

I'm not Antidhtor ... I never said that. You're acting again like an idiot and a liar. Please stop with your childish attitude and try to be a bit more mature ... just try.
I'm done with you, find someone else to bother.

And I dont mind if you think, and you're absolutely right about that, my english is mediocre. Yeah I know that and I don't have a problem being a newbie in english and I didn't dislike some of your posts because you said something about my english low-skills ... because again you're right about that.
Bye bye

Let me know when you have over forty posts, and become relevant . Then we can fight it out, online
of course.

Childish is giving someone dislikes because you don't like them. And you've been doing this
for a long time.

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   Friday at 10:25 PM
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   Friday at 10:25 PM
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[folfoxorack]

 

[rclark]

I never have to yawn looking at your entire post collection.

You only have seventeen.

 

[folfoxorack]

To conclude.

You (rclark) : I have more messages than you ! I'm the best I'm the boss, a keyboard warrior, I love me and I speak english very good

Me : I don't give a f*** ... bye

 

[rclark]

@folfoxorack the Incel:

À croire que le RU d'Anagen est de la merde ... en tout cas celui de mes 2 dernières commandes.
Perso je préfère laisser tomber et rester sur un traitement qui marche sur moi depuis des années.
J'ai repris l'avodart. J'espère récupérer tout ce que j'ai perdu ... sinon je sais pas comment je vais vivre avec cette nouvelle tête ... Là je ne vis plus.
J'ai été bête de suivre ce traitement, que je regrette.
Donc les autres, si vous avez un traitement qui fonctionne, restez sur ce traitement et ne tentez pas le diable.